Is she coming back for what reason???

[Meisterman]

A while back I told an old high school friend that I had feelings for her. As expected, she "took the money and run" so to speak, dating some other douchebag who isn't 1/10th the man I am. The thing is, back then (2 years ago) I was a scrawny dude with basically no goals or ambitions in life. Since then I have become a pretty good break-dancer, a lyricist, gained noticeable muscle mass, and been seen with other girls around her at a bar we both frequent. Then it gets interesting, because last march I was flirting with another girl, 3 years older than her. We left briefly to go get tacos and came back, being all touchy/flirty/sharing the same drinks etc... she was noticeably jealous, noticeably watching me the entire time. A week prior she followed me around asking I was being weird when I was intentionally avoiding her, and I swear on my life she even took a picture of me in the dark with her camera flash when she approached me doing so (she was trying to be stealth but I noticed). Then 2 weeks later I was with friends chatting and she came up, sat next to me at the bar and ordered the same shot (watermelon vodka) that we were drinking. I didn't say anything to her, but she also told a mutual friend that she came to the bar to see "a friend." The girl implied that friend was me, even going as far as to ask if I was her boyfriend. Julie (the mutual friend) would always ask me about her when I'm around, yet I never mentioned the girl to her so it was obvious they were talking to each other about me.

She is the type of girl to take attention and use it against you. A nice guy crusher so to speak, always dated the worst people imaginable but still seems to have some high traits herself, although chronically low self esteem. She stares at me every time I see her even though it's been a couple months. Part of me thinks she just misses the attention (which I'm not going to give her again) but then it seems her feelings have changed in the past year a lot.

I plan to just keep playing it cool and focusing on working out and on my bboy (breakdancing) and being openly social with people like I usually am. It drives her nuts when she sees me talk to other girls, yet even though in the past she rejected me, clearly I am feeling the tables have turned (or at least mostly have) and things are different. I still have some feelings for her, yet I know if I exposed the "weak, nice guy" within myself it would shatter my esteem in a minute as soon as she used it and went away like an ego boost thinking I still care about her. So I guess my question is how to approach the situation when the times come (and I know it will because we go to the same bar a lot as I said) and she approaches me. I won't talk to her first, but she's not the type of girl to let things go easily. I know the things I said to her really got to her but that was a couple years ago and I'm a much more manly, self-driven individual, and it shows. Now when 2 years ago I was the loner going places alone and with few friends, she frequents the bar alone even though she has a boyfriend they're never together and also I saw her on tinder so I am not even sure they are still together but I know they were living together. I think she's moving on from her past and looking for a rebound, perhaps coming back to me, but for attention or something more? And how to be sure, obviously I ain't gonna take the ole bait and have her run with the satisfaction that I still care. As I said, she goes for the bad boys, never been a nice guy gal.

 

[Fruitbat]

A break dancer and a lyricist? Is this 8-mile?

If there is this much doubt, this much justification in your own mind about how you are "better" and worthy, fvck this ho dude. There are many more out there who will be all over you. You'll never be yourself with her. Who wants that?

 

[ManlyMichael]

This stuff happens to every man.

Part of being a man and outclassing woman is this...

You realize woman don't meet up to your expectation

You see her doing wrong and she wants you, but your not even attracted because of her poor attitude, now if you give in and let her have the sex she wants, she will never change, but if you keep her starved from sex and keep things interesting between you two, she will change slowly.

But realize this, woman hate admitting defeat, not like a man who can sit and see clearly when he got it wrong, no no no no

A woman will fight until she is in the most pathetic and miserable position, then fight a little more and beg you to help .... don't you dare let the nice guy come out and enslave yourself to help her how she wants, you now have the opportunity to control her verbally at that point. Later on when you got her doing whatever you need her to do, give her what she wants and you two should be on good terms from there on out..... this all rely on you not giving her the prize until she earns it. Don't put yourself on clearance sale bro, not even on sale, mark up your price tag and increase the value of your nuts

 

[marmel75]

Instead of talking trash about this dude and self proclaiming your status that apparently only you believe, maybe you should figure out what he is doing that you are not.

Because she obviously feels he is much more of a man than you are and confirms this every time she gets her pvssy torn apart by him while you are sitting here writing novella forum posts about her.

 

[wifehunter]

She's trash...if she rejected you, then gets jealous?