Is it common for a wife with previous kids to nag her new husband to adopt her kids?

[MatureDJ]

While I was reviewing one of recent posts, I got to thinking that maybe this is rather common. Do you think this is just the case of a mommie figuring that she has a beta wrapped around her fingers (or vajaya) and is ready to implement the next step - a step that it seems would allow her to get a guarantee of provisioning from the new husband without her having to keep him happy - or would allow her to leave that marriage and move on to another more alpha, or perhaps wealthier beta, husband?

https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090729011224AA9NCyR

This one has already been dumped!

https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20140227132047AA6rvJX

Long story short me and my girlfriend broke up last month she has a six-year-old from another person. He is a jerk while I am a really really good guy. The ex sent me a message yesterday and wants me to adopt her child. But yet she does not want to have a relationship with me anymore. How can she think I would want To adopt her kid but not have her in my life as well. I love her very much and I was never mean to my ex but we always have stupid fights. What would you do?

Oh my! :kick: :nono: :trouble:

My opinion of adopting a child not of my loins: :cuss:

 

[speed dawg]

When you mess with a single mommy, you better be able to handle it. They come with lots of drama. My personal rule was to NEVER meet their kids, under any circumstance. That said, if you're dumb enough to let it get that far, the only place to turn is the mirror.

 

[Lexington]

It's an attempt by both women to lock down their beta bucks. The fact that both men are even in relationships with these women shows that they failed way before they got to where they are.

 

[glass half full]

This used to be the "right thing to do". If a man values himself nowadays, it's the worst thing to do. The Brady Bunch is just 40 year old re-runs now, way outta date.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Dude, as far as i'm concerned she would be lucky I legally married her.

Marriage is all to a woman's benefit:
Now you legally have to care and support her.
Now she is entitled to alimony and half your shiz.
Now you have to pay for a wedding she mostly plans.

All this while she has another kid that basically makes you #2 in her life.

But no wait, if you are already legally committed to care for her lets get the kid in there too shall we!?

More legal obligations for you to take care of with your bank account.

Why not just transfer all your checks to her account? Maybe cut yourself 10%?

This woman is taking advantage of you dude. Cut her arse off from all financial benefit and see what happens. How can you say you love this woman?

Cut her off and if she loves you she will stick around.

Maybe ask her to cosign a loan for you and lets see how she answers? Just as a test.

Cut that gold digger off dude...

 

[the_stig]

That all sounds familiar. I had a two year LTR with a single mother of an 11 year old. I never intended to commit, just rode the wave so to speak and took my bow when the time was right.

I'll never forget the first date, she told me "Yes I have a child, but he has a dad and I'm not looking for any other guy to be part of his life".

Funny how that evolved over the months to "I want someone who is a role model and shows interest in my kid" to "I want a father figure for my child, someone who would treat him like his own" to ultimately "I'd love to sign the dad's rights away and have someone legally adopt him". It's all smoke and mirrors false advertising until they have you hooked.

Single mom's are bad bad bad news. Your only value is what you can provide for them. The bias toward the kid is so blatantly obvious I don't know how any man could date one seriously and not resent the hell out of her kid, much less want to parent the bastard. They have such a strong emotional bond with their child, that they never form one nearly as deep with you, thus you are easily disposable when their delusional sense of requirements isn't being met.

 

[MatureDJ]

I'll never forget the first date, she told me "Yes I have a child, but he has a dad and I'm not looking for any other guy to be part of his life".

A while back, I went through a phase of trying out single mommies (I didn't intentionally go for them; they just seemed to all that I was meeting at the time.) They all seemed to go out of their way and say that they were self-sufficient, etc. I guess I had the attitude going in that if I wasn't getting sexed on our first date, I wasn't looking to continue, so I bailed after each 1st date.

 

[Malcontent]

I'm really starting to wonder if it's even worth it to put my d!ck in a woman anymore. The cons seem to outweigh the pros.

Maybe I'll hold out for the next few waves of 18 year olds until it seems like there's a good crop again.

 

[Big Nuts]

single moms are low hanging fruit....excellent to bang and discard.