Is she crazy?

[Mex]

Okay, so I met this girl a couple weeks ago online, we went out, banged, blah blah. Now yesterday, she came over to cook dinner for me and the chick drama started. Before coming to my place she kissed me in public, you know open mouth and multiple bites. I backed off and told her to keep it to simple peck. Then I told her I dont like PDA...I really dont. She did not say anything, and I didnt notice her being upset.

Later that night when we were eating her EXCELLENT FOOD, she got upset and started crying. I had no clue WTF was going on, and she tolde me she was upset about the PDA thing. She said her ex used to say the same thing, blah blah, and it made her feel unimportant. She said she agrees that PDA is annoying when other people do it, but she couldnt control her emotions. I am not sure if she is over her ex or not. She said she is, but she doesnt want to go through the same stuff he put her through blah blah.

Anyway, then she says maybe we shouldnt see each other since she doesnt want to have outbursts in front of me anymore. Of course I agreed and told her I am not gonna put up with that kind of stuff. Then she stays upset and finished eating. Then she drinks almost a half a bottle of wine and gets happy.

Before leaving, she then says for me to call her this weekend if I want to have fun. I said I already had plans with my friends (which I kind of do). I told her to call me when the alcohol wears off so she can figure out what her deal is. Then she called me later that night when I was falling asleep, and asked if I made that up about having plans with my friends. She wanted to know if I was making an excuse because she acted stupid earlier. I told her that I really did have plans, but that maybe she should figure out what her deal is before we see each other again anyway.

Input on this chick please! Is she a drama case?

 

[Sinistar]

Okay, so I met this girl a couple weeks ago online, we went out, banged, blah blah. Now yesterday, she came over to cook dinner for me and the chick drama started. Before coming to my place she kissed me in public, you know open mouth and multiple bites. I backed off and told her to keep it to simple peck. Then I told her I dont like PDA...I really dont. She did not say anything, and I didnt notice her being upset.

Later that night when we were eating her EXCELLENT FOOD, she got upset and started crying. I had no clue WTF was going on, and she tolde me she was upset about the PDA thing. She said her ex used to say the same thing, blah blah, and it made her feel unimportant. She said she agrees that PDA is annoying when other people do it, but she couldnt control her emotions. I am not sure if she is over her ex or not. She said she is, but she doesnt want to go through the same stuff he put her through blah blah.

Anyway, then she says maybe we shouldnt see each other since she doesnt want to have outbursts in front of me anymore. Of course I agreed and told her I am not gonna put up with that kind of stuff. Then she stays upset and finished eating. Then she drinks almost a half a bottle of wine and gets happy.

Before leaving, she then says for me to call her this weekend if I want to have fun. I said I already had plans with my friends (which I kind of do). I told her to call me when the alcohol wears off so she can figure out what her deal is. Then she called me later that night when I was falling asleep, and asked if I made that up about having plans with my friends. She wanted to know if I was making an excuse because she acted stupid earlier. I told her that I really did have plans, but that maybe she should figure out what her deal is before we see each other again anyway.

Input on this chick please! Is she a drama case?

Yes.

 

[jophil28]

Then she called me later that night when I was falling asleep, and asked if I made that up about having plans with my friends. She wanted to know if I was making an excuse because she acted stupid earlier. I told her that I really did have plans, but that maybe she should figure out what her deal is before we see each other again anyway.

Input on this chick please! Is she a drama case?

" Drama case ? " The greatest truth is in their behavior.

 

[Colossus]

Yes.

 

[Mex]

Well, thanks for the predictions on whther she is crazy, we should start a futures market on predicting crazy chicks somewhere...hahaha! Sinistar, jophil28, and Colossus would have just got paid $$.

She called today - twice - confirming their predictions, and I cut her off.

Cheers!

 

[Drewskie]

Just had to read the thread title.......... yes.

 

[Mex]

Thanks Pugsley. I am not serious though, and I told her that I did not want to be serious from the beginning so she was aware this. I dont want to help fix her problems, especially after knowing her for just over 1 week. Anyway, that book sounds interesting and maybe I will have a look just for my own knowledge. Thanks!

 

[amoka]

Mex met chick ONLINE --> BANGED chick --> Chick started showing PDA --> Mex dislike PDA with chicks --> Chick came over, cooked, then started CRYING for no reason. --->Reason?, Mex did not like chick showing PDA ( which happened awhile back) --> Chick Consumed 0.5 bottle of Wine and was HAPPY like a butterfly.

The question is, is the chick crazy or craving(for alcohol?) or both. Either way, run for your life.

 

[vitor]

Call me weird but a chick you found online and slept with likes you and wants to kiss and hold hands in public. Either
A. She is not good looking?
B. You feel that people will see you two together kissing and you want be able to mack chicks?

I guess to me this is a good thing she likes you, wants to kiss you and touch you often, and cook you dinner. All things that are great in my mind. If you are worried about others seeing you because you are dating other girls that makes perfect sense, but otherwise what the hell?

I don't think shes crazy i just think she a bit clingy a giver and equates you liking her by touch kissing and ****ing.

 

[Mex]

Call me weird but a chick you found online and slept with likes you and wants to kiss and hold hands in public. Either
A. She is not good looking?
B. You feel that people will see you two together kissing and you want be able to mack chicks?

I guess to me this is a good thing she likes you, wants to kiss you and touch you often, and cook you dinner. All things that are great in my mind. If you are worried about others seeing you because you are dating other girls that makes perfect sense, but otherwise what the hell?

I don't think shes crazy i just think she a bit clingy a giver and equates you liking her by touch kissing and ****ing.

This is a good point vitor. But the thing is, she just started crying. She could have easily just told me it bothers her that I feel that way about PDA, but you have to admit that just flat out crying is weird on the second date, regardless of whether we slept together or not. In fact, thats part of why I posted the question, sine I agree that she has a right to fell differently about PDA, but the way she handled it seemed crazy. I mean, she must have some other issues to react like that.

Now as far as the PDA thing itself, I have nothing to hide, and she is attractive, I just dont like to do it because I think it is rude. I am ok with holding hands, hugging, and little pecks for kisses, but there is just no need for flat out groping and french kissing when people are around.

 

[scrouds]

I recommend you keep this crazy dramabittch around so you can continue to post stories for our entertainment.

 

[DavenJuan]

If her behavour is "unexplainable", is it something you want to pursue?

 

[Mex]

Actually, the day after we had the dinner, she called again to apologize. But then she said she wanted to get together on the weekend (last weekend now) to watch a movie. I said I was going out with friends. Then she wanted me to invite her along. I just told her she was moving too fast and I could not just wanted to hang with friends. She says she would have invited me, and that this means I am not serious about her. I told her of course not since we have only known each other for less than weeks or so. Then she said she would not have sex with me until we labeled ourselves as bf and gf, and I said I was not ready for a label. So long story short, I havent spoken to her since that day, and I am not sure if the sex will be worth the baggage at this point.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Here are the rules for dealing with a spontaneously crying woman:

Don’t worry about why she is crying. It doesn’t matter if it was something you did, or if it had nothing to do with you, your reaction should be the same either way. That reaction is warm, nonverbal reassurance. Don’t say a word. Odds are you will say something to worsen her erratic emotional state.

If you suspect that the cause of her tears is something you did, you should let her express those reasons on her own time. Don’t try and pry the reason from her.
Give her a glass of water or wine while she is crying. If she refuses the drink, don’t loiter questioningly. Simply put her drink down on the counter and go about enjoying your drink. Do not pull the beta-chump shoulder grab maneuver.

For the love of god, DON’T PLEAD WITH HER TO COMMUNICATE HER FEELINGS. This goes against everything that every women’s magazine and self-help relationship book says, but the truth is that there’s nothing a woman despises more than a mealy-mouthed sensitive chump playing new age psychotherapist.

After a good cry a woman will often feel closer to you than ever. Crying is a form of stress relief similar to exercise. It releases many of the same hormones and endorphins that relieve stress.

SH!T TEST ALERT

Then she said she would not have sex with me until we labeled ourselves as bf and gf, and I said I was not ready for a label.

Don't take the beta-bait. This one shows all the signs of being insane, but just on general principle, NEVER comply with this test as it ALWAYS casts you into a role of qualified submission and set the frame firmly in her hands for the duration of any LTR you might have. Any decision to commit to an LTR should always be on YOUR terms, not an act of surrender to her sexual blackmail. In fact any woman who would deliver such an ultimatum should categorically be an automatic NEXT. This is indicative of a woman who A.) would overtly use sex as behavioral leverage, and B.) a woman who's lost genuine sexual desire for you. If you comply with her demands, any subsequent sex will always have an asterisk beside it - there will always be a doubt associated with her real sexual impulse.