involved with an older woman

[vs3]

hi! everyone
recently i got involved with a woman who is 10 yrs older than me. actually she was the one who wanted me badly. she made clear indications regarding all this, made subtle advances towards me, giving me enough hints, touching my hand, my face at times. i dunno when did i get attracted to her. she's simply amazing.
she's a widow and has a very sweet eight year ol daughter.
i love so much that her that can't even think of leaving her. she's also very fond of me. but she's busy most of the time. so we meet mayb once in a week or so. can anyone comment on all this. like wat future do these kind of relationships have? i mean how far can one go? coz she has already said she can't leave her in laws. so no question of settling with her. so all i can provide her support-physical and emotional. thats it i guess.
what do u all say?

 

[copperfield]

Be careful. I have been involved with older women. They, at least initially, seem to be in control. However, if they do fall for you -- depending on the mental make-up of the person you could be in for several histrionic sessions. They suddenly seem to transform from being smart and sophisticated to extremely needy and insecure. Be prepared for guilt trips, crying sessions, screaming etc.

obviously, i had bad experiences. Might be different for you -- but watch out for some initial tell-tale signs.

good luck.

 

[Milez]

if you are 8 years and she 18, then it`s ok

but in general, havin older women as (a sexual ) partner is disgusting

 

[bp1974]

Originally posted by Milez
if you are 8 years and she 18, then it`s ok

but in general, havin older women as (a sexual ) partner is disgusting

Don't knock it 'til you've tried it.

 

[Falcon Eye]

Originally posted by Milez
if you are 8 years and she 18, then it`s ok

but in general, havin older women as (a sexual ) partner is disgusting

In my opinion you are wrong, wrong, wrong.

I've always found older women to be sexy as hell, and to this day still enjoy them. Older women are one of the great pleasures of life in my view and any guy who gets and opportunity with one should take full advantage.

Sex with an older women is anything but disgusting.

 

[Hot Ice]

Originally posted by Milez
if you are 8 years and she 18, then it`s ok

but in general, havin older women as (a sexual ) partner is disgusting

Ummmm... f*ck you!

I'm 18 and older hot women turn me on sooooooo bad.
Drools.

LOL
notice that when I say older woman, I mean older than me.
So I take 19 year old chicks older too..

Well I wouldn't have problems banging a HOT 35 year old woman.
Quite the opposite actually.

vs3, don't get infatuated, but see how it goes.
And if you are not exclusive, you can always bang other chicks.

 

[vdk]

I work in a bank office in Australia as a clerk and all I can say older women there are so hot, just looking at them makes my day better. They dress well and are not as crazy as women my age.

I had a lot of women at least 8 years older than me be extra 'nice' to me. OMG I love the kino they give me....

Though most of them are good for a bang, but come on, any serious relationship with an older woman has a higher rate of failing than the divorce rate in the U.S.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by copperfield
Be careful. I have been involved with older women. They, at least initially, seem to be in control. However, if they do fall for you -- depending on the mental make-up of the person you could be in for several histrionic sessions. They suddenly seem to transform from being smart and sophisticated to extremely needy and insecure. Be prepared for guilt trips, crying sessions, screaming etc.

obviously, i had bad experiences. Might be different for you -- but watch out for some initial tell-tale signs.

good luck.

I think that if she was needy she would be spending MUCH more time with him than once a week. It seems like she has other things to keep her busy. Not all women are like the one you dated.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Falcon Eye
In my opinion you are wrong, wrong, wrong.

I've always found older women to be sexy as hell, and to this day still enjoy them. Older women are one of the great pleasures of life in my view and any guy who gets and opportunity with one should take full advantage.

Sex with an older women is anything but disgusting.

I agree. If you are talented enough to keep the IL up of an older woman that has her life together, it can definitely be one of the most pleasurable things experienced.

Falcon, Ashton Kutcher dates Demi Moore, wouldn't you?

 

[copperfield]

I need to clarify my post.

a) If you are in your teens and she is in her twenties -- it is a win-win situation. you can learn a lot with the right person.

b) if you are in your early twenties and she in her early thirties -- then if you are not careful you may get hurt.

c) my previous post on neediness holds true only if you are in your late twenties to early thirties.

sex with older women can be the best. in each of the above cases if you get the right woman (with some experience handling men) you are guaranteed to have some of the best times of your life.

yes, in situations (a) and (b) above you could run the danger of not being able to keep the IL high enough. but then you live and learn and don't make the same mistakes again.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Dudes, she has an 8 year old daughter. Stay away from this woman. She only wants you because you provide the affection she wants - she doesn't see you as a LTR person as long as you're okay - then fine!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by DJ_Dork
Dudes, she has an 8 year old daughter. Stay away from this woman. She only wants you because you provide the affection she wants - she doesn't see you as a LTR person as long as you're okay - then fine!

Umm, isn't affection what ALL women want in some form or another? Personally I enjoy it too. And what's the problem if she willingly reciprocates? And so what she has a child, children can show affection too.

VS3, don't consider a LTR until you have made it past the six month mark. That is usually when people start evaluating their relationships to determine whether their needs are being met. Don't allow your feelings to sway just because she is affectionate to you though, make sure that the majority of your needs are fulfilled when you are together.

Oh, don't sweat the age difference. One of my best LTR relationships was with a woman 14 years my senior with two children. Go into it as a man without fear or trepidation with both eyes wide open and you will be fine no matter the outcome.

 

[vs3]

involved with an older woman--PART TWO

hi! again
jus check out the PART TWO of this thread n please help
vs3

 

[copperfield]

If she has a kid -- then remember that there are 3 people in the relationship and not 2. Also, DO NOT start getting close to the kid until you are sure about the mother. The last thing you want to do is get the kid to start liking you and then dissappear.

I have made these mistakes and, actually, regret it now. Also, i will second the fact that a woman with an 8 year old kid, if the right one, can be a fantastic soulmate, mother and partner. If you like the kid, she will appreciate you and there is nothing like the appreciation of a beautiful, affectionate woman.

 

[Player_Supreme]

doode...you sound real bad. Your what's called a boy toy. This older woman calls the shots. You jump like a puppy dog begging for attention.

she isn't serious about you but your serious about her.

If this kinda sympish life makes you happy then more power too you.

Not all men were designed to be leaders anyway so f*uck it.