Is Anybody Else Like Me?

[WestCoast1492]

After discovering this board just a few minutes ago, my heart skipped a beat. Reading the posts the past 15 minutes gives hope that maybe i'm not alone in my pathetic battle wtih the opposite sex.

The 411:
I'm 21, and i've never even kissed a girl.. I've never really even had a girl as a friend. The odd thing is I have plenty of guy friends, and have no problems just talking to girls. But it has never gotten beyond that. The best i've ever done was "close-grinding" with a girl at a party/bar but that would be if they were drunk and would never lead anywhere. I've talked to girls in class before, even gotten to know 1 or 2 a little better, but that still was moot.

The bottom line is I have 1 more year left of school, and don't want to blow it. Any college guys out there in a similar situation with some good advice. How to meet girls on campus, with specific ideas(not just talk in class).

I look foward to talking with everyone here and maybe charting my progress(if any).

 

[nosexbox]

If you're at least getting to the "close-grinding" stage, you've got a start. Any girl who's rubbing crotches with you is into you, and once you know a girl is into you, fear shouldn't be an issue.

Other guys, those with a heck of a lot more experience than me, will give you the knowledge you need.

 

[nishbuk]

1) Read the entire DJ bible:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

2) BOOTCAMP:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/djbc.pdf

Join our bootcamp thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=81545

You can start week one, while we do week two. GET OUT THERE!

 

[MercutioTHEGREAT]

Originally posted by nosexbox
If you're at least getting to the "close-grinding" stage, you've got a start.

I was doing that in middle-school

Any girl rubbing on your crouch is in to you

DEFinately not true....


If you want it enough go take a chance and talk to a girl....sounds hard but they are all waiting for you to say something to them.

trust me.

 

[HereToImprove]

Seize the moment, but don't get into the "its my last chance" trap. You have a lot of living to do, and frankly, your pool of open women only grows as you go through your early and mid twenties. I was scared my social life would die at graduation and it was just not so.

As far as a pure body count goes, I only had four girls in HS/college and I have had 5 in my first two months on here/ASF. Granted, this was severely stilted by a series of very long relationships, but it goes to show you that women don't drop off the face of the earth after graduation. My sister is 21, frankly about a HB9, as much as it hurts to say it, and she dates a 25 y/o. Life is just beginning after college.

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by WestCoast1492
Is Anybody Else Like Me?

ya, there is a lot of us on here like that, some however petend they are the players of the millenium.

 

[GrimPhallic]

I will tell you what I always say to people like this... Read that fvcking bible and watch porn... and learn from it!

 

[skeeloo]

dont be afraid my son 90 percent of us dudes here are in your shoes ok make that 70 percent or 80. like some guys can get laid once a year and try to act like they are the mack.

 

[flexion_]

Welcome - you have a lot of work to do. So chop chop.

 

[WestCoast1492]

Tell me about it. It's gonna be an uphill battle.

Anyone have specific suggestions for a college student though?

 

[Aisujin]

It seems that you have an active social life, you just need to work on yourself and your approach. Do you dress well? Are you in relatively good shape? Could you improve yourself in anyway? I've found that its nearly impossible to change the thoughts and opinions of others but what you CAN change is YOURSELF. By improving yourself you will naturally build confidence and others WILL notice. And women are attracted to this type of confidence like moths to a flame.

As for your approach to picking up girls, the DJ bible and Boot camp are good starters. They will give you ideas and framework about how to initiate your first set of approaches, but ultimately you will begin to develop your own a method... a method that is more natural and less scripted. And after you get her number the REAL game begins. Read and absorb as much information as you possibly can.

Best of luck and keep us updated!

 

[WestCoast1492]

My social life is average at best. Part of the problem is, none of the guys I hang out with are exactly rico suaves. They may have more experience then me, but it's not like their girl friends are surrounding me.

I have been going to the gym 4 times a week, i dress reasonably. My biggest fear is the approach. I'm afraid of it, i think women will think i'm crazy/stalker. I'm just not convinced women want random men coming onto them. But what a Catch 22 as that is my only shot.

 

[Aisujin]

Hey westcoast,

Well it sounds like you got yourself together. That's saying a HELL of a lot, so you should get some satifaction out of that. A lot of other guys are in MUCH worse situations than yourself (ie. obese, lazy, bad dresser.. ect)

From my own personal experience, what I have found to work is just to simply be OBSERVANT when you want to pick up a girl. Check out what she is wearing (anything special?), what she is studying, what going on at the time (Hell I've picked up girls waiting at a bus stop, just starting a conversation about how long the bus is taking) The GOAL is to start a CONVERSATION, once you get that going you can start to get a feel for the person. Don't forget to introduce yourself as well. If you enjoyed talking with the person you should say something along the lines of, "Hey, I really enjoyed talking with you would you like to get **insert first date idea like coffee or a drink** sometime?" Its REALLY that easy.

You mentioned you have this fear of being labed a stalker. Lemme illuminate something for you, you are at COLLEGE my friend. Girls EXPECT guys to hit on them... they LIKE it. So you really shouldn't have any hang ups on that. If you don't believe me, then just try an experiment: try talking with random girl... not to pick her up... not to get her number... just to have a conversation. You'll be surprised how many girls are more than willing to have a chat with you. And if what I've said isn't enough, you should check out the DJ Bible for articles on fear and cold pickups.

Best of luck!

 

[mrRuckus]

Originally posted by nosexbox
If you're at least getting to the "close-grinding" stage, you've got a start. Any girl who's rubbing crotches with you is into you, and once you know a girl is into you, fear shouldn't be an issue.

Nothing is easier than knowing a girl is into you. Pure instinct for me just takes over because in my mind i KNOW this fruit is mine for the picking so no reason for any anxiety whatsoever. Then i just come off as even more desirable because i'm 100% free just to play game and screw with her head