Is it an attractive trait to love travel?

[The_Reaper]

My guess is that it is. The problem with me is right now I have no interest in travelling anywhere, and my girlfriend said that I am too passive about such things. I don't feel ready to travel, because I don't feel comfortable in my skin and want to work on sorting myself out beforehand. I don't like myself on many levels, physically especially, and want to sort the former out before I can feel free and be myself, to get out into the world and out of this trap of depression and restriction. I hate the way fate has f*cked me over in so many ways, but there's always a light at the end of the tunnel. That doesn't sound great, I know, but is the desire to travel and experience new things an attractive trait? Are women turned off by guys who are not busy with exciting things? The answer is obviously yes so why the f*ck am I even posting this. Just a rant maybe. Any comments on the benefits of travelling?

 

[Tyron]

I love travelling but hardly have any money to do it as much as I would like to! I don't know whetever women see it as attractive or not but certainly it will give you tons of tales you can tell later on not to speak of the exprience and all the posibilities being in new enviroment does! So I quess yes, got a bit carried away here.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

It depends on the type of woman you are attracted to. The ones that enjoy travel are usually a bit more adventurous and sometimes even a bit more well read than women who don't. I've found that nothing tests the possibility of a relationship's longevity than a trip together, especially to another country.

 

[THE_ADDMAN]

give traveling a try. if you dont like it, you dont like it

if you do, you do

it doesnt matter if its an "attractive trait"

 

[LA_Chico]

its attractive unless ur in the Navy bro

 

[ScrewIt]

It depends on the type of woman you are attracted to. The ones that enjoy travel are usually a bit more adventurous and sometimes even a bit more well read than women who don't. I've found that nothing tests the possibility of a relationship's longevity than a trip together, especially to another country.

very true. the stay at home girls usually have lower self-esteem and are afraid to travel...into the unknown.

But i think traveling isnt necessary, but it's good to have..kind of like a college diploma.

 

[afc_2_dj]

But i think traveling isnt necessary

Unless you are into online dating, there pretty much every profile requires that you "love to travel"!

 

[DarkLight]

TRAVEL!

Straight up Bro!
Its the most enlivening experience/adventure of the world. I travelled the world for 5-6 yrs. on and off. Gone solo for 2yrs. straight, Egypt, India... on and on.

Don't wait to get your **** in order. Life's ticking. You'll grow so fvcking much through seeing the world, relating with different people, cultures, etc. Really man... you want to sort your sh!t out, hit the road. Its a fvcking blast!

Such rich/amazing experiences out there. So much fun, you won't even be thinking about the things you need to bring up to speed... all the while you'll be doing just that and not even knowing it.

You say "want to sort the former out before I can feel free and be myself, to get out into the world and out of this trap of depression and restriction. I hate the way fate has f*cked me over in so many ways."

This reaks of a miserable victim perspective.

-You want out of depression... start to LIVE!
-You want out of restriction... explore the WORLD!

Never think in terms of, 'before" I can feel free and by myself.
Fvck pre-requistes... in order to feel free, and yourself.
Be it now!
Do it now!

The change you want to happen, happens through the thing your holding off on... LIFE! So jump into this b!tch, and enjoy. Exploring the world is exploring yourself. You have no idea of the rich experiences that will transform you, and how they await! So cease them! Travel!

 

[Themanthatcan]

Yes,traveling is a very desirable trait.

 

[Themanthatcan]

Yes,traveling is a very desirable trait.

 

[General]

My guess is that it is. The problem with me is right now I have no interest in travelling anywhere, and my girlfriend said that I am too passive about such things. I don't feel ready to travel, because I don't feel comfortable in my skin and want to work on sorting myself out beforehand. I don't like myself on many levels, physically especially, and want to sort the former out before I can feel free and be myself, to get out into the world and out of this trap of depression and restriction. I hate the way fate has f*cked me over in so many ways, but there's always a light at the end of the tunnel. That doesn't sound great, I know, but is the desire to travel and experience new things an attractive trait? Are women turned off by guys who are not busy with exciting things? The answer is obviously yes so why the f*ck am I even posting this. Just a rant maybe. Any comments on the benefits of travelling?

Yes that's like one of like the top 10 most desireable things that women love.Women love to talk about travel in my limited expereince.They love to talk about where they're from where you're from which places they wanna go and so on.It's a subject they do like to talk about.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Don't wait to get your **** in order. Life's ticking. You'll grow so fvcking much through seeing the world, relating with different people, cultures, etc. Really man... you want to sort your sh!t out, hit the road. Its a fvcking blast!

I'll add that the best time to travel the world when your life isn't in order. Why spend so much time putting things into place to just leave it? Which brings up the premise of whether you should travel for the purpose of just being more attractive or should you do it for your own personal life experience? Besides, would James Bond be nearly as successful if he just hung out close to home?

 

[Delta]

james bond is lucky because his job requires travel. if you have such a job, the travel is a huuuuuge fringe benefit.

yes. travel makes you more attractive. look at any online matchmaking service, women, especially hot women, place that waaaaay up on their list of turn ons.

in my mind, it always strikes me as synonymous with money but their maybe less cynical ways of looking at it too.

delta

 

[Bible_Belt]

To repeat what everyone here has said, women love travel.

I think the best I have seen that trait expressed in words is "a passion for the unknown." The good part is that much of the unknown is not that expensive or far away. As long as you and the girl are frequently trying new things together, you can meet the underlying psychological need behind the 'love to travel' quality.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

james bond is lucky because his job requires travel. if you have such a job, the travel is a huuuuuge fringe benefit.

None the less, he had to want to travel in the first place. It takes confidence to step out of the comfort zone of your own back yard.

 

[resilient]

My passport is chalked up from all the countries I've been to and getting temporary visas that I have to disqualify myself when I bring up traveling because there are so many people that haven't taking a far trip. I love watching their eyes light up when they say "You've seen stone henge??" or "You've been to Istanbul? Troy? Great pyramids??"

I don't really bring up to the topic to brag to people I'm talking to, but if someone brings up a place, I can usually quickly relate with a story of sharing a similar cultural experience. It's one of my easiest ins to a conversation. I try to be humble about it because people like above said have low self esteem and can envy someone who's been all around the world.

Traveling alone and making tons of executive decisions on the spot of having to survive going place to place and being somewhere at a certain time made me grow up faster and learn to watch out for myself.

Anyway man, screw prereqs, go for the experience and let the decisions you have to make on the spot in a foreign land help you to grow and make connections with people. Traveling is one of the best things to do and you never forget those special memories.

Also, it's infinitely better to travel while you're single, young, and without wife and kids. When you're tied down to a scary morgage and kids running around in diapers you wish you would have made that leap. There's still time later, but most people that do the wife/kids route don't end up traveling until their kids are grown up out of house/in college and are retired and have time to kill. ... That's my two cents.

I'm leaving for Asia tomorrow for a two week missionary trip. Traveling is so much fun!

 

[sexy_kuta]

not to sound like an azzhole but why would u ask if ita an attractive trait? if u like it then do it. who cares what other think. if u live your life under the approval of others. you will never get anywhere, will never please everyone.

but if u do your own thing. u please own self and that what matters..

 

[THE_ADDMAN]

not to sound like an azzhole but why would u ask if ita an attractive trait? if u like it then do it. who cares what other think. if u live your life under the approval of others. you will never get anywhere, will never please everyone.

but if u do your own thing. u please own self and that what matters..

Exactly. stop saying "is this attractive? is it ok for me to like this?"

IF YOU LIKE IT, THEN DO IT!

well said, sexy_kuta

 

[Delta]

no no no no no.

you two totally miss the point of this board and the dj community.

all of us here come to ask "is this attractive" or "do women like this".

most of us are here because we've spent years doing WHAT WE GENUINELY IN OUR HEART OF HEARTS LOVE - which is dungeons and dragons and video games and geeking out at star wars movies and hanging out with our afc friends bytching about how unfair the world is (everyone plugin their own backgrounds here).

sometimes, what your passion is in your heart of hearts is your ruin.

i would not have begun working out to get a fit body or get a nice wardrobe or shoes if it were simply up to me. i had absolutely no natural interest in such things. and i was a successful person - just not successful with the ladies.

the question is valid and to challenge it in the way that you are completely misses the point of pua education.


delta

 

[sexy_kuta]

no no no no no.

you two totally miss the point of this board and the dj community.

all of us here come to ask "is this attractive" or "do women like this".

most of us are here because we've spent years doing WHAT WE GENUINELY IN OUR HEART OF HEARTS LOVE - which is dungeons and dragons and video games and geeking out at star wars movies and hanging out with our afc friends *****ing about how unfair the world is.

the question is valid and to challenge it in the way that you are completely misses the point of pua education.

delta

i dont get what u are tryin to say..
he shouldnt ask if one of his hobbies is attractive. he should be happy on what he does. and if he isnt then he needs to adapt.. if your always questioning yourself based on Your own behavior then you will NEVER get anywhere. u wil slowly be stepping back until you are on the ground and u cant get back up..

"how do i like.. what if ppl dont like this"
"i cant wear pink. only girls wear pink"

"ppl dont like this lugs at my school, they are into skaters so imma buy skater shoes!"

thats how his question sounds. maybe im not understanding it well or maybe someone could explain it better to me