Is it too forward to just suggest we be FWBs?

[ChemGod]

I recently came across a girl I knew from a long time ago. I had chances to bang her when I was younger but I didnt.

I started talking to her and she said she lives with roommates at a house with a pool, gym, club house, etc. I told her I wanted to go swimming and play pool. She said she would let me come over but she says she works all day and goes to school. She said we can when shes free. I talked to her on facebook at night so Im assuming she isnt working then. I say thats fine, I do that too. I asked her if she had a bf and she said doesnt, she hasnt had time since highschool. I know this girl is horny af. I want to suggest we just **** at night, perhaps after I go to the gym at night. I was thinking I could just swing by her house, bang her, and then go home lol. Whats the best way to suggest this? Should I be subtle and go over at night and try to seduce her? ( She has 3 roommates, 2 guys and 1 girl - Ive seen that girl and shes pretty hot, hotter than this girl )Or should I just straight up ask her? I havent ever banged a girl that wasnt my gf so im kind of new to this. I am also interested in going to her house and going for her friend, who I think is more attractive.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

1. Decide which girl you want to pursue. The first girl will know if you want her hotter roomate and she will likely rule you out. I would pursue the first girl.

2. You could bring up that you didnt bang her previously when you had the chance and why eg I was too shy then, or I wasnt 100% sure how I should approach you, etc. Watch her body language when you talk to her, that is key with a female.

3. Banging a girl as a FB that isnt your GF is great. I highly recommend it The approach you take will depend on her attitude and personality. Could you flatter her and bang her? Should you try a 'date' and see if she is receptive, or just ask her straight out eg "Im really attracted to you and have always thought about you, in a sexual way. How would you feel if we got together as special friends?"

You will know her to an extent and can read her, hopefully. Dont wait too long. Also some pre flirt txts/sxts may go a long way?

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

I wouldn't chase the "hotter" girl. Screw the female that you are already talking to if you can, play your cards right and you can bang them both.

If the "hotter" girl shoes a seriously strong interest and the one your talking to is only being "friendly" then take her up on it. But don't chase or try to force it.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Asking a girl to be your "FWB" is the surest way to lose any chance of banging her. Do not, ever, say anything that would make a girl feel like a slut (unless you say it joking, in which case it may be okay). Just meet up, have a few drinks and make your move. There is no need to verbalize your "FWB" arrangement. You are not negotiating a business deal.

 

[KingBeef]

Asking a girl to be your "FWB" is the surest way to lose any chance of banging her. Do not, ever, say anything that would make a girl feel like a slut (unless you say it joking, in which case it may be okay). Just meet up, have a few drinks and make your move. There is no need to verbalize your "FWB" arrangement. You are not negotiating a business deal.

^^^ THIS.. The last thing you want to do to a girl you want to get down with is attach a "label/name" to her. She will take it personally, feel shamed and you would've most likely thrown away your opportuinity. Exactly what Bokanovsky mentioned, game her like any other girl, "lay down the pipe" so to speak and WHEN SHE BRINGS UP THE "WHERE ARE WE? ISSUE, then you mention what you want to do. Once she has experienced/seen your "value" to her then she can make a rational decision. Think about it, you would never drive a car without test driving it first, would you?

 

[Starfvcks 64]

yea, Bokanovsky got it.

Talking about that stuff before it happens is a bad call. It shows desperation, and it kills the "plausible deniability" aspect that girls need. Even asking about a BF is pushing it.

Being direct about sex only works if you're direct in your actions. A girl may have every intention of sleeping with you but she's not going to straight up admit to it, for several reasons. You have to play along.

I know you want an FWB arrangement but that's something that doesn't get discussed right away. Hang out with her and escalate towards sex like you would with any other girl. Then set up round two for a later date, and repeat.
Wait for her to ask "what are we?" and then be as honest or ambiguous as you want to be with her.

Don't decide which girl you're pursuing yet. Flirt with both of them and scope out the situation to get a read on them.
If one of them is interested in you they'll work together to give you plenty of opportunity to make a move.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Asking a girl to be your "FWB" is the surest way to lose any chance of banging her. Do not, ever, say anything that would make a girl feel like a slut (unless you say it joking, in which case it may be okay). Just meet up, have a few drinks and make your move. There is no need to verbalize your "FWB" arrangement. You are not negotiating a business deal.

I completely disagree. But I would never use the wording "fwb" or call a girl a fvck buddy. It's all in how you frame it.

I like to get to the point where you are obviously just about to fvck, after a little making out and groping. Then I stop, look her in the eyes, and say, "Look, I don't want to mislead you. I can't offer anything serious right now. So, no hurt feelings, ok?"

I'm yet to have a girl walk away. Being so up front touches all their romance buttons. Even when I have to tell them the same thing again later when they start getting attached, I still frame it as 'I don't want to hurt you.' It's a demonstration of higher value, in pickup terms. It basically tells the girl you can get other pvssy; you don't need hers.