I met this girl on Friday night, we talked for a long time and everything was going good. I got her number and called her on Sunday night. She sounded terrible. She told me she was really sick and so we talked for like two minutes and I let her go. She told me she'll call me when she feels better and that she can't talk much right now cause she was sick. So today (Monday) I never heard from her. I sent a text late tonight saying "Hope you are feeling better". Thought she would call me but she immediately text me saying "I am". Then a second text saying "Thank you". I never replied after this. I was expecting at least her saying how are you? or something. Showed me no interest. Should I write it off and move on? Or should I call her towards the weekend and ask her out? Thanks. Never got to ask her out in my brief conversation on Sunday night.
Is she not interested? What's the next move?
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Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Tell us more about the night you met her.
Where were you guys at? A bar? Dinner? A friend's house?
What signs of interest was she showing you?
Did you touch her? Was she comfortable with it?
What was the conversation centered around? Were you flirting or just talking to her about the general "what do you do?" etc?
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With all that said, I'd say my gut feeling is she has low interest in you. Reason I say that is you two talk for "a long time." Now this isn't always a bad thing as most people think, but chances are if your not a good conversationalist that things probably got a little dull at some point. That's why its so key to flirt and stir up some emotions in the target and then make your way around the crowd and interact with other people equally.
Secondly, anytime a woman says "I'll call you" its usually their non verbal way of not rejecting you to your face. And we all know woman hate turning guys down to their face, so they just try to disappear.
However all is not lost yet here. I'd wait til Thursday or later and give her one last call. If she answers; catch up with her real quick and stir up some good vibes, then if things are going well ask her out.
However if she doesn't seem receptive or worse yet she doesn't answer... delete her number and move on.
PIMP
Where were you guys at? A bar? Dinner? A friend's house?
What signs of interest was she showing you?
Did you touch her? Was she comfortable with it?
What was the conversation centered around? Were you flirting or just talking to her about the general "what do you do?" etc?
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With all that said, I'd say my gut feeling is she has low interest in you. Reason I say that is you two talk for "a long time." Now this isn't always a bad thing as most people think, but chances are if your not a good conversationalist that things probably got a little dull at some point. That's why its so key to flirt and stir up some emotions in the target and then make your way around the crowd and interact with other people equally.
Secondly, anytime a woman says "I'll call you" its usually their non verbal way of not rejecting you to your face. And we all know woman hate turning guys down to their face, so they just try to disappear.
However all is not lost yet here. I'd wait til Thursday or later and give her one last call. If she answers; catch up with her real quick and stir up some good vibes, then if things are going well ask her out.
However if she doesn't seem receptive or worse yet she doesn't answer... delete her number and move on.
PIMP
Hey pimp,
She was actualy making me touch her. Taking my hands and making her feel her abs and legs and stuff (we were talking about working out). Our conversations were just getting to know each other and everyday stuff. I flirted with her a couple times telling her how good she looks. I even walked her to her place. Hugged her and said I would call her. It was bar and we met through friends.
She was actualy making me touch her. Taking my hands and making her feel her abs and legs and stuff (we were talking about working out). Our conversations were just getting to know each other and everyday stuff. I flirted with her a couple times telling her how good she looks. I even walked her to her place. Hugged her and said I would call her. It was bar and we met through friends.
So today, early very early this morning I get a text saying "hello how are you" I see it a little later and say "Good morning, just saw your text". And nothing...............What the hell is this about? Not one other text. Is this chick playing games? Would you call this girl or write her off?
And you wonder why she is showing a lack of interest now? what more does she have to do for you to act like a man?Falcon25 said:
brother if a girl takes your own hand and makes you touch her body it means she is not only comfortable with you/likes you/ but wants to see your reaction to see what kind of a man you are. You gotta pay attention to the hints women give you and act on them. I remember a long time ago I went on a date and the girl put her leg over mine (one of the clearest signal a woman can give you that she wants it) the second we sat down together. Me being silly at the time it took me like 5 minutes to figure out she was ready for some action. I did not disappoint at the end after I got the hint.
It really doesn't matter what the situation is no girl is going to make a man touch her body unless she is really comfortable with him/wanting some action. She probably thinks you are a nice guy now and lost interest which is what happens when you don't show a girl that you are a sexual being.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Falcon25 said:
How did you react to her grabbing your hand and making you feel her mid-section? Did you tease her? Did you compliment her? This was the PERFECT opportunity for you to take charge and amplify the attraction. You could have made her feel your body after, you could've teased her, etc.
You flirted with her by telling her how good she looks? That's not flirting my friend, that's flattery which she has heard plenty of if she's hot.
To be honest you handled this whole night like a wussy. Not trying to be mean and I'm not saying you should've been up in her apartment fuvking her, but CLEARLY she's attracted to you. Now its up to you to do something about it. Don't be scared, she's already giving you the green lights, now its up to you to drive through the light bro!
Ever heard of the phrase "be the prize" or "be a challenge?" Well if your not familiar with those two phrases, look up up they're in the DJ Bible. Now if you do know what those two phrases already mean, then you should know where your going wrong.
Bottom line: The physical attraction is there bro; that's the only reason your still alive in this situation; but if you don't know how to build on that attraction you'll lose her quick.
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And regarding the texting. Generally its good not to respond RIGHT AWAY, but you should mix it up. Sometimes respond right away and sometimes don't respond at all. The text you sent today; you didn't ask her any questions at all, you simply said "just saw your text." There's really nothing left for her to say after that, especially if you waited more than an hour to respond.
You need to ask her out for a 1 on 1 date, if she agrees your still in the game and you can dig yourself out of this whole; if she doesn't agree then you can move on and stop wondering.
PIMP
I called tonight and she said "who is this?" She said she would call me right back, she never did. I don't think you guys understand what happened here. That night I did try but she quickly escaped by saying she has to go to bed. Today I found out that some dude sent her a valentine gift. My buddy thinks she has someone.