is it OK to NEXT a Girl if she REJECTS a KISS

[apvcovenman_79]

Is it OK ....to next a girl if she rejects a kiss (you end up with her ear instead of her lips) after your FIRST three hour date with her ?????

Doc Love says on his free Audio that ....."unless she cleans it up unless she is also conservative....she doesn't kiss ? but she says this...you give it another shot....but you go for the kiss again"

I arranged a date for this wednesday (second date)but I think that she made the decision already about me....you know? or am I wrong ??....could she change her mind?(now that I have waited 5 days to call her again)? ...may be I should go for it again and see what can happen? ....should I waste my time? should I 'seduce' her?

 

[hardwork]

May as well try again, ya know? but don't expend too much energy on this one girl (ergo the reason why I tell people to have multiple prospects).

If the commentary on your next date goes something like...

"Ooh! De-NIED!"

... then I'd "next" her, sure, for lack of intimacy.

Per your question ("Is it okay to next a girl if she rejects a kiss?"), it's all up to whomever is asking. Try not to think of things like that in terms of "okay" and "not okay", and you'll go far.

 

[squirrels]

If you persist in this panicky attitude, you are ALREADY dead in the water with this girl. Calm down, take a deep breath, and RELAX.

Were you catching any feeling that a kiss might be appropriate, or did you just "go for it" out of nowhere? Any kino leading up to it? We don't know the story. It sounds to me like you may have awkwardly attempted a kiss because you were afraid and wanted to "gauge her IL." If that's the case, small wonder you got rejected.

It's "OK to next" a girl whenever you feel like it. It's also OK to pursue a girl whenever you feel like it, as long as you're not harassing her.

 

[die4me]

Yeah, squirrels is right on the money, look at it from her point of view, maybe you were in the mood for a kiss and she was not. Maybe she wasn't feeling you enough but she liked you. It could have been a lot of things that only you would know, cause none of us were there. Just make her LAUGH a lot, do a lot of kino. Remember to look at her lips and then her eyes. Down to her lips, and then look at her again. Don't do it nervously. If she's still looking at you, catch the hint and kiss her. And don't peck, go in for it. Good luck.

 

[BGMan]

Yes, I think Squirrels and Die4me are right. The first time I kissed a girl, in June, I was going for a hug and switched in mid-stream. She turned her head, but I got her on the corner of the mouth. After that, I left, and she said, "you take care," looking at me with an "I want you" look in her eyes (pupils were dilated fully, btw!). There's no doubt in my mind that she wants me, but she has to get rid of her BF first.

If you compare that with, say, turning frigid and saying, "I can't believe you did that!" or "Stop that, we're just friends, and I have a boyfriend!" then I think I did well here.

You'll have to give more details about the kiss attempt before we can agree on a verdict. What was her reaction?

BGMan

 

[apvcovenman_79]

you guys have it ....

I DO love this site ....better said the people on this board ....

 

[apvcovenman_79]

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Originally posted by BGMan
Yes, I think Squirrels and Die4me are right. The first time I kissed a girl, in June, I was going for a hug and switched in mid-stream. She turned her head, but I got her on the corner of the mouth. After that, I left, and she said, "you take care," looking at me with an "I want you" look in her eyes (pupils were dilated fully, btw!). There's no doubt in my mind that she wants me, but she has to get rid of her BF first.

If you compare that with, say, turning frigid and saying, "I can't believe you did that!" or "Stop that, we're just friends, and I have a boyfriend!" then I think I did well here.

You'll have to give more details about the kiss attempt before we can agree on a verdict. What was her reaction?

BGMan

she said call me ...and made clear that she wants to see me again... and when I waited the five days to call she asked me if I had a GF ...she said she thought I was going to call her way much sooner to go out on Friday or Saturday... she touched me several times during our first date though ....she did not kiss me but right after that she stroked my cheek softly with her hand....while looking at me

 

[PEACEDJ]

What I would do this time around is don't try to kiss her. She's probably expecting you to kiss her so don't. Play with her mind.


AND THEN kiss her on the 3rd date.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Originally posted by apvcovenman_79
Is it OK ....to next a girl if she rejects a kiss (you end up with her ear instead of her lips)

Hold her face firmly so that she can't get away, and then stick your tongue down her throat.

 

[OddTech]

Originally posted by PEACEDJ
What I would do this time around is don't try to kiss her. She's probably expecting you to kiss her so don't. Play with her mind.


AND THEN kiss her on the 3rd date.

Yup, and if she doesn't kiss you then, you should consider nexting. You're basically trying to weed out the "professional daters," as Doc Love called them. Good luck and keep us posted.

 

[apvcovenman_79]

TOP advice

Originally posted by PEACEDJ
What I would do this time around is don't try to kiss her. She's probably expecting you to kiss her so don't. Play with her mind.


AND THEN kiss her on the 3rd date.

exactly !

 

[tiburon]

Firs things first

by know you should had made an evaluation of the girl..is she slutty or decent and there is not in between..

Now she is either a profesional dater or has IL high after you doing the right thing and not calling after 5 days..GOOD JOB...

Go for the kiss on the next date ....forget playing with her mind unless you like playing with your money....if she rejects the kiss, just leave and dont call again ..NEXT..if she accepts it make it a good one she will remeber. If the girl likes you and is decent she will explain why she didnt kiss...but make sure you leave with a pissed look or arrogant look atleast.. like telling her you dont play games...look at her lips and her eyes like some previous advice they gave you that crap works...


Tiburon

p.s the reason you should go after the kiss the next night because not kissing her might make you look like a wuzz whos confidence is brought down by a rejection,... but if you know what you are doing and how to treat the situation kissing her on the next or the third date could work..but make sure you follow trough with my advice..

 

[apvcovenman_79]

Re: Firs things first

Originally posted by tiburon
If the girl likes you and is decent she will explain why she didnt kiss...but make sure you leave with a pissed look or arrogant look atleast.. like telling her you dont play games..

I only do not like this part of your advice...

I have done this pissed look before and my experience tells me you should leave the situation with a instead of a because that will mean she really matters to you.... and THAT is an ego booster for her

plenty of fish in the bar ...why should you get upset ?

 

[tiburon]

lol -- HER EGO doesnt amtter in DJing its all about her IL

I didnt say angry i said a face like telling her you dont play games, nor wate your time , like you can care less but not shwoing alot of emotions ...you are wrong about lifting her Ego...If you behave like a gentleman in the date ..you have the right to get offended if you tought they were playing games with you....MAN its no Differential Equations... if she has IL on you she is going to make sure that( now that the ball is in her side of the court by letting her know she is dealing with a man who doesnt play games or waste his time) she will see yopu again and explain why she didnt kiss. Be a gentlemen during the date though.......ofcourse if she is a slut dont be an idiot opening doors etc...be cool ..i mean

Tiburon