Brian Drake
Don Juan
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I've been out of the dating scene since 2009 (when my then-relationship ended) and am just now getting back into things (after a long period of unemployment) and would appreciate some input in tonight's adventure.
I was out with some friends at an event and caught the eye of a young lady also there--we smiled at each other twice. When I later had the opportunity to approach this girl, I did so. She and a bunch of her friends were playing Jenga and I wandered over to watch. The girl saw me and we smiled at each other again. As the game went on I asked two questions about how it's played and she answered even though I wasn't specifically directing my questions to her; when the game ended she turned to me and introduced herself and we started talking and when the next round of the game started she passed on taking a turn so we could continue our chat.
We talked for perhaps ten minutes and at the end of the chat I asked for her home phone number (I've been using Doc Love's "The System" for many years and this is what he recommends for those of you who don't know). That's when she got a look like she'd just choked and told me Facebook was the best way to reach her. She gave me an "outdated" email but said it would get me to her FB page (it actually does!).
Despite how promising things began they did not end well, I don't think. Perhaps things have changed since 2009 but it used to be you could get a phone number or an excuse--"sorry I don't have a phone". I took down her email and said good-bye because I was, quite frankly, a little confused and didn't want to tell her no thanks. As I said, the email indeed leads to her FB page so while she can still ignore me through that venue I have the opportunity to make contact again.
On a related note, one of the girl's in the gang I attended the event with noticed what I was doing and totally tried to c--- block me by attempting to pull me out of the conversation "because we have to get going" (we all carpooled together)! This is a woman who has sent me mixed signals in the past so I moved on....and now I'm pursuing other women and she goes into a Spanish Inquisition with me of who, what, and why.....and this is the second time she has done this.
My take on this is I need to take stock of what worked in this situation and go repeat it with the next girl and forget the FB follow-up. What is your opinion? Thanks!
I was out with some friends at an event and caught the eye of a young lady also there--we smiled at each other twice. When I later had the opportunity to approach this girl, I did so. She and a bunch of her friends were playing Jenga and I wandered over to watch. The girl saw me and we smiled at each other again. As the game went on I asked two questions about how it's played and she answered even though I wasn't specifically directing my questions to her; when the game ended she turned to me and introduced herself and we started talking and when the next round of the game started she passed on taking a turn so we could continue our chat.
We talked for perhaps ten minutes and at the end of the chat I asked for her home phone number (I've been using Doc Love's "The System" for many years and this is what he recommends for those of you who don't know). That's when she got a look like she'd just choked and told me Facebook was the best way to reach her. She gave me an "outdated" email but said it would get me to her FB page (it actually does!).
Despite how promising things began they did not end well, I don't think. Perhaps things have changed since 2009 but it used to be you could get a phone number or an excuse--"sorry I don't have a phone". I took down her email and said good-bye because I was, quite frankly, a little confused and didn't want to tell her no thanks. As I said, the email indeed leads to her FB page so while she can still ignore me through that venue I have the opportunity to make contact again.
On a related note, one of the girl's in the gang I attended the event with noticed what I was doing and totally tried to c--- block me by attempting to pull me out of the conversation "because we have to get going" (we all carpooled together)! This is a woman who has sent me mixed signals in the past so I moved on....and now I'm pursuing other women and she goes into a Spanish Inquisition with me of who, what, and why.....and this is the second time she has done this.
My take on this is I need to take stock of what worked in this situation and go repeat it with the next girl and forget the FB follow-up. What is your opinion? Thanks!
" because I wanted to play it cool..
