~ Is My Girl Losing Interest in me? ~

[guambombO]

Hey all,

GF: 11 months off and on
I recently broke up with her but got back with her
Im in another state but come home on weekends
I love her to death and she loves me as well

Recently I left for another state to work for a great job. 2 weeks before I had broken up with my GF. During this time, she fell quite aquainted with another guy. They were friends before but he just so happened to be there for her while this all was happening. He met her when she got back from her trip, talked to her everyday etc.. She even admitted to me that she liked him and he made a move on her but she said no, she loved me.(Still broken up while this happened). Now, we got back together but shes still talking ot him. I asked her not to talk to to him anymore but she said no. She doesnt want to lose his friendship,(I askd her to do it once before and she did.) She said she still wats to hangout with him. She seems to talk to him all the time, I just called her but she said she was on the other line with him and had to go. What do I do? Confront her? Do I seem insecure? Im worried shes gonna do something stupid. Help me out, thanks

 

[BarMan]

Bail bro.. bail fast.. or start making plans to see other girls quick.. this is going to end badly.

 

[guambombO]

You think so? She told me she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. She was the firs to say I love you. Do I confront her? Tell her its him or me? Be cool about it and not care? Tell her they can only hangout with a group of friends?

I seriously need help, this kills me inside everytime I think about it. Whenever I talk about it she stresses how she doesnt want to lose his friendhsip again.

 

[Bigg Boss]

You think so? She told me she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. She was the firs to say I love you. Do I confront her? Tell her its him or me? Be cool about it and not care? Tell her they can only hangout with a group of friends?

I seriously need help, this kills me inside everytime I think about it. Whenever I talk about it she stresses how she doesnt want to lose his friendhsip again.

That guy seems pretty AFC to me.

As long as you keep doing you, keep giving her great times and memories (while u have fun also of course) then you'll be aight. Remember love is a verb, just saying it ain't gonna hold yall together.

Unless he's spending money on her alot (which is AFC to its fullest) then you should have the advantage over him.

Although a MAN would not only confront her but confront this kid that's making moves. It's not all her fault he's doing this. You don't have to fight him but on the real, you gotta let him know that sh*t ain't cool :box: . He should respect you if you come at him assertively (if not, you're gonna have to get a little more serious) and will stop talking to her (or keep it at a "friends" level).

 

[justsomeguy1984]

This isn't a good sign.... When these mysterious "friends" just start hanging around out of the blue, you got a problem. Trust me, I know from past experience...

You gotta lay down the law here bud, and get to the bottom of what is really going on.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

You think so? She told me she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. She was the firs to say I love you. Do I confront her? Tell her its him or me? Be cool about it and not care? Tell her they can only hangout with a group of friends?

I seriously need help, this kills me inside everytime I think about it. Whenever I talk about it she stresses how she doesnt want to lose his friendhsip again.

BRO YOUR FREAKIN' 18 YEARS OLD!!! Any girl that's telling you she wants to spend the rest of her life with you at this point is flat out CRAZY!! Remember ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS judge a girl by what she DOES not by what she says!!! And right now your believing what she's saying even though she continues to see that "friend."

Go with your gut feeling on this one bro. You guys have been on again off again for the past year and she's not sure if things will ever pan out. So she has back-ups as an insurance policy and you should to. The fact that you live long distance on top of all this doesn't look good for you in the long haul. She can cheat on you allllllllllll week, then tell you she loves you when she sees you on the weekend.

Your sanity might be more important than a immature, selfish LDR.



PIMP

 

[Bourne]

If you have to ask, then YES. Its already over.

 

[jonwon]

Hey all,

GF: 11 months off and on
I recently broke up with her but got back with her
Im in another state but come home on weekends
I love her to death and she loves me as well

Recently I left for another state to work for a great job. 2 weeks before I had broken up with my GF. During this time, she fell quite aquainted with another guy. They were friends before but he just so happened to be there for her while this all was happening. He met her when she got back from her trip, talked to her everyday etc.. She even admitted to me that she liked him and he made a move on her but she said no, she loved me.(Still broken up while this happened). Now, we got back together but shes still talking ot him. I asked her not to talk to to him anymore but she said no. She doesnt want to lose his friendship,(I askd her to do it once before and she did.) She said she still wats to hangout with him. She seems to talk to him all the time, I just called her but she said she was on the other line with him and had to go. What do I do? Confront her? Do I seem insecure? Im worried shes gonna do something stupid. Help me out, thanks

Shame man this bird is lacking a lot of respect for you at the moment, I would drop her tbh, you don’t need this in your life, why?
You know she will go to the other guy and you will loose her but lets look at it from another angle.

She is friends with a guy who as asked her out on a date!
This is not a friend this is a guy who wants to fu** her, she knows it and she wants to keep him on incase you two fail.
She wants to have her cake and eat it.
The problem is this lacks respect for you, she is saying one thing about spending her time with you and doing another completely different thing. Judge by actions not words.

She is mates with a guy that wants to screw her how can you sit back whilst she hangs out with him?
Jealous our not she should not be putting you through this shi*, any decent women would have had more respect and told the guy she is back with you and she does not want to jeopardize the relationship again.

She is doing the exact opposite, she is playing you both, worse still she is taking you on a roller coaster ride and the ending is not a good one.

Even if you win her by being more Alpha and all that other stuff, can you truly forgive a women who entertains guys that want to fu** her and disguises them has being mates? How could you trust her, I know I could not and most men if they admit it they could not trust her 100% either, the relationship is then over.

As soon as you said you don’t want her to see him again, the relationship was over in my opinion, you should not even have to ask.
The fact she said no is even worse, she is standing up to you because she has something else going on in the background and she can afford to pis* you off, after all her attention is focused on two guys and not one.

Nothing wrong with you asking her to not see this guy, the part that is wrong is her still wanting to keep it going, total lack of respect on your part, show her you don’t play that way, be a man stand up to her, it seems your going to loose her anyway.

Let her know your going to end it and tell her the reason why!

Too much of an emotional rollercoaster, this does not sound like a FUN situation to be in to me.

Your young, go out enjoy forget about her and him, she will know she messed up big time.

 

[IsiMan84]

Yes she is definitely trying to juggle two dudes at the same time. Basically it just comes down to which one of you is willing to put up with the least crap and bail out before things get worse. If she is sincerely more interested in you then she would have heeded your demand the instant you brought up the other guy. I would definitely say start talking to other girls, because this is one mother you don't want to ride until the wheels fall off.

 

[INXS]

Bail bro.. bail fast.. or start making plans to see other girls quick.. this is going to end badly.

Word to wise: BarMan is right

You better burn vern. And another thing, if a woman EVER insists upon keeping another man in her life who made a pass at her above you, use the above advice as a reference.

 

[Jariel]

If you have broken up with her before then it's understandable she's not feeling very secure in your relationship right now. This other guy sounds like her back up for when things fail with you again.

I cannot blame her for this. If my gf broke up with me, I'd go and find other options and I'd keep them open even if we got together again.

Another thing to consider is that this guy has been there for her when you ditched her. She owes him more respect than to ditch him now that you're back.

But on the whole, she has trust issues and now you have trust issues. It sounds like this relationship is going to be very difficult to repair and you might be better moving on and letting her move on.

 

[DonJuanForever]

I laugh when a girl gives a guy a obvious sign of " I am about to fvck somebody else," " I am fvcking somebody else," etc....and instead of listening to the sign the guy just asks, "Am I just insecure?"

Insecurity is just your soul telling you, " listen up, here's something you need to know or pay attention to." It might not feel good when you are insecure, but I listen to my soul and gut all the time. For example, before I present a presentation to a client, I sometimes get very insecure. After I check it over, I find numerous mistakes in it that would have cost me the damn deal.

You live in one state, she lives in another, are you retarded? Sorry to be so blunt. You don't know who she is fvckin and not fvckin.

She is in love with you? From far, far away? hahaha, don't you ever, ever, have any insecurities as to "why does she love me if I am not there?" Do you ever feel that? Listen to it! It's your soul talking!

Women without current "lives" will talk to a guy just to have somebody to talk to. When she gets a "life" she is like gone with the wind. Don't you know that she is just talking to you because she had nobody else to talk to? Do you really, really thinks she loves you? I know what she said, but listen to your soul, your soul won't lie to you buddy.

I love women, don't get me wrong. But if you don't know how to DEAL WITH THEM, they can and will seriously screw with your emotions and leave you in the middle of the highway crying and looking to commit suicide, and not give a damn about it. Women can be like cats. See a cat, is not a protector like a dog, but a cat is cute, nice, soft, gives you effection and attention. But you see, that same cat can turn on you in a moment's time and claw the fvck outta you. I mean, ahahah, this little pretty thing that is so innocent, so shy, runs away at just about anything, in 3 minutes, has turned into a wild animal, clawing the fvck outta me! That's women, they are just like cats. The thing is you have to TRAIN YOUR CAT, to not claw you but to love you. If you don't train and program the cat to love you, then IF THE CAT FEELS LIKE IT, it can claw the fvck outta you if the urge comes upon it.

The only way to get a woman is to be masucline, but the only way to keep her is to train and program her with beliefs that, " I love him so much, and I can't live without him." Once you have that programmed into her, she ain't going nowhere unless another guy comes along an programms you out, but if you program her right, it'll take time and effort to reprogram her and most guys quit by then.

DJF

 

[DonJuanForever]

"The only way to get a woman is to be masucline, but the only way to keep her is to train and program her with beliefs that, " I love him so much, and I can't live without him."

What I just said, you get a woman by being masculine (I've explained how to do this in other posts) the reason women are attracted to masculinity is because of their loving natures, or submissive nature. When you submit to something to you love it, care for it, worship it, adhore it. That's a woman's nature, lol, like a cat.

But remember, she still has claws! She still has the potential to fvck you up even though she is loving. So you must program and eliminate her "clawing/animalistic" side from attacking you. I'll have to make a post on how to do this. What this does puts beliefs in her that says " I love that man so much, I must never do anything to hurt him." When she forms these beliefs, she forms the attitudes that come from them. Meaning, she won't put herself in a situation to get fvcked by another guy, she won't even associate with other guys as much, she almost becomes sheltered to a point like a house wife. But you have to program this into her, most guys stop at the attracting them part, to later have her claw him by cheating on him, he could have programmed her correctly to avoid this. I'll have to make a post on it later.

 

[Colinski282]

If she loved you then would have no other intrest in this guy.....she still wants to talk to him? He is now her back-up plan. I wouldnt bother with her

 

[Reloaded]

Hey all,

GF: 11 months off and on
I recently broke up with her but got back with her
Im in another state but come home on weekends
I love her to death and she loves me as well

Recently I left for another state to work for a great job. 2 weeks before I had broken up with my GF. During this time, she fell quite aquainted with another guy. They were friends before but he just so happened to be there for her while this all was happening. He met her when she got back from her trip, talked to her everyday etc.. She even admitted to me that she liked him and he made a move on her but she said no, she loved me.(Still broken up while this happened). Now, we got back together but shes still talking ot him. I asked her not to talk to to him anymore but she said no. She doesnt want to lose his friendship,(I askd her to do it once before and she did.) She said she still wats to hangout with him. She seems to talk to him all the time, I just called her but she said she was on the other line with him and had to go. What do I do? Confront her? Do I seem insecure? Im worried shes gonna do something stupid. Help me out, thanks

HAHAHA! You AFC chump, the girl is whiping the floor with your punk-ass!

:yes: :yes: :rock: :rock: :crackup:

 

[rocky_mtn]

HAHAHA! You AFC chump, the girl is whiping the floor with your punk-ass!

:yes: :yes: :rock: :rock: :crackup:

Great, kick a brother when he's down.

Your post adds nothing, combined with your other thread appologizing to the moderators, I think you get off on being a troll.