Is French kissing... in a play cheating...please respond

[Bobbles]

My girlfriend who has been seeing me exclusively for a a few months now has decided she wants to audition for a play where she will be required to french kiss another guy. She says the kiss will mean nothing to her, and I believe her, but it's tearing me up inside having to potentially agree to this....and other plays with other guys.

I have made my concerns clear to her but she just accuses me of emotional blackmail.

I tried to persuade her to only audition for (lots) of other plays which don't invlolve this, but because she refuses to and back down on this, I see it as a choice she has to make between whether that play is more important or my feelings.

I am concerned because she just doesn't see this as an issue. She sees this as...well obviously I can kiss who ever i want....BECAUSE ITS IN A PLAY.....so it doesnt matter.

If I went to see this play and had to see her kissing this other guy on stage I think it wold kill me though, so I just dont know what to do.

I am so fond of her and I care for her so much I just dont know what to do

Am I being unreasonable?
What would you guys think?
What would you guys do?
Is this acceptable behaviour?


I have read nthe DJ bible. Am I looking at this from a totally un DJ point of view.

Is the DJ attitude just....ah f*ck it. THere are so many women out there...next the b*tch. I hope not. Is it, I have gotten in too deep too quick anyway.

Do you guys think there might be some underlying attitute where she is in a way choosing to put herself in a situation where she could kiss someone else and get away with it (because its in a play) because she is starting to get afraid of the committment and scared that if Im the last guy shes with she wont kiss anyone else.

I will note she is a virgin and has not kissed many guys before me. I mention this due if it might make some sense of the last paragraph. Please help

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Oh no, this is what ALL the hor actresses say "It's only acting".

Dump her for even thinking this shyt!! And she is not a virgin - virgins don't think like this!!She is trouble and she will destroy you emotionallly!!

Any woman who wants to be seen publicly kissing another dude and has a b/f is a hor -- you just don't know it yet ! She HAS THE HOR MINDSET!!

Do not get emotionallyattached to this girl!!!!!!! If she does the play then don't get mad -- just leave!!! In fact, leave her now!!

 

[dietzcoi]

So nudity, porno, etc is OK because it is "only acting"?

I think women have the right to do what they want, but so do men. If she does what she wants, do what you want and DUMP HER.

Disrespect is growing as the chumps/symps allow themselves to be used as doormats...

Dietzcoi

 

[Ridingthelightning]

Puerto Ricans are out of touch with the world.
You're emotionally attached to her, probably not a good idea. Its causing clout in your mind. Tell her how you feel, do it with confidence, but don't try and control her. Its her choice and if you tell her she can't then thats gonna cause tension. Tension is bad. Don't worry about this. Let her make her own decision.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by Ridingthelightning
Puerto Ricans are out of touch with the world.

No, it is just that we are in sync with the rhythmn of truth and are in keeping with our natures as men!!

There is a level of respect and decorum expected when a girl is committed to a guy and for thousands of years women would have never attempted to do shyt like this because they would have been smitten or killed!! But in this modern age men love hors and have lost their manhood in exchange for a whiff of the pvssy!!! Today, men are the pvssies!!

If you study history you will observe that all of the actresses who were in theater/movies are the hors of society!!! This is known and that is why Hollywood is filled with hors and homos today!!

 

[sexual_intellectual]

How about having sex with someone on camera?

http://www.worldnetdaily.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=44671

This wh0re justifies it by saying "[Doing] adult movies is acting, portraying a role. It's not Mary Ellen Cook, the real me."

My position would be - either she backs down, or she finds herself a new man.

 

[Triple X]

Yeah, this is pretty disrespectful - especially as she 'doesn't consider it an issue'.

If she was apologetic about it or at least a little reluctant to do it, I would probably let it slide. But the fact that she doesn't appear to give a sh*t (from what youve said anyways) suggests that she doesn't really care too much for your feelings.

The choice is yours, but personally I would consider NEXTing her. But if not, at least please try not to get too emotionally attached to her (not easy I know)

 

[Paprika]

I have to respectfully disagree with everybody in this thread.

It's just a d*mn play, for Christ's sake. When two actors kiss on stage, they do what is called a "stage kiss", meaning there is no tongue involved. It's called *acting*.

You need to get some *confidence* in yourself, not to mention some *maturity*.

 

[Triple X]

OK, well consider the examples of the following : Brad Pitt and Angeline Jolie, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones (amongst many others I'm sure).

They first met by 'playing' on-screen lovers, as a result they became more intimate and got used to each other's touch and probably enjoyed making out/having sex with each other. The result? They are now lovers for real.

A direct result of merely 'acting'.

 

[Unregistered]

Tell her you want to be in a porno. Hey, it's only acting, right?

 

[Triple X]

Lmao

 

[squirrels]

It's a f**king play.



Stop being so insecure.

On the flipside, I'd say tongue is going a bit far. If the play calls for a passionate kiss, it can be accomplished without the tongues getting involved. Tell her to put enough behind it to sell it and nothing more. And go watch the play one night...tell her you're coming, but don't tell her WHICH night.

And if you catch her hanging out with the guy beyond the context of the play, THEN, as PRL said, "dump the h0r".

But seriously, do you think Brad Pitt would flip out if Angelina Jolie had to do a love scene?

 

[Paprika]

Originally posted by Triple X
OK, well consider the examples of the following : Brad Pitt and Angeline Jolie, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones (amongst many others I'm sure).

They first met by 'playing' on-screen lovers, as a result they became more intimate and got used to each other's touch and probably enjoyed making out/having sex with each other. The result? They are now lovers for real.

A direct result of merely 'acting'.

Look, there's always that possibilty, but obviously he has very little control over what she does. I'm assuming she enjoys acting, so there will probably be many plays in the future where she will have to kiss another actor. He can be a man about it, and be confident that she won't leave him.

Or he can act like an insecure little p*ssy and break up with her before she even gets a chance to prove to him that he's got nothing to worry about.

And I can't believe we're even discussing this. I thought this topic was a joke at first.

 

[JohnJones]

What squirrels said was what I was trying to figure out -- sure, she needs to act like she's in love with the guy (and that's not cheating), but do the stage directions say "French kiss"? There's no "acting" kiss?

 

[Paprika]

Originally posted by JohnJones
What squirrels said was what I was trying to figure out -- sure, she needs to act like she's in love with the guy (and that's not cheating), but do the stage directions say "French kiss"? There's no "acting" kiss?

Yes, there is an "acting" kiss. It's called a "stage" kiss, as I've mentioned above.

 

[Triple X]

Originally posted by Paprika
Look, there's always that possibilty, but obviously he has very little control over what she does. I'm assuming she enjoys acting, so there will probably be many plays in the future where she will have to kiss another actor. He can be a man about it, and be confident that she won't leave him.

Or he can act like an insecure little p*ssy and break up with her before she even gets a chance to prove to him that he's got nothing to worry about.

True, he has the choice to react one way or the other, but for me personally I wouldn't want to be in the situation in the first place. Would you willingly go along to watch your girlfriend kissing another man?!? Real or not, it still gotta hurt.

 

[Paprika]

Originally posted by Triple X
True, he has the choice to react one way or the other, but for me personally I wouldn't want to be in the situation in the first place. Would you willingly go along to watch your girlfriend kissing another man?!? Real or not, it still gotta hurt.

A few years ago I had a girlfriend that was in a play and had to kiss another actor. I should mention that the dude was gay, so maybe that's why it didn't bother me so much. But even if he was straight, I honestly don't think it would've bothered me. She reassured me that it was just a play and nothing more. Plus, I was confident enough to know she wouldn't leave me for another guy.

 

[Bobbles]

Hey

I really appreciate all the feed back guys. I think I shall concede on *some" level my reaction was a little insecure...and immature.

At the same time you guys can of course understand the initial pain of having to contend with your girlfriend kissing someone else, albeit on stage.

Squirrels, I have always liked your advice. It seems sensible and down to earth.

She has never really given any reason to doubt her, so I shouldnt start now

Thank you

 

[darthsidious]

Wipe the w hores out.... ALL OF THEM.

 

[Rockadeimis]

Originally posted by Bobbles
She has never really given any reason to doubt her, so I shouldnt start now

Doubt can be useful at times...blind trust can be a painful experience.