Is She blowing me off or just playing hard to get?

[Badmannaz]

i meet this new girl last week at my school's cafeteria and she was the one who approached me...she told me to give her my number after we talked for awhile...she never called me and 4 days past...next time i saw her i didn't mention it. i was chill about it...she said again "im gonna call you so we can do something" 3 more days past and she doesn't call so the next time i see her we talked...it went something like this


hb8:hey?!!!(she seemed excited to see me)

BM: Hey (non-chalant attitude)

hb8: i called you last night you didn't awnser

BM: no you didn't (she really didn't)

hb8: well anyway what class you got right now?

*friend interrupts and starts talking about the basketball game we had the other day*

HB8: Hello?!!

*at this time i'm paying no attention to her at all not acknowleding her*

HB8: HEY!!

BM: (giggling) what? damn!!

Hb8: you play too much!! i don't even like you anymore (in a joking mad way)

BM: oh you don't like me now huh? well das cool i guess i gotta move on... (in a joking way)

*i then go eat with my friends*

After i eat i look across at her (she's sitting on the table infront of us)

BM:give me your number (I said this in a sexy serious way)

she in a sec gives me her number

I call her 2 days later and we are vibing big time.. It was like 12am in the morning...she then said that she was going downstairs to get something from her lobby and that i better awnser the phone when she gets back..

she never called back...

The interest level seems kinda HIGH and i already have another girl i'm about to date but i find this girl more attractive in body and personality... so what i want to know is-is she blowing me off? or just being a AW... I don't know what to think right now...girls play crazy games. what would you do in this situation?

 

[Badmannaz]

i really think she's testing me too

she told me she had no boyfriend..

 

[chuchu]

wtf? how can you deal with that shiet man?

 

[grr]

You're at a transitional phase where she's either A) Awesome or B) Total ****. I'm leaning to B. You should do something together to decide whether she's worth your time.

 

[Rex Man]

I say call her on her sh!t. If you're about to move on anyway, just say 'i'm going to (place) on fri. You should come with me.

If she does, good.
If she doesn't, good.


and remember,

Shoot 'er Down

 

[Badmannaz]

Originally posted by Rex Man
I say call her on her sh!t. If you're about to move on anyway, just say 'i'm going to (place) on fri. You should come with me.

If she does, good.
If she doesn't, good.


and remember,

Shoot 'er Down

i'm thinking of doing that...
im into her but right now i'm focusing on school work and getting my body in BODYBUILDER shape...so calling her on her sh* is probably right...IDK SHOULD I CALL HER TONIGHT?

 

[Rex Man]

You're not doing anything else

 

[tmpgstx]

She's an AW.

Don't call her. You'll only create yourself more frustration. By not calling you back was dis-respecting you - games or not.

Something tells me you're not the only guy at this time she's doing this too. She likely has her own little fan club.

 

[n00bPimp]

Same bull**** is happening to me. She shows a lot of interest (likes to grab my hands, touches me a lot, laughs at my jokes, always wants to chill) but doesnt look for me that much. She's always telling me how she wants to come cook for me, how we should do this and that, and when its time to do it she cant be reached. Confusses the **** out me. I think people like them just say stuff you want to hear maybe just to seem cool people or be accepted (maybe to hide their lack of self-esteem?), but they get out of the friendly mood once they leave. It is also possible they see you as such a good person that they feel like they have to do and say things to please you in order to "pay you back", in which case you need to treat them like crap so they start seeing you as a bad guy and will quit saying crap they don't mean.

 

[Gonzalo]

Dude, why are you allowing her to be in the position where she takes the shots?

She asks YOU for your number, and you don't get hers... what are you, a girl? Cause waiting for her call, kinda puts you in the role of the girl. At least later on you finally got hers.

Then she says 'lemme get back at you in a sec' and you are all happy-yay waiting for her (whether you were waiting next to the phone or not is irrelevant, in reality you WERE waiting).

What's the solution? Bring her to your reality and play by YOUR rules. She asks for your number, you at least get hers. She says "I'll call you back", you say "I'm about to start something, let ME call you back later". Simple, and you gain control of things. Take action, brother, one thing is to be laid back, other to be passive.

 

[aix237]

You can take this advice if you want. I have had a lot experience with a girl that sounds like yours. Thats true you are probably not the only one shes doing this too. She probably has some isssues and/or low self esteem. So what you have to do is seperate yourself from those other chumps. Theyre probably thinking the same thing you are. First, when she does that sh1t llike ill call you in 5 minutes and doesnt DO NOT CALL HER cause you look like a desperate fvck like all the other guys. if she calls back like 1 hour later say i dont appreciate being disrespected like that then shell say some excuse and just say your full of sh1t or just call her back the next day basically condition her. if she does it dont reward by chasing her cause thats what she wants. basically call her on bs that she tries to pull shell deny it but she really knows what shes doing. if she want to do something say no to her sometimes. she probably wont talk to you for a little but shell call back. The point im trying to make is girls like this have chumps wrapped around her finger all the time. You have to be that guy that says oh well you dont want to talk to me then fine i dont give a fvck. the person that cares less always wins. Look she cares less about you and shes winning. These girls want you to have low self esteem cause they do and they do that sh!t to you by saying one thing and doing another. Just remember care less and if she doesnt wnat to talk say fine and if she does say fine but call her on her sh!t. Let her initiate everything espically in the beginning only call her back when she calls never call her first.

 

[ScrewIt]

Bro...this girl got issues. i agree with everyone here.

There's this acquantance i keep in contact with every blue moon.
After not talking to her for so long i contact her. i suggested a get together and said she'd call me the next day. Calls me up in the afternoon that day making up some BS that i said i was supposed to call her. i reply, "no, you said you were gonna call me."

After this im pretty sure every girl has something in their head that's fvcked up.

I think a lot of times they play hard to get w/o realizing when in fact their insecurities are deeper than their logic realizes.

It's funny, when a girl likes you and plays this game. and you treat her like shyt, she keeps coming back for more.

 

[Badmannaz]

yea thanx all, i wasn't planning on calling her instead i was gaming another girl today....that i plan on getting w/ i've actually forgotten her...i've now tooken on the mind-set as "you want me" if you don' t want me...your not slowing me down...i'll call her on her bull..and get straight to the point

"so wassup?...why you playin games i'm trying to see wassup between me and you but your not communicating for some reason"

i was thinking about that...cuz as of right now my interest level is Shot...that's probably b/c o was trying to mess with this other girl.

I knew that was the remedy though...she is far from the center of my life right now and with her out of it will not hurt me one bit..but if she wants to get at me then that's a plus
i'll update you guys tommorrow

 

[dikster]

what the.. you should ask her number instead of giving yours. I can't believe the cr.p that she handed you, man. If i were you, the next time she says that she'll call or go outing with you, you should have fired back, "Until you made up your mind, don't call me, don't approach me and don't ever bother seeing me". Two scenarios that will arise from this, whether she shape up or you should tell her that "you only have one chance with me girl and you blew it"and as any dj would do, you must be willing to walk away.
If you do this, other girls will know that you that kind of a "man" and should they'll be attracted to you, they will treat you with respect from the start.

 

[Badmannaz]

this b1cth is playing me so hard...


today i'm in my lobby and im sitting and playing cards with the homies...well one of my friends dates her best friend so they joined us she sat right next to me

the whole time she's giving me ****....trying to get my attention but most of the time i wasn't giving it to her...this time she got all close till her arm was around mind picture(my hands on my cards on the table and her arm around one of them)

yea when i was trying to talk to her she would be like "shut up"
and i'd just grin and play it off but it was getting on my nerves

we get up after about four games of spades and i start talking to her...

BM: why didn't you call me back?
hb8: i did call you no one picked up. (she didn't call me)
BM: well what you doing this weekend?
hb8:*she stops and gets on her phone*

at this time i asking her stuff but she on the phone...
then out came.....

oh who's that? that's just a friend from school

She didn't know i heard her

then i was like aight...she then said i'm gonna call you

Well i'm like fvck this i went to work out and still i was pissed....

She's your Classic ATTENTION ***** and i feel like a b1tch for trying to get with her...I hate girls...i wasn't even focusing on girls and deep down i knew this **** wasn't gonna happend...my dad said "you don't want a girl like that...she's gotta be high matenaince and theres too many girls at your University for that"

I know she's gonna try it again but I'm threw with thAt b1tch i'm focusing on myself now but that **** REALLY PISSES ME OFF and make me just mad....this is the main reason why good guys turn *******s and treat women like dirt b/c they'll try to play your ass..they always talk about "where's the good guys" and i say "your WHERE lookin at one but you b1tches fVcked that up so i'm gonna play all of you heartless whoes".....

 

[Badmannaz]

bump!!

I feel better now the other day i was just pissed but now im not

 

[aix237]

didnt you listen to anything i said? Do not initiate anything with this girl let her do the initiating for every single thing. All the guys are chasing her you gotta be the one not showing that you want her. Just do the opposite of what you want to do (ie go up and talk to her, call he first, ask her out)