Is it okay to show you are upset when she denies sex

[Colinski282]

After 6 months and my g/f hopping on birthcontrol her sex drive isnt what it used to be. Sometimes now she wont even give it up and when she does that it really starts to bother me cuz then i feel rejected and what not. What is the proper way to handle this situation? And would it help her sex drive if i stopped coming on to her first because she has pulled this sh!t more than once lately.

 

[Jariel]

How exactly do you let her know you want sex? Personally, I never say a word, I just start playing with her hair, touching her neck, stroking her body and kissing, and before long she jumps me.

If she's pushing you off when you try this, then I'm afraid it may be time to reconsider your relationship. A relationship without sex, or at least some intimacy, is basically a friendship. I know this is going to seem harsh, but it sounds like you have become her platonic boyfriend. She probably cares about you, enjoys your company, but doesn't feel the sexual chemistry with you any more.

I say this because I've pulled many girls from relationships exactly like this and revived their so-called low sex drives without much effort. I could be wrong and there could be a genuine medical reason for her low sex drive, but you may need to reconsider your options before she does.

However, before making any rash decisions, try talking to her about it and tell her your thoughts.

 

[far from average]

Maybe you should think of getting her off the birth control. In any event, I would be pretty skeptical of that claim. I know a lot of girls on BC and that's not usually one of the side effects mentioned. Are you sure there's not something else going on? Like another guy's d*ck in her?

 

[Colinski282]

Jariel i have reconsidered my relationship with her but i will not make any harsh moves yet. I have discussed it with her and she said it makes her feel thats all the relationship is about when i wanna fvck "all the time". I explained that i have a physcial desire that i require to be fullfilled in this relationship and for her to act in such ways makes me feel as if I was not desirable to her.

If she feels like i want it all the time, and i kinda do cause shes a lil blonde bombshell... then would an effective method be to lay off the physical aspect till she wants it real bad? (I am quite touchy on her sometimes, do you have any otehr tactics to use on her?)

 

[Mission]

Do things with her where you cannot have sex, (ie take her out places) that way you will show her that you genuinely enjoy her company, its just a balance issue, you can't just **** all the time if you want to have a real relationship with her.

--Mission

 

[Cougar10033]

Im with my girl 6 months on the dot aswell... she still wants to have sex all the time. I use that as a guage on interest level. I would have a serious talk with her and let her know that this is a big problem and its going to get worse unless something is done about it.

 

[backbreaker]

it's never a good sign when the sex dries up 6 months into a relationship. Run away. Seriously.

A woman that doesn't understand or give a damn about the importance of sex in a relationship, is not a woman worth having.

 

[B-Lemond]

Hey Colinski,

You have to make your girl CRAVE sex. She has to WANT the sex.

To achieve this, read DD's Sex Secrets.

Tease to Please is how you do it.

TEASE TEASE TEASE!

And then TEASE some more. You have to have CONTROL! Control your desires. Make her be the one that wants to have sex all the time.

Get my drift?

Good Luck!

 

[DJDamage]

Ask her to get off the birthcontrol's and you start using a condom (maybe her hormones are out of whack because of it). Its better to get plenty of sex while being wrapped in a tire then get almost none while going bareback.

If that still doesn't recharge her sexual urge then dump her and go find someone else.

DJD

 

[Colinski282]

Hey Colinski,

You have to make your girl CRAVE sex. She has to WANT the sex.

To achieve this, read DD's Sex Secrets.

Tease to Please is how you do it.

TEASE TEASE TEASE!

And then TEASE some more. You have to have CONTROL! Control your desires. Make her be the one that wants to have sex all the time.

Get my drift?

Good Luck!

I realize and am aware that if this is not taken care of the relationship is doomed. With that said i need to take matters into my own hands and make something happen. Where can i find DD's Sex secrets and some other tease guides.

 

[-=Ice-T=-]

I realize and am aware that if this is not taken care of the relationship is doomed. With that said i need to take matters into my own hands and make something happen. Where can i find DD's Sex secrets and some other tease guides.

*cough*eMule*cough*

excuse me...

 

[KarmaSutra]

Here's a thought:

Why not jack your load on her face/hair every night? Tell her "that's good enough for you ya skank" then roll over and go to sleep with a big smile.

Guys give waaay too much thought to always how she's going to feel. I had that problem long ago. Now if any of them aren't in the mood or try and throw up a b!tch test or dangle the pvssy in front of me I jet and head to another where tail is welcumed.

B!tch is then on the back burner and has to prove herself back to the heirarchy.

 

[Last Man Standing]

She has been horing with you for six months and now she doesn't want to be your hor but only when she wants to!!!! huh??? Who cares about her sex drive - that is not the point - all she has to do is open her legs -- it is your penis that needs to get hard and not hers!!!! It is the man's sex drive that matters - if IT is hard then IT is going to happen - if IT doesn't get hard then IT is impossible to happen!!!

This may be a strong sign that she is sexing other dudes!!!

 

[Chillisauce]

She has been horing with you for six months and now she doesn't want to be you hor but only when she wants to!!!! huh??? Who cares about her sex drive - that is not the point - all she has to do is open her legs -- it is your penis that needs to get hard and not hers!!!! It is the man's sex drive that matters - if IT is hard then IT is going to happen - if IT doesn't get hard then IT is impossible to happen!!!

Yeah! Screw consentual sex!

If the only reason you have sex is to get yourself off you may as well go back to masturbation.

How long has she been on the pill bro? Its not uncommon for sex drives to take a dive for a month or so, but they usually come firing back after that. At least her breasts might increase in size, my girlfriends went up a whole cup.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Yeah! Screw consentual sex!

If the only reason you have sex is to get yourself off you may as well go back to masturbation..

You are obviously of the homo / hor feminist generation to have such a view!!! Turn off the TV and quit being brainwashed and emasculated!!!!

This hor has been consenting for six months!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now he has to ask for permission?????????? You have been emasculated to take such a position!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[( . )( . )]

I have discussed it with her and she said it makes her feel thats all the relationship is about when i wanna fvck "all the time". I explained that i have a physcial desire that i require to be fullfilled in this relationship and for her to act in such ways makes me feel as if I was not desirable to her.

Having a logical discussion as to why you want to fvck the chick. Yeah thats gonna work.

Are you stoned? Whats wrong with you man?

And to answer your question . No you DO NOT get angry with her, you immediately find someone who enjoys getting banged by you, your primary now becomes an outsider.

Trying to work around HER REALITY to get some play? I've never heard such nonsense.

 

[Friendly Otter]

Women react differently to the pill. Some will lose their sex drive the whole time they use it. The best you can do then is just to quit the pill and go back to condoms.

 

[GloriouslyInsane]

The way i see this situation is that u just jump on her etc,i think u should concentrate on foreplay,kissing,teasing .Express yourself with body language/actions not with words.Female sex drive is not an on/off switch like ours.

If you want to get the ball back to your court fire her up pretty good (may take 20+ mins of foreplay etc) and then just stop,rinse and repeat.

 

[Jariel]

all she has to do is open her legs -- it is your penis that needs to get hard and not hers!!!! It is the man's sex drive that matters - if IT is hard then IT is going to happen - if IT doesn't get hard then IT is impossible to happen!!!

This isn't true and makes me think you have never had sex...or have been doing it painfully wrong.

 

[mrRuckus]

Women react differently to the pill. Some will lose their sex drive the whole time they use it. The best you can do then is just to quit the pill and go back to condoms.

She can have sex regardless of her drive. Because he wants to. Maybe not every time but leaving him hanging all the time is wrong.

I'm sure he does a lot of stuff for her he doesn't really want to do.