Is getting a second date easy?

[The LadyKiller]

I went out for drinks with a HB7 I had very recently met a couple of nights ago and the date went well (from my determination at least). She laughed at my jokes, we had good two-way conversation and I didn't make any big mistakes. I picked up the bill (she offered to go Dutch, I nicely said no). We briefly texted afterwards - I had texted to say I had fun and hope she got home safe - and she said she was excited to go out again. However, she's gone ghost since that text. I only sent one text suggesting an outing later this week (our work hours are different, so texting is preferable here). She typically responds almost immediately, but now it's been a day and a half. Maybe she's busy or maybe she has buyer's remorse and is no longer interested.

Three of the last four girls I have taken out did not elect to go on a second date. I'm being completely honest when I say I am not making any major mistakes and that the dates seem to enjoy themselves. But for whatever reason there is often no Date #2. Is this common, or do most girls go out on at least two dates with a guy?

 

[Maximus Rex]

If she likes you there will not only be a second, she'll suggest it.

 

[fastlife]

I've only been on one 'first date' where I hadn't already slept with the girl. I never got a second. In 2016 the only way you can reasonably be sure you'll see a girl again is to sleep with her first.

 

[marmel75]

1) stop texting chicks to see if they "got home OK". You are trying to fvck them, not be their mother.

2) stop having conversations directly after the first date. It makes you look way too invested and like you have no options.

3) Did you kiss her? Escalate? Do anything other than talk? If not this WAS a major mistake and likely why she isn't interested in seeing you again.

To answer your question, if you aren't doing any of #3 then yes, it's pretty common. Women don't want guys that are scared to make moves, they want a guy who knows what they want and goes and gets it.

Talking and laughing doesn't make them wet. Kissing them and whispering in their ear "You look so fvcking sexy tonight" as you take their hand and put it directly on your c0ck and hold it and rub it does. No escalation=no second date in most cases. You simply become one of the 85% of guys she goes on dates with that don't know how to turn her on, and that turns her off.

 

[Dynamited]

Here's a good indicator if there's gonna be a second date. If she texts me thanks and she had a good time after the first. Always a 90% chance of us meeting again.

I've tried asking girls out without this indicator and they gave lame excuses.

Might work for you too

 

[marmel75]

Here's a good indicator if there's gonna be a second date. If she texts me thanks and she had a good time after the first. Always a 90% chance of us meeting again.

I've tried asking girls out without this indicator and they gave lame excuses.

Might work for you too

That's a result of doing things right in date, not the other way around. To get to the point where this happens, OP still needs to escalate in date if he isn't.

 

[aridchimp]

Don't let it get to your head. First dates are sketchy by nature. No one knows how these chicks felt. We assume however that they didn't feel a spark. Good job on getting the dates though and learning.

If I were you I would try to caveman a bit more next time. Test out being more aggressive.

They don't want an interesting friend, they want a steaming bull.

 

[pyros]

Nowadays this is how it goes.

She might have liked you (or not), but after a couple of days she probably talked or met other guys which she likes too or she likes more. She got 15 likes on her selfies on Instagram, and she has one or two parties to attend, so she thinks 'meh' about you now.

Nothing you can do abou it. Even if you would have had sex with her on date one...same thing could happend, but at least you would have gotten the sex.

 

[AllDay85]

Hopefully at least mild Kino on first date. Wait at least two days to ask for date two. If she likes you, it's a guarantee she'll say yes.

So perhaps your first dates aren't going as well as it seems.

Time to do some homework. Go read anti dumps machine.

And keep doing you. Lick your wounds and keep dating and playing the field. You're on your way.