Invited a chick to go see a movie; she didn't come

[itishe]

There's this girl I have in a few of my college classes. She's shy, and in my eyes very attractive and she's never had a boyfrience since 5th grade so I figure why not give her a shot. She's came to one of my parties and we talk once and a while, along with alot of commenting/messaging on Myspace so it's not like it was a cold approach.

Anywho I sent her a text tonight, here's how the conversation went:

"A few of us are going to Norbit at 7 if you want to come"

She replies, "Who's all going, and what message were you talking about"

"Luke, Kyle, Me and maybe Francine"

and after that she never replied. Ignore the "message" part, but is there anything I could of done better?

 

[Poll]

Because she felt like a virgin being invited to an orgy.

 

[Obsidian]

movies aren't real good for first dates, nor are groups of friends

 

[itishe]

I see, so I'll just play it cool and try again in a week or two. Any ideas for dates that arn't as threatening but get the point across that I'm not interested in being her buddy?

 

[itishe]

I'm still legally defined as a child, so I figure I got another year to act like one. :moon:

 

[blueguy]

"Luke, Kyle, Me and maybe Francine"

Yeah, groups make it difficult for isolation. Movies make it difficult for rapport. And also bringing a girl makes it an instant "no" to girls who play by the rules.

All around a group of friends (including a female) to a movie isn't a first date.

I know you were probably trying to imply competition by mentioning "maybe Francine", but it was a bad call in this context.

 

[itishe]

Oh no, I just wanted the chick to feel comfortable. I figured that she'd be more comfortable and have others to talk to if I get bored of talking to her if there were more there. I honestly invited another girl to the show that is a friend of mine and she asked so I told her, I didn't do it to make her jealous or bring competition.

 

[Poll]

Ok, try this for another date.. Call her or txt her, "Hey, I just rented a porno, want to come over and watch it with me?" It's best to be suttle at first.

 

[blueguy]

If I was a girl, and I got that message from a guy I liked, I could see it as the guy thinking of me only as a friend. On the other hand, if a guy I liked called me and asked me to do something one-on-one, I would be more interested.

 

[itishe]

Live and learn I suppose. I'll see if she wants to go grab a bite to eat sometime.

 

[LA_Chico]

yea bro, invite her over for DVD

 

[foamy]

"yea bro, invite her over for DVD"

Dido,

Make her dinner. That is, make her dinner with her there. Have something planned out, like pasta (spaghetti is easy to make) and make it with her.

Then use lots of Kino while cooking, smear some sauce on her face (In a joking manor) ext. ext.

If you cant cook, learn.

Worked for me lots of times.


Foamy

 

[thickandcreamy]

There's nothing wrong with suggesting a movie. Letting her know you have a social life and that she's invited along for something you're already doing anyway is cool.

Nothing wrong with texting either. Girls text each other, say at least once a week. Maybe more!

The question I have is: is this girl attracted to you in the first place? Have you gotten any IOI's from her? If not, move on. If yes, suggest another get together. Just the two of you.

 

[Obsidian]

yeah, i guess i have to agree that it wasn't a particularly *bad* move to ask her. It just wasn't real great either, for the reasons I mentioned.

coffee or a meal is better. Isolation is usually important, and also you get more of a chance to converse than at a movie.

 

[thickandcreamy]

Regardless of the outcome (and I hope they are positive), props to the OP for taking action.

 

[dynamicallyidle]

Be a MAN and CALL next time. You pretty much just asked her out on AIM. Are you 12?

Meh, I like texting. What shows more disinterest? It's all a matter of what you say, and how she hears you saying it in her head as she reads it. But so far, it's worked well for me.

 

[Obsidian]

hah, i asked a girl to dinner over facebook a couple days ago

Of course, I didn't have her number so it was justifiable.

 

[Jon55]

"yea bro, invite her over for DVD"

Dido,

Make her dinner. That is, make her dinner with her there. Have something planned out, like pasta (spaghetti is easy to make) and make it with her.

Then use lots of Kino while cooking, smear some sauce on her face (In a joking manor) ext. ext.

If you cant cook, learn.

Worked for me lots of times.


Foamy

Bears repeating. Cooking = insta-win (as long as you make it fun)

 

[Lust]

There's this girl I have in a few of my college classes. She's shy, and in my eyes very attractive and she's never had a boyfrience since 5th grade so I figure why not give her a shot. She's came to one of my parties and we talk once and a while, along with alot of commenting/messaging on Myspace so it's not like it was a cold approach.

Anywho I sent her a text tonight, here's how the conversation went:

"A few of us are going to Norbit at 7 if you want to come"

She replies, "Who's all going, and what message were you talking about"

"Luke, Kyle, Me and maybe Francine"

and after that she never replied. Ignore the "message" part, but is there anything I could of done better?

I'm guessing you didn't escalate right.

And does she know these other people? I would have tried a 1on1

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Be a MAN and CALL next time...