is it better to give her your number or vice versa?

[Jaun_Don]

I was out tonight and I met this cute chick at a reggae show, she seemed to vibe off me and was always touching me...anyways we ended up meeting up again at a bar and we chatted for ages, she was very flirtatious and I ended up writing down my contact details and she goes...what's this? and I said "my details do you want them or not?" and she went to grab them back and she slapped my hand lightly and said "yes...I do" ...anyways some ****heads came over and tryed it on so I up and left and I was talking to a girl I knew and guess who was behind me before I knew it?...yes her...anyways...I asked what she was up to tommorow night and she said she had to babysit but next week was all good and she suggested we go and have dinner.

so my question is...is it better to get her number, or leave her with YOUR number...

I think I am really becoming the Man I want to be...earlier tonight I had (no lies) 3 cute 18 year old girls around me before the show...laughing at even the dumbest **** I was saying...and I noticed that one of the girls wasn't too keen on the attention I was getting from one of them and gave her the evils...now I'm not bragging here because none of these girls have been in my bed...but I have a good feeling that it's my time now and the only way is forward and up.

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

Congrats on that man; keep in mind, I am just beginning to learn this 'game', but I know that when I approach, I always ask for their phone number, because that way you are still in control of the situation, and you decide when to call, etc...

Also, I believe that if you give them your phone number without an invitation (for lack of a better word) for it, it's almost seeking acceptance from them.

Furthermore, if you give a girl your phone number, she may just say yes I want it to avoid rejecting someone, and the only way you will know is by her not calling--whereas if you call her when you decide it is appropriate, you can up her interest on the phone, or you can just set up a date, tell her your busy, and that you have to go. This indicates to her that you are busy and DO have a life.

 

[Jaun_Don]

I sensed that she wanted to see me again the way we were talking just made me think **** it, I am going to give her my details and not ask for hers..the way I saw it was, the ball is in her court...I asked to come to something but she couldn't for a legit reason and then she suggested dinner next week...so I am thinking she will call..if not...so what....oh and lastly she actually approached me...I was talking to someone and she came over and stood by me looked at me and then leaned in and said hi with a big smile on her face.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
I would never just give my number to any woman. I think giving your number without them asking shows desperation and that your a coward not willing to risk rejection-Don't be surprised if she doesn't call.

By getting their number you have all the power. They'll be the ones waiting for your call and not vice versa.

I'm sure I follow your logic here...read the post again dude...she smiling and playful and grabbed a the piece of paper with my details on it when I said to her "don't you want them"

we had chatted for a good hour before I did...

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

the ball is in her court

Exactly--and exactly what you don't want.

You want the ball to be in your court at all times--I've learned at least that much from this site. By giving her the power to make the decision, you are showing to her that she is superior to you. I am pulling for you, however; so if she calls, have your plans ready and don't change on account of her.

 

[IronFar]

Originally posted by Jaun_Don
I'm sure I follow your logic here...read the post again dude...she smiling and playful and grabbed a the piece of paper with my details on it when I said to her "don't you want them"

we had chatted for a good hour before I did...

Get a grip. That means a bit at that moment - but once you are out of that 'zone', her little giggling and that other ish is irrelevant to her new feelings.

Should've gotten her #. :woo:

 

[flexion_]

Always get her number. You call her for the first couple dates. Its as simple as that.

 

[Chrispy]

Would you want to put yourself in a position of waiting by the phone for her to call?!

Didn't think so.

Always take the initiative, make the first move, and be the one to call.

 

[drZaius09]

Girls don't make the first call, no matter how interested they are. Even if their vagina was on fire and you had the last cup of water in the county, they probably wouldn't call. Sorry, but life is too easy for attractive chicks. Dating/mating is effortless for them; at any given moment, there are upwards of a dozen guys ready to pounce on any opportunity to get in their pants. If you think I am exaggerating in the least, you are in for a very rude awakening. Henceforth, even a passably attractive girl has absolutely NO motivation to pick up the phone and call anybody.

Don't hate on me for pointing out the facts. I don't like them anymore than you do, but it's the way nature made us. This is also why most of the DJ 'tricks & tips' spouted on this board are not always going to be useful on every girl-- because some girls literally have a handful of alternative options (other than you) available at the snap of their fingers. Which brings me to my final point, some of you guys need to seriously re-think the way you approach sexual relationships and the significance you allow those relationships to have in your life.

 

[Jaun_Don]

How does it feel to know that some of you are wrong?...hmmmmm..well?...she called last night and we set up a dinner date for next week...


sorry guys, not all girls are the same, I guess that cup of water might come in handy huh? :crackup:

I wasn't sure if she would call or not and I wasn't even worried but I guess I turned the tables a little right?, she must be a little intrigued if she called 1 night after I first met her.

 

[GirlCrazy]

They aren't really wrong, and you still gave up control.

It's about the odds, and odds are a woman won't call you back if you give her your number. That doesn't mean it doesn't happen. It just means the odds are against it.

You'll be more successful in the long run by playing the odds, versus betting the long shot every time.

 

[drZaius09]

Originally posted by Jaun_Don
How does it feel to know that some of you are wrong?

I would actually feel pretty f#ckin fantastic if I knew that I was wrong. In fact, I've been waiting a long time for somebody to prove me wrong. Do you really think I want this sh#t to be true?

Unfortunately, you haven't proven anyone wrong. You could be embarassed at the responses you received (although nobody is trying to make you feel that way), and you could've simply made-up the phone call. Not that I'm saying you've done that. Furthermore, none of us have met this girl, she could be a beast or a social misfit. And I'm not saying that's true either. All I'm saying is, a lot of things could be true. But if she's truly attractive and she truly did call, what happened to you is an anomaly... kinda like when San Francisco wins a football game.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by drZaius09
I would actually feel pretty f#ckin fantastic if I knew that I was wrong. In fact, I've been waiting a long time for somebody to prove me wrong. Do you really think I want this sh#t to be true?

Unfortunately, you haven't proven anyone wrong. You could be embarassed at the responses you received (although nobody is trying to make you feel that way), and you could've simply made-up the phone call. Not that I'm saying you've done that. Furthermore, none of us have met this girl, she could be a beast or a social misfit. And I'm not saying that's true either. All I'm saying is, a lot of things could be true. But if she's truly attractive and she truly did call, what happened to you is an anomaly... kinda like when San Francisco wins a football game.

I didn't make the phone call up i swear...whether she turns up or not is a different story though right?.

and yes this time I got her ph numbers...

 

[Chrispy]

Jaun_Don, I think the next lesson to take is how the date will go given she called you first.

From experience, I find these girls to be a bit more aggressive than passive.

Anyway, post a follow-up and let us know how it went. But remember, next time get the number first