I was born in Ireland but moved to the USA when I was six, so I am not an immigrant culturally. Now I am somewhat new to the game and have improved over the years but something that does stick to my mind at times is my ethnic appearance. Of my group of friends that I go out, I am the only guy that is not white. When I would read the ramblings on forums about being Indian or Asian, I thought they only applied to immigrants who had accents and weren't culturally American. None of what applied to them applied to me, that is what I thought.
Now like all of my friends, I get rejected too, but sometimes I wonder if the main reason might be because of the way I look. I don't have an accent and I dress like most guys at a bar but a good amount of times I get girls asking me about where I am "from". I tell them I was born in Ireland and moved to the USA but they persist and ask me things like "no but what is your race?". At that point I tell them I that I am Indian and they tell me about how they have Indian friends or knew a guy from India.
Sometimes, I do wonder why they're asking me that and if I told them I was "mixed" or something, whether or not it would make a difference. The reason I point it out is that sometimes I would have this conversation with a girl at a bar and it would die down a bit later, other times it hasn't mattered and I have managed to pull.
What I am wondering is if it would actually help if I said to a girl that I was mixed (and made up some kind of weird mix) or not?
I am playing around with this idea because I am not investing in LTRs at bars and clubs plus I am not connected at all (or even feel connected) to my Indian roots.
Now like all of my friends, I get rejected too, but sometimes I wonder if the main reason might be because of the way I look. I don't have an accent and I dress like most guys at a bar but a good amount of times I get girls asking me about where I am "from". I tell them I was born in Ireland and moved to the USA but they persist and ask me things like "no but what is your race?". At that point I tell them I that I am Indian and they tell me about how they have Indian friends or knew a guy from India.
Sometimes, I do wonder why they're asking me that and if I told them I was "mixed" or something, whether or not it would make a difference. The reason I point it out is that sometimes I would have this conversation with a girl at a bar and it would die down a bit later, other times it hasn't mattered and I have managed to pull.
What I am wondering is if it would actually help if I said to a girl that I was mixed (and made up some kind of weird mix) or not?
I am playing around with this idea because I am not investing in LTRs at bars and clubs plus I am not connected at all (or even feel connected) to my Indian roots.
