Is it ok to hold hands when...

[CantGetADate]

I'm at school with my girlfriend? We are both in college, I just feel "uneasy" about it I don't know why. Is this normal, am I weird? BTW she is super cool, she is CRAZY about me.
Oh and she is the one who initiated the whole hand holding, I just felt uncomfortable, what's wrong with me lol.

And yes we have had sex and all that stuff.

 

[Gold Heart]

Hand holding shows you're a couple. Do you have a problem with it? Obviously there is, so how long have you been together? Why does it "bother you for some reason?"

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Holding hands is just another form of public displays of affection (PDAs). So how do you feel about kissing in public?

 

[CantGetADate]

We've been together about a week or so.

Hmm how do I feel about kissing in public? Well assuming kissing is just a quick peck no tongue action etc...it's ok, I don't mind infront of my friends at all, no problems there with that, but at school It feels a "little" weird.

It doesn't bother me as much as holding hands though. It just feels like everyone is staring at me when I hold hands with her, I don't get it. I just feel like holding hands is kind of like a 7th grade middle school type thing. Am I wrong? If I am tell me! So far from your replies it seems I have issues and need to fix them lol.

 

[Kodiac]

Yeah man, GET OVER IT.

Im 22 and i still hold hands with my GF when im walking down the street etc etc... but i also have no problems with french kissing her in public either.

HOLD HER FKN HAND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That is all

 

[CantGetADate]

Originally posted by Kodiac
Yeah man, GET OVER IT.

Im 22 and i still hold hands with my GF when im walking down the street etc etc... but i also have no problems with french kissing her in public either.

HOLD HER FKN HAND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That is all

You sir have changed my life, I will start holding her hand, thank you!!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Yeah, it sounds as if you have a mild social phobia. Basically feeling a bit uneasy with the possibility of you stirring up prolonged attention in public. Like you said, anything longer than a quick peck.

There's nothing wrong with feeling that way but consider how your girl is going to feel. More than likely she will think that you are embarrassed to be with her in public. Yeah, that's completely not what you mean but we are talking about a woman's perception, right?

Try looking at it like this, if people out in public have nothing better to do than gawk at you and your girl, they must have some personal issues that THEY need to deal with, more than likely jealousy. Think about it, they wish that they had a relationship as good as yours

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

u should reserve holding hands and kissing in public for a girl u r very serious about - to b only a week together is quick even if u had sex with the ho - when u break-up in a few weeks - r u going to hold your next girl's hand and then the next girl and the next girl - u get the point - this could actually hurt your future prospects with the girl u really want - she thinks u r a womanizer - keep your playa status at low-key

another thing - u really dont even know this girl's pass - she could b a mega-slut or a giga-wh@re or just a psycho

just tell her you keep your affections private and not for public display - if she was your wife then thats a different story!

 

[CantGetADate]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Yeah, it sounds as if you have a mild social phobia. Basically feeling a bit uneasy with the possibility of you stirring up prolonged attention in public. Like you said, anything longer than a quick peck.

There's nothing wrong with feeling that way but consider how your girl is going to feel. More than likely she will think that you are embarrassed to be with her in public. Yeah, that's completely not what you mean but we are talking about a woman's perception, right?

Try looking at it like this, if people out in public have nothing better to do than gawk at you and your girl, they must have some personal issues that THEY need to deal with, more than likely jealousy. Think about it, they wish that they had a relationship as good as yours

Man that is a really good way to look at it. I just got so many stares today when i was holding her hand. Guys and Girls. It was nuts, I felt like people were watching us LOL. Your right it is a social phobia it has to be. I will try to use that train of thought tommorow when I see her in school. Thank you

 

[CantGetADate]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
u should reserve holding hands and kissing in public for a girl u r very serious about - to b only a week together is quick even if u had sex with the ho - when u break-up in a few weeks - r u going to hold your next girl's hand and then the next girl and the next girl - u get the point - this could actually hurt your future prospects with the girl u really want - she thinks u r a womanizer - keep your playa status at low-key

another thing - u really dont even know this girl's pass - she could b a mega-slut or a giga-wh@re or just a psycho

just tell her you keep your affections private and not for public display - if she was your wife then thats a different story!

I dunno I like the girl, she has only been with TWO other guys and I'm 99% sure she isn't lying. I say this because the other day when we were having sex she made a "comment". Basically she had never been on top, the comment was made totally innocently, no lying there. So I tend to believe her...If she had never been on top, there is a good chance she has only been with 2 guys, thus not a slut. Basically the only position she had ever done it in was with the guy on top! She was with a guy for 6 months and thats the ONLY position they used wtf lol. The way she made the "comment" was so innocent it's like I'm 99.9999% sure she wasn't lying. It was like a slip-up comment, like it just came out, wasn't planned and she was REALLY embarassed when she made it. I like her because of this, it turns me on, dunno why, it really freaking turns me on, ahh the innocence

Anyways I see what you are saying though, you make a point, and I agree, but I like this girl, I especially like her because she is not a slut/*****. I'm don't like dating sluts/*****s, can't stand them, really can't. Also we talk openly about sex, well I do and now she is starting too also. I think that's where the other 2 boyfriends f4cked up, what a bunch of sissys lol. I'm pretty good in the sac too I think, yet I'm nervous about holding hands, how stupid LOL! That was offtopic, but what do you guys think lol.