is her not calling me a sign shes shy? or NI?

[DJHoolahoop]

Hey guys,

well there was one particular girl i was wanting to pull, but lately she's been asking me to call her. i am not the kind of guy that enjoys making calls out to girls continously without some kind of reciprocation on their part, but i've noticed lately that one particular girl won't call me. in the past i stressed the fact that i have roomates that flip out if she called after 10pm, but that don't mean she can't try me during the day. she calls her other friends and we've already hung out a bunch of times and kissed and hit first base, but i'm losing interest in her already because of these appparent games she's playing with me, but i'm also thinking that maybe its cuz she's being coy and shy about this. in person she comes off that way with me, especially when i start looking away and zoning out she gets upset and quiet and thinks i'm mad at her.

when i'm with her, her eyes are usually big and round (the x effect) and she does a lot of hair tossing and widens her eyes and sh*t, but i don't get why she always tries to have me call her. like even when her cell phone cuts out and i don't call back all day but later in the day she'll bug me "why didn't you call back." and i'm sitting here like well sh*t its your cell that cut out, you're supposed to call me back. this girl is starting to sound like she's really starting to not be worth my time, but i will admit that my friends think differently (because she's super hot and smart) and i'm sick and tired of meeting dumb a$$ bytches that i want nothing more to do with than use for a quick lay.

i want a girl with substance and i thought she was that, but now i'm not sure anyone especially if she's playing hard to get or is trying to dump me into her pile of loser guys she uses to basically do everything (drive her around, pay for food and clothes and drinks, give her money, etc.) i don't do that and won't ever steep to that level of grovelling and chumpishness. but for real can anyone explain what is up with this girl?

 

[OfficeSpace]

Sounds to me like she's playing hard to get... I dealt with this in my last relationship... I was glad when it ended... I didn't realise how stupid I was for continuing to pursue her untill it was over..

 

[DonJuanByNature]

If you want to have fun, ignore all the games, hook up with other girls, and see her when you see her and have fun... If your looking to be in a series relationship you need to have a series talk ASAP, i.e. your conserns you have to express them immedietly... (chances are this will ruin everything, which just tells you it should have been nothing more then fun).. now howver, if this girl is series potential she will sit down and discuss things with you and you will come to a conclusion or aggreed compramise (which is a huge positive sign for a relationship to work).. HOWEVER, chances are this is not going to happen, so... see other girls, fck this one in the as.s and get her hooked.. DUH

 

[DJHoolahoop]

hey guys, thanks so much for helping me out with your words. i think i'm going to do two things here. 1) drop the bomb on her by saying she's on thin ice with me and doesn't have much more of a chance with me with the way she's acting/being(i'll say its either stop f_cking around or i'm gone... and all she has to do is not take me seriously at this point and i'm gone) and 2) remind her of all the loser idiots she gets hitting on her and providing everything for her, but she's such a fool for trying to pass me off as one of these clowns. perhaps she's just testing to make sure i'm the real deal, but she's making a huge mistake by taking that chance.

i like reminding them of all the losers and chumps she has coming up to her all the time trying to get with her and think that they have something to win by giving her everything. man the poor girl is all i can say and the greatest part is that i choose which girls i approach and she doens't have that choice as all these morons flock to her. so while my life gets better and better, she has more and more idiots to fend off and ignore. at least she doesn't have to pay for anything though, i am jealous of that. hahah man this stuff cracks me up a little too much.

thanks again all.

 

[Krassus]

Not even reading this crap. WHO CARES? Worry about what's in YOUR head. There's an entire UNIVERSE in there that would take you a hundred lifetimes to explore. HOW can you possibly justify spending your precious time on figure out what SHE is thinking. WHO CARES?

 

[jigga23]

Dude im dealing with the same type of b!tch. ive dealt with multiple girls like that, guys all over them etc. my ex was like her. guys jocking her sh!t all the time and i really didnt give a fvck about her (i really didnt care). She was getting crazy. I WOULD NEVER CALL HER SHE WOULD CALL ME THOUGH. calling me up all the time then trying to be all strategic in getting my attention. (going a week w/out calling me, talking to other dudes in front of me). meanwhile all these dudes are calling her up. she would call me up when shes on vacation at like 3 am to talk. she would do whatever i told her to do. she would buy me drinks and i would talk mad sh!t about her and she knew it cuase she was acting all stupid. sh!t i didnt fvck her for like a month she would always try. while other dudes would fvck her the first time they had the chance. Then one time i found out when i was hanging out with her she fvcked one of my friends that week. That got my attention and kind of pissed me off. We then dated for almost 2 years after that but obviously it didnt work out. The moral of the story is girls like the one you are dealing with you have 3 options and they all lead in a general direction of fvcked up sh!t except number 3.

1. Be a chump and a follower and not get her.
2. Be a ****y d1ck to her and get her but then shell probalby seek revenge on you for acting like that
3. Dont talk to her period cause shes trouble.

Girls like that are just weird and have a lot of emotional baggage most likely. Right now im dealing with a girl that has a lot of dudes chasing her. she always says call me and i do. but once i stop shell call. At first i was a ****y d1ck and she was jocking my nuts hardcore cause she wasnt use to that. She took me to her house one night i was so fvcked up i couldnt fvck her and really didnt want too in the first place. I felt kind of bad but after that everything she did was getting revenge on me for doing that to her (not jumping on the first opportunity with her). I would call her she would flake then i would stop talking to her then shell contact me again. its like a cycle. I recently came to the conclusion she is like my ex. Bad news. But this time around i aint going to be such a d1ck. Shes trying to play me for a chump just like your lady. I aint going to say sh!t to her about hows shes acting. Im just not going to call her anymore (shell call me most likley sometime) well hang out or whatever maybe and if we do im going to use her and play her like she wanted to do to me. no words are going to be said im just going to do it. When i see her im going to ignore her have a good time etc. then when she comes up to me ill act all nonchalant most likely shell wanna fvck i sure as hell aint going to press it. And when and if i do shell be getting play.
basically look at it this way when a girl acts like this theyre setting themselves up to get fvcked over and get their egos knocked down. They deserve everything that comes to them. If you wanna get this girl fvck her over dude be a ****y d1ck but dont say anything about how shes getting to you about her little kid games.

 

[DJHoolahoop]

Not even reading this crap. WHO CARES? Worry about what's in YOUR head. There's an entire UNIVERSE in there that would take you a hundred lifetimes to explore. HOW can you possibly justify spending your precious time on figure out what SHE is thinking. WHO CARES?

because i want a girl of quality. f_ckin every hb out there may be a goal for some guys, but it aint mine and i'm looking for a keeper. what i don't want to do is be a b!tch and ditch someone too soon because i didn't give them the proper chance. and this sounds like i'm justifying sh_t here but i'm learning man i'm not at the stage where i can just frantically push every girl that doesn't meet my standards right away. i like progression and gradually learning things. i'm not ready to just go "ok you didn't call... NEXT" or "Ok you didn't put out on the second date... NEXT". or BS like that because even though it may be a numbers game or a game where the weak are tossed out and the strong are kept in, i'm not at that point where i'll treat dating and relationships as some game to be won.

that's why i pay attention to this and give things a chance and while saying this sh!t don't matter to anyone else but me i'm hoping i'm not the only one that thinks that its worth it.