Is she not interested? Am I over analyzing this?

[Syrio]

So I asked this girl from work out to get drinks 6 days ago, after work. She was busy (which I know was true) and couldn't go but she seemed kind of excited when I asked her and she said she wanted to do it another time. I probably should have rescheduled right then and there but I didn't. Anyway, I just invited her out again today and here's how it went basically:

ME: "Hey lets get drinks this week"
HB: "Sure" (She seemed very unenthusiastic this time, and barely even looked at me when she said this. She just glanced at me over her shoulder)
ME: "What days are good for you?"
HB: (after like a 15 second or so pause, thinking) "Maybe Wednesday?"
ME: (at this point, I'm feeling pretty awkward and it kind of seems to me like she really doesn't want to do it) "Alright sounds good. I'm going to head home, see you tomorrow."

It seems to me like this means she is not comfortable with the idea of getting drinks with me and has a low interest level. However, pretty much all of our other interactions are very playful/flirty and based on everything else, she seems kind of like she's interested. When I asked her out the first time, she seemed like she genuinely wanted to do it another time and went out of her way to express this.

Should I just next this girl or am I over analyzing this? Could she have just been in a bad mood?

You can be brutally honest... If I'm being stupid, tell me lol

Thanks

 

[Brosy]

Honestly, unless she or you (or both of you) are temps, this will probably not end well.

I know it's hard to remember the "don't sh!t where you eat" rule in the heat of the moment, but it almost always turns bad sooner or later.

Perhaps she's had this exact same talk between the 2 times you asked her out?

 

[Syrio]

Honestly, unless she or you (or both of you) are temps, this will probably not end well.

I know it's hard to remember the "don't sh!t where you eat" rule in the heat of the moment, but it almost always turns bad sooner or later.

Perhaps she's had this exact same talk between the 2 times you asked her out?

As it turns out we are both temps actually... but yeah idk maybe she did have that conversation. I'm just kind of baffled in general at this whole situation. I'm pretty bad at understanding the subtleties behind these kinds of things and I just can't tell if she is interested or not. Right now I really feel like she's not but I feel like when I see her tomorrow it's probably going to be back to our standard flirty/playful interactions.

 

[Zarky]

She ain't interested.

Also, don't bang chicks at work, unless you hate the job. that should be a sticky

/thread

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Yeah, she has low interest, I agree with what the fellows said already. You can try one more time, but do it playful, and without putting too much stock on the outcome. Be fun, funny, but not demanding.

"Hey, so what time are you taking me for drinks?" and don't stare at her waiting for a response, just do what she did, while doing other stuff or looking at other things. nonchalant. AT least this will give you closure; if not, just don't worry about this one.

 

[TheException]

She ain't interested.
Yeah, she has low interest

Im actually not going to jump on this train quite yet^


She could have just been in a bad mood or been distracted. Its tough to tell from the limited info man....bottom line is you SHOULD NOT have said this:

ME: (at this point, I'm feeling pretty awkward and it kind of seems to me like she really doesn't want to do it) "Alright sounds good. I'm going to head home, see you tomorrow."


And I know its easier said than done...but you shouldnt be feeling awkward. The problem with "alright sounds good", is that its not definite. She said MAYBE. Now its out in the open and not a solid and definite date. Id actually play it cool and wouldnt broach the subject until she brings it up now. She goes on the backburner and you should find other potential plates. For future reference when somebody says something lame like:

HB: Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh maybe wednesday

Say:

DonJuan: You know what......you sound busy. Whenever you figure out your schedule text me.

Then you walk and wait. It will allow you to judge her interest level in you depending upon whether she contacts you or not.

 

[TheGambino]

Dude go for it, set up the date, flirt more, make her laugh use kino and go for the kiss. no1 can stop u and if she rejects just laugh and move on, ignore your feelings and spin more plates. It will go well if u believe in it, im certain. if she feels your not confident, there will be a bigger chance that u get rejected but she gave u enough signs to let you take her out and rock her evening !

 

[Syrio]

She ain't interested.
Yeah, she has low interest

Im actually not going to jump on this train quite yet^


She could have just been in a bad mood or been distracted. Its tough to tell from the limited info man....bottom line is you SHOULD NOT have said this:

ME: (at this point, I'm feeling pretty awkward and it kind of seems to me like she really doesn't want to do it) "Alright sounds good. I'm going to head home, see you tomorrow."


And I know its easier said than done...but you shouldnt be feeling awkward. The problem with "alright sounds good", is that its not definite. She said MAYBE. Now its out in the open and not a solid and definite date. Id actually play it cool and wouldnt broach the subject until she brings it up now. She goes on the backburner and you should find other potential plates. For future reference when somebody says something lame like:

HB: Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh maybe wednesday

Say:

DonJuan: You know what......you sound busy. Whenever you figure out your schedule text me.

Then you walk and wait. It will allow you to judge her interest level in you depending upon whether she contacts you or not.

Yeah that makes sense, I guess you're right - I probably should have said something else. I'll probably take your advice and not bring the subject up again. I'll wait and see if she does. Thanks for your input, seems like solid advice!

Dude go for it, set up the date, flirt more, make her laugh use kino and go for the kiss. no1 can stop u and if she rejects just laugh and move on, ignore your feelings and spin more plates. It will go well if u believe in it, im certain. if she feels your not confident, there will be a bigger chance that u get rejected but she gave u enough signs to let you take her out and rock her evening !

Haha that's an admirable mentality. I really should strive to think about it that way. I suppose, especially considering it's a temp job, that you're right - I've got nothing to lose. Thanks for the advice!

 

[nismo-4]

Women who are interested in you won't confuse you.

She's not interested. Read the signs. Your princess is in another castle. Drop this girl.

Case closed. Exit the courtroom.

 

[BeDJ]

For future reference, whether it is a call, text or face to face. GET THE COMMITMENT.

You: What days are good for you?
HB: Maybe Wednesday?
You: What time?

Notice how she specifically said Wednesday, meaning that doesn't have plans for Wednesday. YOU have to secure that meeting. If she is still being indecisive, don't be afraid to call her out on it.

Put her in a position where she has to give you a definitive answer, YES or NO. This cuts out any bullsh!t she will give you and lets you know exactly where you stand with her.

Text her NOW.
You: See you Wednesday at 6PM
HB: Where?
You: So 6 works for you?

On her mind, she is thinking 'where?' That should get a response from her. GET THE COMMITMENT.

 

[TheGambino]

If you just -ignore- your feelings, if your certain that she can't damage your feelings or game then you should go for the date, be a true don juan and it will go well im sure !

If she flakes or rejects just move on. You experienced a new lesson, spin more plates, just eliminate that feeling like shes special and you can move on without problems, you can do that by spinning more plates and having lots of options. She will feel that you don't care, that you got options and that you are confident and she see you as a loss and hunt you, if not no problem you already forgot her..