Is sex really worth this?

[Mintyfresh]

After a good 1 1/2 - 2 years in the DJ game I'm sitting here wondering why I ever put all of the effort into it in the first place. I can't help but take the rejections extremely personal, its just in my nature to really want people to like me.

I've been in the field, ive gotten numbers, ive gotten dates, ive been laid.

I don't think I'm any more confident than when i started, infact i think im less confident. All that ive gained is the ability to be extremely good at faking confidence and pretending to be the kind of man women want around. I have zero respect for the female sex after my DJ adventures. Seriously zero, i loahte everything non physical about them.

All in all, im sitting here wondering why I or any other self respecting man puts up with all the horrendous **** women make us go through just to get the shot at sex. Is sex really good enough to justify the means? I'm not so sure anymore.

 

[KneghtRyder]

i guess i am kinda new to this, but is it really taht much effort you make it sound like its a lot. Some guys have fun doing it. and get laid pretty easy.

 

[DJinTraining06]

After a good 1 1/2 - 2 years in the DJ game I'm sitting here wondering why I ever put all of the effort into it in the first place. I can't help but take the rejections extremely personal, its just in my nature to really want people to like me.

I've been in the field, ive gotten numbers, ive gotten dates, ive been laid.

I don't think I'm any more confident than when i started, infact i think im less confident. All that ive gained is the ability to be extremely good at faking confidence and pretending to be the kind of man women want around. I have zero respect for the female sex after my DJ adventures. Seriously zero, i loahte everything non physical about them.

All in all, im sitting here wondering why I or any other self respecting man puts up with all the horrendous **** women make us go through just to get the shot at sex. Is sex really good enough to justify the means? I'm not so sure anymore.

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After a night of drinking, i came to a realization. dont take anything personal cuz its all a bunch of bullsh*t. Nothin matters. were all just a bunch of a pool balls travelign aimlessly thru the world occasionally banigng into each other. i get all sensitive bout rejectipon of all kinds, from girls, dudes at work, etc.
i get laid now by my gf 3 times a weekl and im happy wit her, but that could end any day, wkno knows. Girls r f'in annoying no doubt about it. They tell u 50 f;in stories about therir day, and then when we wanna tell 1 damm story, they have no interest and cut u off for another one of their boring a$$ stories. life is so ridiculous. sex feels good, so in my opinion yes it is worth it. Any kind of physical pleasure is worth it, sex, food, alcahol, sleep, etc etc. cuz all emotional pleasure is pure artificial bullsh*t. Every0ne is out for themselves and phony. Everyone has an agenda. life sux, so have sex. wow im drunk.

 

[Oxide]

I think you have just reached the last stage: Realizing that nothing matters.

99% of population do not reach this stage.. I am almost there..almost. But I am always getting pulled back when around others..it sucks and you must fight it.

Once you get here - nothing worries you. Supermodel? Whatever. Rejected? Oh well. She is going down on you? Good for her.

Careful, only apply this to women, nothing else or you will **** up your life.

Nothing matters - not what you say, not how you say it, not how she looks. Her goal is to evenutally get married and have the guy pay for her.. Your goal is to put your penis inside. How is that for underachieving? Feeling used yet?

Lick my ear.. Feed me drinks.. Act like you are too good..Ignore me.. nothing will matter in exaclty one year. Your nature is fvcking you over. It wants you to bang everything.. it wants you to reproduce. It doesn't know the half of it - the world we live in and the consequences.. some people pay half a mil for child support.

See her. Don't think about her looks - they wash away with the make up every night before bed. She looks half as good in the morning. She is not perfect, in fact, she probably sucks much more than anyone else. She got lucky with the jeans. Be an a$$hole to these girls. Don't date them.

Find your meaning. Find why and where you are going. Don't be afraid to speak your mind. her getting offended means nothing. You speak the truth - she can't blame you if you are honest.


Women have all the power. Women rule this world.. and will continue to do so. You are outnumbered. You will be livid over things that women get away with. You will not want to ever marry. It is all a part of opening your eyes.

Good luck, good night.

I will never probably reach 3000. Cest La Vi

 

[PigAdlemPimp]

If you want hot babes to fvck you it is extremely important that you are compulsive in your interactions with them.
Last night for example I was out at a bar, it was very crowded, as I went to buy a drink, a HB9 walked right in front of me, I immediately picked her up off the ground, had her in my arms like a pet Cat, then I kissed her.
About 30 seconds after I had my tongue in her mouth, I was felled to the floor by the fist of her angry boyfreind.
Both I and the girl went to the ground simultaneously, after which I being stunned by the punch to the side of my jaw leapt to my feet, I managed to grab the dude by the throat, though a group of other dudes held me back so that I couldn't retaliate and punch him.
Unfortunately I couldn't get the girl because of the circumstances that arose after it, though in different situations this compulsive behaviour has enabled me to fvck some hot babes.
When I began to kiss the girl she was kind of stunned by my having just picked her up into my arms and she went along with it until her boyfreind had punched me.
Had he not been there I would have fvcked that hot babe, if you are not prepared to do these bizarre types of things, you will not get to fvck very many girls.

 

[Big-J]

After a good 1 1/2 - 2 years in the DJ game I'm sitting here wondering why I ever put all of the effort into it in the first place. I can't help but take the rejections extremely personal, its just in my nature to really want people to like me.

I've been in the field, ive gotten numbers, ive gotten dates, ive been laid.

I don't think I'm any more confident than when i started, infact i think im less confident. All that ive gained is the ability to be extremely good at faking confidence and pretending to be the kind of man women want around. I have zero respect for the female sex after my DJ adventures. Seriously zero, i loahte everything non physical about them.

All in all, im sitting here wondering why I or any other self respecting man puts up with all the horrendous **** women make us go through just to get the shot at sex. Is sex really good enough to justify the means? I'm not so sure anymore.

Ahh one who's reached a crossroads in his life. The problem here is that you've spent so much time in making this into work, a calculation, or into an obsession of rationalising that you've forgotten to stop and enjoy the moment. This is the key to success. When you stop worring about all the methods, routines, and let yourself shine in the moment, that is where you will know you belong.

The point of this site is to give you the tools you need, and to eventually incorperate them into yourself, where you don't even think about it, you just do. The downfall is when you find yourself at the crossroad you seem to be at, wondering "is this all there is" when the answer is right infront of you and around you.

Remember A woman will never bring you happiness, you have to bring it to yourself. Otherwise you'll never be happy with a woman.



I feel as though in your post you've reached this point, but you seem to be missing the inspiration to aspire and move on to bigger and better things. At this point your either going to want to Grow as a Person, or Dive further into the seduction land, which will also let you Grow, as a person, but will lead you down a different path.


Read some more of Pook's threads, his whole ideal sense in them is to make yourself whole, and the women will come.


One of my Favorites: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=77960

 

[KoalaKing]

If you don't enjoy sarging hot babes for sex, don't do it, be real to yourself, if you get more pleasure doing something else, then do that.

 

[Rudra]

If you want hot babes to fvck you it is extremely important that you are compulsive in your interactions with them.
Last night for example I was out at a bar, it was very crowded, as I went to buy a drink, a HB9 walked right in front of me, I immediately picked her up off the ground, had her in my arms like a pet Cat, then I kissed her.
About 30 seconds after I had my tongue in her mouth, I was felled to the floor by the fist of her angry boyfreind.
Both I and the girl went to the ground simultaneously, after which I being stunned by the punch to the side of my jaw leapt to my feet, I managed to grab the dude by the throat, though a group of other dudes held me back so that I couldn't retaliate and punch him.
Unfortunately I couldn't get the girl because of the circumstances that arose after it, though in different situations this compulsive behaviour has enabled me to fvck some hot babes.
When I began to kiss the girl she was kind of stunned by my having just picked her up into my arms and she went along with it until her boyfreind had punched me.
Had he not been there I would have fvcked that hot babe, if you are not prepared to do these bizarre types of things, you will not get to fvck very many girls.

Man, I love that All power to you ))

Hm.. In my corner of the world such stuff would get you killed... No good pulling stuff like that in a macho culture.

 

[afrojiggles]

mmm.....gd work man seems u stranded amidst the new york to washington fast track highway and now is when you need to affirm of your goals than ever...:woo:

 

[danielzxc]

Mintyfresh, if the idea of picking up girls doesn't excite you, don't do it. Do something else. Simple.

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Good luck, good night.

I will never probably reach 3000. Cest La Vi

Let's pray you don't.
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PigAdlem, you are complete fkk up in life dude. I wouldn't mention it, but you keep posting such utter horseshyt it just needs to be said.

 

[chance-]

nah it's not worth it at all. women are sh!t. don't jump through their hoops pal.

 

[Scought]

The OP was just drunk.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

sounds like some pure nihilist in this thread

 

[Tha Realnezz]

uh...yes...

 

[everywomanshero]

I don't think I'm any more confident than when i started, infact i think im less confident. All that ive gained is the ability to be extremely good at faking confidence and pretending to be the kind of man women want around. I have zero respect for the female sex after my DJ adventures. Seriously zero, i loahte everything non physical about them.

Getting laid can only enhance one's self confidence so much. At least I, need success in all areas of life. Otherwise, I would feel kind of bummed I guess.

All in all, im sitting here wondering why I or any other self respecting man puts up with all the horrendous **** women make us go through just to get the shot at sex.

You're assuming all men must do this. This is the wrong thinking. I bait women into chasing me. I will only pursue so much, and if they won't follow, then I f*cked up and I'll just move on. Remember we are DJs, not mPUAs, we don't have to get 5 sets in a row to fvck us, we only need to get a tiny percentage of hot women we come in contact with to add up tons and tons of lays/gfs/whatever we wish.

Secondly, I never put myself out there for any woman I am not 100% sure about. I dont make hotel reservations and drive 100 miles to meet someone. I make tentative plans, if they showup then I'll take them someplace for isolation (back to their place, hotel, whatever, I dont bring girls to myplace anymore as its too easy for them to run into each other and I dont wanna hear it), if it came down to a situation with a new girl who might flake where it was going to be a big pain in the ass for me... I would just pass. I never inconviniance myself, that way if something goes wrong... Im not upset =) Generally, though I have developed a good intuition and I have fewer flakes than ever these days.

In the early days as a DJ putting oneself out there to get more experience and intuition build probably makes sense, but I think it should be treated as a learning curve. At some point, when your feelings are "on", you have to make the interactions meaningful, fun, and conviniant for yourself or it's not worth it. I consider the womans feelings, desires, and entertainment, but I am not willing to risk putting myself out in the process unless she's a sure thing that has a history of reliability. From your post, I think you might need to put yourself first more often.

 

[Mintyfresh]

The OP was just drunk.

Unfortunately I wasn't drunk when i made the post. Just simply disappointed with the amount of pleasure derrived from learning how to interact with women.

When i came here two years ago i was looking for guidance... guidance to break out of my depression and social phobia. I thought women could be the answer for me. They're not. Sex and girls haven't enhanced my life in the least.

On a very deep level i don't enjoy hanging out with people in general. I fooled myself into thinking that if i just learned how to fake being a man that women want around or fake being that cool guy in your social circle that everybody looks up to, that i would be a happier person. It didn't work.

The best part of this whole DJ thing for me, is the moment directly after the approach and number close. The extreme feeling of joy from that is indescribable. Other than that, I'm not sure how enjoyable it really is.

There's a sort of empty feeling in my gut.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Sin is emptiness, and the pleasures of sin is fleeting. It is good that you have relalised that there is a higher calling and hope you can find true fulfillment and hapiness in a spiritual life. The world (lusts of flesh, lust of eyes, pride of life), headed by the devil, really has nothing to offer you of any value, just an illusion which you are starting to realise. You are starting to wake up. There is something more to life beyond what you can see, touch, feel, taste or hear, a truth amidst the world of lies.

The Bible says that sex is sin unless it is in marriage and can only lead to feelings of emptiness since it is outside of God's design, so sex outside of marriage is never worth it because it is sin. But there is hope. Look to Jesus and find truth.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Minty - the reason you receive such satisfaction after the number close is because you seek acceptance and the act of her giving you her number gives you this level of being accepted (and not rejected), It is a confidence and self esteem issue which must be dealt with internally -- being embraced by hors is artificial and empty - what you you seek is a meaningful relationship with substance! Good luck finding her -- they don't make 'em anymore!!

 

[Serialized3]

The answer is that no, sex isn't really worth it. At least not for me. Sure, you could compromise your self and your standards and go out and nail some hors, but, at the end of the night, so what? A little bit of physical pleasure, and maybe an ego boost because you added another one to "the count".

I think my game is probably like everywomanshero's: I like to attract women to me and then game then whenever I feel like. I'm a rake and a tease. I make the woman work for my attention and touch. I'm separated from my ego and I don't need to have sex with some chick just to add to my count.

I believe that meaningful sex with a partner that you care about is a thousand times better than getting emotionally empty, hollow sex from some hor, even if she's "hot". In fact, I can think of fifteen things I'd rather do, including masturbation, than having empty, emotionless hollow sex with some hor.

I think your best bet would be to stop compromising yourself. If you are doing something that feels wrong, stop doing it. Go with your gut. Stop relying on routines and techniques and try to improve on yourself, your confidence, your schooling and career. Only then can you begin to develop natural game and being to start attracting women naturally. Then qualify the fuck out of them.

 

[KneghtRyder]

The OP was just drunk.

+1



sober up bro and when you haven't jacked off for three days..lets talk then