is her texting u on sat night asking what u up to a sh1t test?

[pete101]

if a girl sends u a text at 10pm on saturday night asking what u are doing when u already told her yesterday by text that you'd be busy on saturday so you'd meet her on sunday, is that a test?

i really should have not replied an hour after geting it,

her: 'hi, what u doing?'
me: hey, just coming back from a house party. what u doing?
her (15mins later): going to bed, goodnight.

why didn't she even say 'see u tomorrow'? it just seemed really blunt.

i know if she texts u it's good, it means she's interested but it also feels like a test sometimes, i should have not replied till at least the morning.

 

[teacha]

stop

stop analysing everything so much....

 

[jophil28]

why didn't she even say 'see u tomorrow'? it just seemed really blunt.

She text you to check up on you.
You told her what she wanted to know and so she quickly lost interest because her enquiry was answered.
In effect you told her where you had been, where you were going and that you were alone ( if you were with another chick you would not have answered the text -right?).

And so, assured that you were NOT clubbing, or enjoying yourself with another chick and you were heading home to sleep alone , she did just that too.

I bet she slept soundly knowing that she only has to ask via a text and you will tell her whatever she wants to know.

 

[Veridin]

if a girl sends u a text at 10pm on saturday night asking what u are doing when u already told her yesterday by text that you'd be busy on saturday so you'd meet her on sunday, is that a test?

i really should have not replied an hour after geting it,

her: 'hi, what u doing?'
me: hey, just coming back from a house party. what u doing?
her (15mins later): going to bed, goodnight.

why didn't she even say 'see u tomorrow'? it just seemed really blunt.

i know if she texts u it's good, it means she's interested but it also feels like a test sometimes, i should have not replied till at least the morning.

That's actually a bit funny. But you told her you had been out and you are on your way home, there is nothing wrong iwth that, and it doesn't sound boring in my ears. But yes, maybe next time don't reply until the day after.

 

[pete101]

She text you to check up on you.
You told her what she wanted to know and so she quickly lost interest because her enquiry was answered.
In effect you told her where you had been, where you were going and that you were alone ( if you were with another chick you would not have answered the text -right?).

And so, assured that you were NOT clubbing, or enjoying yourself with another chick and you were heading home to sleep alone , she did just that too.

I bet she slept soundly knowing that she only has to ask via a text and you will tell her whatever she wants to know.

does that probably mean i'm too easy and she's lost interest and doesn't want to meet up with me tonight then?

i didn't realise it was a test till after i sent it. i think she had worries about what i was doing.

 

[jophil28]

does that probably mean i'm too easy and she's lost interest and doesn't want to meet up with me tonight then?

i didn't realise it was a test till after i sent it. i think she had worries about what i was doing.

She just wanted to test and explore why you were unavailable Saturday night. Women gather information on men compulsively and store it for future use.

Your intrigue level/interest leval with her was high after you told her that you would be "busy" ( most women would assume that you had another woman on your hook) and you held the high ground at that point..
She could not wait until Sunday to ask you about what you did Saturday night, so she text you.
YOu gave away a lot of ground by replying in the way that you did. However all is not lost. She will probably still see you BUT you have to learn to play this game a little more skillfully.
She is not your mother and you owe her NO explanations.

Women have to earn the right to information about your life and she has not qualified for that.

On a bright note you do know something about HER however and that is if she was texting you she did not have a hot date at about 10 pm last night.

Dude, women want to get to know you one page at a time. Most guys read her the entire book in one coffe date hoping that she will just love any or all of what she hears.

Now where is the mystery and intrigue in that ?

 

[jophil28]

why didn't she even say 'see u tomorrow'? it just seemed really blunt.

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Because women generally have poor social skills and only a primitive grasp on conversational requirements when it comes to chatting with a guy.

They reserve their courtesy and their convo 'niceties' for their girlsfriends.
I know, it makes little sense, but woman seem to believe that MEN should be the ones who say "all the right things" and that woman do not NEED to shape their speech to accomodate a man.

 

[WaterTiger]

Once again...ALL HAIL JOPHILL28! The master speaks true!

Yes, it was a test.

Your response, if any at all, should have been: "Hi Babe, see you tomorrow!"

 

[pete101]

She just wanted to test and explore why you were unavailable Saturday night. Women gather information on men compulsively and store it for future use.

Your intrigue level/interest leval with her was high after you told her that you would be "busy" ( most women would assume that you had another woman on your hook) and you held the high ground at that point..
She could not wait until Sunday to ask you about what you did Saturday night, so she text you.
YOu gave away a lot of ground by replying in the way that you did. However all is not lost. She will probably still see you BUT you have to learn to play this game a little more skillfully.
She is not your mother and you owe her NO explanations.

Women have to earn the right to information about your life and she has not qualified for that.

On a bright note you do know something about HER however and that is if she was texting you she did not have a hot date at about 10 pm last night.

Dude, women want to get to know you one page at a time. Most guys read her the entire book in one coffe date hoping that she will just love any or all of what she hears.

Now where is the mystery and intrigue in that ?

i understand what you mean, great advice. however about the bright note, for all i know she could be lying about going to bed when she replied at 11.30pm... girls have been known to tell u 1 thing but are doing another, i mean out here where i am its not uncommon that people go out clubbing around midnight so she could have 'told' me that shes going to bed but actually is going into town for dancing with her girls.

im not saying that's what's happening nor should i be worried about that, it's just i really just have to take what she says with a pinch of salt.

however this girl is aware i pick up girls and whether or not she believes i'm good at it or not i think she still is testing me to see whether i'm full of sh1t or actually can walk the walk if she starts to flake on me.

obviously me running back to her will show i have no options.

i felt i should have texted the next day like i did last time she texted me what i was up to.. i see it now.

what would u suggest i reply with in future?

 

[jophil28]

i understand what you mean, great advice. however about the bright note, for all i know she could be lying about going to bed when she replied at 11.30pm... girls have been known to tell u 1 thing but are doing another, i mean out here where i am its not uncommon that people go out clubbing around midnight so she could have 'told' me that shes going to bed but actually is going into town for dancing with her girls.

im not saying that's what's happening nor should i be worried about that, it's just i really just have to take what she says with a pinch of salt.

however this girl is aware i pick up girls and whether or not she believes i'm good at it or not i think she still is testing me to see whether i'm full of sh1t or actually can walk the walk if she starts to flake on me.

obviously me running back to her will show i have no options.

i felt i should have texted the next day like i did last time she texted me what i was up to.. i see it now.

what would u suggest i reply with in future?

You are making this into some kind of contest...Too much effort.

Some thoughts and tips-

-She is interested in you otherwise she would not have tested you by texting that enquiry.
-Lose all that suspicion about what she MIGHT be doing . Mistrust without evidence is a feminine trait and unattractive in a man.
-Do what your testosterone tells you.
- Observe her behavior and always be willing to walk away if she acts disrepectfully.
-Always assume that women like you, and most will. That creates an air of calm confidence.


Answer a text the next morning, or take Water T's advice.

 

[Dante420]

If a girl asks me to use a condom, is that a sh!t test?

 

[WaterTiger]

If a girl asks me to use a condom, is that a sh!t test?

Is paying $350.00 bucks a month for child support for 18 years a sh!t test?

Don't be makin' babies you don't want to pay for!

 

[King Turi]

Hmm, I always get chicks hittin' me up with texts when I don't tell them what I'm doing.

Whenever I tell a chick I can't hang out with them, they always probe around after a while to find out why, never quite understood that.