Is being social media inactive killing me?

[Dan Bautista]

Hey, guys. I'm a fifteen year old in the tenth grade. I haven't been in the best shape in the past few years, namely from the fifth to the end of ninth grade. I'm in a decent shape now, excluding legs that are bigger than any other guy in my class and a little bit of fat around my stomach but nothing that can be seen.

Almost everyone in my school's pretty socially active i.e. have an Instagram/Facebook account, regularly upload new stuff and all of that. I've, however, refrained from this social media stuff as much as possible, mostly because my parents are pretty "cultural" and won't buy me a phone until I pass the tenth grade. I see other guys in my class who are not even in the best shape getting a lot of girls. All my friends having a girlfriend except me makes me feel pretty bad at times, to be honest. I also have this friend and almost every girl we fvcking see, he whispers into my ear saying how she has hit on them and whatnot. I'm starting to feel as if he's bulls*tting me but he's a pretty good looking guy and that makes me feel more like sh*t.

So my question is: 1) is my lack of social media activity ruining my chances of getting a girlfriend? I feel as if I'm doomed and won't ever get anywhere with girls.

2) Or am I just fvcking ugly? How do I figure for myself if I'm a decent looking guy or not?

P.S. - Adding a girl over on social media and then starting a relationship without any physical contact for most of the relationship seems to be the norm over here. Plus there are no places out here where I can go and meet some girls and I seem to be lack a lot of confidence in myself.

 

[dk1990S111]

mostly because my parents are pretty "cultural" and won't buy me a phone until I pass the tenth grade.

That could be a big problem right there. I had my own phone in 6th grade. Cant imagine telling a girl to call my house phone in high school lol are you from outside the US?

 

[Alvafe]

cultural or not, tell me how is the norm where you live?

do facebook kills you socially? not really not, as long you are active, play any kind of sport, for fun, study, get good grades, but the more important is learn, having good grades is not always the same as getting knowledge, you need to learn and apply it, don't carry people in class, study and work hard, studying is like work when you get older, you don't let it get sloppy you will keep your minimum then you can only go up.

read the dj bible and like I said learn and adapt, make use of what you have

 

[SmooveMooves]

Lol. You definetly need those things at your age. Not having them makes you an outsider as you can see.

Hold off on the social media for now until you begin to build a bigger social group. Only thing worse then having no social media is a lame one. You definetly, at the very least, need a cellphone. If you don't have one, you can't game women in highschool period. I don't care what anyone else here says.

Highschool is a wonderful time because it's often where people change drastically and find themselves. You have the luxury of finding this shít early. There's people here who didn't get red pilled until they were 40+.

Hold off on chasing women for the rest of this school year. Focus on improvement. Find out a way to goto a gym consistently. Focus on your hobbies and schoolwork and study game. Learn body language, how to speak, act, walk. Figure out your style and how to best dress to your personality stylishly. Engross yourself in the life of an alpha. When your parents buy you a cellphone next year consider that your fresh start and jump in.

Read:

• DJ bible
• The Rational Male
• The Black Flag
• 48 Laws of Power

 

[Dan Bautista]

First of all, thank you for your time, all of you.

Yes. I live outside the US in an Asian country. I've tried convincing my parents to buy me a cellphone but I'm always met with the reply of "You'll get one after the tenth grade. I never had a cellphone until I was in my twenties." or something along those lines.

I'm planning to start going to the gym after the tenth grade (which is also when I'll get a cellphone) and start applying the DJ principles.

 

[Von]

I would add... give yourself a goal to read at least 30 minutes a day (if you can ... do more).... everyday.

Same with gym... maybe 1 hour a day

So you learned to put it in your school no matter what you do in life.

This advice will expand your knowledge, help in school, and improve your health.

Social Media... yeah you should get it especially if its a way in your country/age... to avoid parent control

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

It's a fine balance with social media. And I think it will become more so in years to come.

Your generation will be the first to have never really known a world without personal phones and the internet. My generation is probably the last that will (clearly) remember the time before.

No doubt you to need some sort of electronic/online identity in order to participate in society going forward; but do yourself a favour and don't let it rule you life. Certainly don't rely on the internet for income; or at least a sole source of income. Get yourself a proper vocation, in the real world. I have a feeling the e-bubble will last another 20 years or so. Then the web will start becoming quite redundant, like everything does eventually.

Over the last 10 years, since the social media explosion, I have watched it basically become a monstrous vehicle of narcissism, first and foremost. Be aware of that as you enter the electronic ether. Long story short, if someone is pushing their lifestyle or ego online, all day every day, don't let it make you feel inadequate in any way - their online profile is merely an empty shell exemplifying the depth of their real life personality, 9 times out of 10.