Invited me over for drinks...but..

[GuitarOnFire]

So this girl invited me over for drinks from online dating after a 10 minute conversation. I grabbed the Hennessey (sp) from the local store and some apple juice (her suggestion). She is 22, I am 34. I got there as soon as I could. She seemed to be very interested in me, asking all kinds of questions. She drank most of the bottle herself! (40%!)

She shared some personal information and I told her a bit too much about my past.. We talked maybe for 30 minutes or so. Anyways, she is rich, in a $1400 / month apartment paid by her lawyer mom and dad! Her mom called and asked her to babysit, so after we had both been drinking I could no longer make a move.

She then calls me back at 1am and says her mom didn't need her help but we could continue drinking together because she knows a 'afterhours' person who charges extra for alcohol ($90!!). While she is rich, I am not... So I said I'd only have $60 on me.. which may have turned her off.

She called back but said she had some issues to deal with (family?) so she would call. I think she overdrank but never called back. I just stayed home and went to sleep.

This morning, I sent a happy text asking if she got everything resolved that didn't get a reply. I sent another around 5-6pm and she replied, apologizing that she had passed out last night. So I said I'd like to hangout with her again soon and that it was fun! I then asked her what her Facebook was and she said she'd add me. I gave her the information and never got a request back... So I sent a basic text asking if she could find me OK and whether she would like me to add her instead..

I noticed before getting her reply back that she had deleted her POF account. She had mentioned that she was with this guy for 6 years but found out he was married. He had made her pregnant (???) and so she got an abortion and came home from Cuba without him a day early (???).

I was thinking of waiting a day or two and see if she reaches out. She was reaching out a lot last night. Maybe call her instead of texting her and inviting her out to nachos for Friday night?

Much thanks for the help.

 

[youngprodigy]

When you left she probably went and ****ed chad in the room down the hall. You're overthinking it, but she lost interest. Who knows for what and who cares. NEXT.

 

[Von]

I think she just wanted sex

Some girls never give 2nd chances if you don't escalate right (100%)

Don't over text after. 1 after à while should be enough.

Ask her again, if she replies go, if not move on

 

[lizardking82]

This is a learning process, my friend. Been there. Trust me.

First mistake you made was by sharing your feelings early on in the conversation.

Second, you seem like the kind of guy who uses exclamation points and smileys in texts. Well...stop that.

Thirdly, you asked her to Facebook add you? You're 34, not a teenage Russian girl.

Fourth, you told her you'd like to hang out again soon. That's a no no. Also, she's 22. She just wanted to have sex and then forget she ever met you. That's how 22 year old women are.


Don't take it any other way than a seasoned DJ helping out another DJ.

Question: using smileys in texts...how is that bad in a conversation? Like, what does that convey?

 

[GuitarOnFire]

Hrm, not sure what gave you the impression I use exclamation points in text from how I wrote above..? I do use the occasional smiley but not ten. "Happy text" meant I didn't take her disappearances or inconsistent replies to heart, positive vibes, etc.

Anyhoo, I haven't texted her since I asked for her name yesterday. I was thinking she only wanted sex and the interruption was super inconvenient (for the both of us).

I was going to call her later today and maybe arrange a get-together for tomorrow. I figure the sooner, the better. If it doesn't go well, then at least I took action and tried to escalate further.

She seems extremely forgetful. Right after meeting her, she explained that she had to get a new phone because she lost hers in Cuba when out clubbing..

Edit: I figured a call/text in the morning would be more random and better than one in the evening so I left a voicemail saying we chilled the other night over Hennessey but I had to go, but was hoping to meet up tomorrow evening for drinks and/or nachos (go out or make our own together). Left a voicemail and a text, since I know girls love their texts but may not check their voicemail. If no reply, then I'll throw the number away...