Is OkCupid just not worth it anymore?

[Good Gao]

I feel like when I go on OkCupid these days I see the following:

1. Fake profiles
2. Fatties
3. The occasional above average looking woman

this is in NYC and LA btw.

The hot women I see have been those whose profiles have not been online for months.

 

[equinox654]

Yeah I'm in fort worth an there's nothing but fatties. I log in every few months and have an inbox full of thirsty fatties hitting on me.

 

[LMFAO]

I've got four dates a week from other dating websites but absolutely nothing from okcupid. The last message I got was from some eastern european who wasn't even from here and probably looking for a new passport.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

OkCupid has been great for me, but I've never used any other dating sites. Therefore I can't really compare or contrast different sites. OkCupid requires excellent writing abilities, pictures that make you look very attractive, and a lot of hard work tailoring your profile to attract specific kinds of women. Plus sending out messages that appear personalized but don't reek of desperation can be pretty time consuming.

Catching womens' attention on OkCupid can be as difficult as the bar pickup game, but I love it. The women I meet up with tend to be moderate quality - way better than random bar chicks, and every once in a while I meet someone really f-ing interesting and attractive.

tl;dr It can be tough but it's a great way to get your number of plates up.

 

[salinechow]

Alright Deadly, its brag time man. I have been suffering through OKCupid for two months and it has been horriable. Same as above, fat ugly prison gaurds. I know its sort of a numbers game but it it much more time consuming then Tinder. Whats your profile all about. I have been tweaking it but to no avail. I was Sargeing on for awhile but I do much better in person typically so I have left it alone. Yet, it could still be fun I am hoping for a weeknight. Help out maybe?

 

[Poon King]

Tinder is way better. But you have to make a new profile every month or so to stay at the top. The software favors newer profiles.

I've been getting sluts with little effort.

OKC is crap. 90% of the women are obese pigs or have 50 tattoos and piercings. The rest are attention wh0res and mentally ill.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Alright Deadly, its brag time man. I have been suffering through OKCupid for two months and it has been horriable. Same as above, fat ugly prison gaurds. I know its sort of a numbers game but it it much more time consuming then Tinder. Whats your profile all about. I have been tweaking it but to no avail. I was Sargeing on for awhile but I do much better in person typically so I have left it alone. Yet, it could still be fun I am hoping for a weeknight. Help out maybe?

Here are a few key properties of a great OkC profile:

1) No spelling errors - if your profile was a chick's profile and I saw the words "horriable" and "gaurds" then I would not bother contacting you.
2) No grammatical errors - if a chick used then where she should have used than, I would not contact her.
3) Personal - Yes, the profile is about you, but it's also bait. Someone needs to feel like they have at least a slight sense for who you are as a person after they're done reading your profile and the answers you provided to questions.
4) Interesting - you need to identify specific and unique things about yourself that make you stand out. This can take some serious reflection. After all, no one is really surprised that you hang out with friends for fun. If, however, you also go rock climbing a few times per week, the panties will begin to tremble. OkC is about being unique and interesting without seeming like a total freak of nature.
5) EXCELLENT pictures - I can't stress this enough. You need 3-5 pictures that really make you look great. The picture need to be from different situations, and bonus points if one of the shots has a few friends in it for social proof (just be sure to blur their faces or get their permission).

There are actually many guides on this subject, and there's a book called datapocalypse written by one of the founders of OkCupid. The book is an interesting read and may give you insights regarding how people think and behave. Ultimately, the best way to learn what makes for an excellent profile is to browse mens' profiles. It's easy to do and you'll see very quickly how you may stack up to the competition.