Is it beta

[_sideways_]

...I have an ex.
She's a doll...super cute and petite and...just sexy. And she knows it.
But she has a 6 year old daughter.
Which ....just as smart as her mother.
So on her birthday last week, I texted her mom and bought the little girl a cake and Cheetos.
Nothing expensive. But her mom was still grateful, even though she does not want to be with me....cuz I drink too much she says.

But last year when we were "together" she didn't complain about my drinking. In fact, she accepted it. And my calling her at 2 am.
No problems.
I'm not an angry drunk...just a little annoying.
How do I get her back?

 

[twelveightyone]

You have to wait until she makes contact with you first. It's best to accept that it might not happen. Go find a new one!

 

[Scars]

How do I get her back?

You don't.

Live your life and move on.

To answer your question "is it beta"? Yes.

You're nearing orbiter/friendzone territory, if you're not there already.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is starting to get Pinocchio like

 

[jimwho]

This is starting to get Pinocchio like

And he made out with her Mom, got a new phone, and forgot her number.

 

[derby1]

She let you get away with it as she had high interest, and you had an IDGAF attitude.....

shes done what every woman does, and has "Beta'd" you up......

You probably started apologising and using supplicating behaviour.....

A womans hind brain is quite dumb, it loses interest over "good" guys, but sees ignorance and maverick/unapologetic behaviour as "Alpha"

This relationship is over, go NC instantly, she will message you, but make no mistake as soon as she confirms you still want her, she will ghost the morning after......"non sexual attention" is like crack cocaine to women

 

[B80]

This is starting to get Pinocchio like

My suspicions were growing during the previous saga involving the mum and 2 daughters.

 

[_sideways_]

And he made out with her Mom, got a new phone, and forgot her number.

Different girl bro.
The mom I was renting her pool house is different.
That one girl.
I still have feelings for her. And I'm sure she does too.
It's just that she didn't trust when I got dressed up and went outside.
But, if and ever...I go visit...which is not likely...she has my heart and I have her heart.
It hurts...but c'est la vie

 

[_sideways_]

The girl I went back to was my previous.
It's just a coincidence that they live in the same neighborhood.
The last one, where I was renting...came on to me and yes I made out with her mom.. because they are both good looking. And yes...the daughter forgave me. And the mom never looked at me the same.
So...my prior ex...lives three blocks away and I didn't know.
But that girl is a sex doll.
So two exes...both beautiful...both ...when they get emotional, want me to be a better person. I drink...I mean I'm not mean, but after the gym I buy a flask. So I can shower and put music on.
But they both think that when I go out, I'm trying to pick up women.
Which I'm not, but I will be nice to girls and smile.
I'm not a player.
I wouldn't want to get played so I don't do it.
It just sucks that girls treat you as one way, when you are really a nice guy.
I know I have nice features...my mom is pretty and I have her genes...but I think I'm more "beta"... But girls don't care about that.
They like what they like.
I'm just having a hard time letting them go in my head.
Obviously I am talking to my new neighbor, but in my down time...I still think about both of them.
I moved out to a nicer neighborhood, costs more, but I miss them.

Don't bust my balls guys...
It's just, my therapy to hear contructive criticism from...real guys that get girls.
They're pretty girls too, so I know they want to be treated like gems...but come on.
I'm a diamond too...a little unpolished but I have worth too.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

...I have an ex.
She's a doll...super cute and petite and...just sexy. And she knows it.
But she has a 6 year old daughter.
Which ....just as smart as her mother.
So on her birthday last week, I texted her mom and bought the little girl a cake and Cheetos.
Nothing expensive. But her mom was still grateful, even though she does not want to be with me....cuz I drink too much she says.

But last year when we were "together" she didn't complain about my drinking. In fact, she accepted it. And my calling her at 2 am.
No problems.
I'm not an angry drunk...just a little annoying.
How do I get her back?

I will never get tired of saying this: Value yourself, at least a little.

Never beg for someone's attention when they do not value your presence in their life. You're better than that.

Move on. Sounds like you still have work to do to become a better man.


Modern Man Advice

 

[Dr.Suave]

Never go back to an ex. Its like going throug your bargage

 

[_sideways_]

She wasn't an ex though.
We were never officially "together".
It was just ....when her mom left for work and her sister wasn't around....we were doing it. And happy.
I don't think you guys know what it's like to have a girl be happy with you.


Yes she's super jealous, but...I can't blame her. I am a little bit good looking...blame my mom. And yes...I talk a good game.
The girl bought me gifts without me asking.
Cooked meals without me asking.

Part of me wants to go back to her house.