introverted men

[nokkigelo]

just a question guys i mean all the qualities that a woman like and all the bag of tricks and advice like be confident, talk a lot etc. are qualities of an extremely extroverted men. how about the introvert men can they become successful with women also? or they have no choice but to change their personality and become extorvert?

 

[CostaDeSol]

I'm a big introvert but I think i can chip in:

be confident, talk a lot etc. are qualities of an extremely extroverted men.

this is false. Being confident simply means believing in yourself, it does not mean being an extrovert. Also, you can talk a lot and it will get you absolutely no where. Extroverts can talk ALL they want to and still get no where.

Just work on your social skills. talk when you have to/when you want to. you DO NOT have to be an extrovert to be able to do this.

how about the introvert men can they become successful with women also?

Its about getting experience with women and working on yourself, same as an extrovert.

Only as an introvert, you have to make it a point to engage with strangers more than you are probably used to.

 

[foreverAFC]

most women like guys who are extroverted sociopaths, guys like the dude from jersey shore and guys who wear affliction shirts and take weak pro hormones and hit the clubs and bars every night, most females arent into quiet introspective guys

i myself am pretty introverted, i just fill my time with things like substance abuse and internet porn to get by, women are looking for a dane cook not a bill hicks

 

[CostaDeSol]

Also OP, check out this discussion on what it takes for a guy to become an HB8:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=205118&highlight=hb8

the money quote of that discussion is this:

If you are 30 years old, and you

1. aren't in a stupid amount of debt and even better are in a position to pay your debt off very soon

2. don't have any ex wifes

3. don't have any kids

4. work out often

you are a de facto HB8. it really is that simple. that's it.

sounds crazy. how many guys do you know are all three of the above. no debt, no wife no kids. i know 2. most guys have kids most are in such a hurrty to play house they do it all wrong.

no where in that discussion does it say that you have to be an extrovert.

 

[Alvafe]

so I m a 8? I sure was thinking I was a 9 or 10

just using the costadesol marks since I have my savings, have my car, no ex, no kids and i'm working out for more or less 2 years.

to forever AFc, so you belive woman like gay guys? nothing new on that but I guess we want they to want to open her legs liking or not is just a bonus

well i'm more the quiet guy and some say i'm too shy, but the truth is I don't like people, I save my time for people I like to stay around, and really its funny when you do this kind of thing and people still go after you to talk with you, simple put people like to talk about thenselfs so if you are the stay quiet and listen more people will gravity around you, you just need to work on being more social even without talking sometimes just a nod will do.

and know how to show interest and close the deal, know this 2 is more important

 

[The Duke]

My introverted cousin used to hit the bars/clubs up with me and he had a tough time picking up girls. He had all the key pieces to be successful with women, but he rarely approached/initiated contact with females. In the bar/club scene this is pretty critical to success. Your more extroverted people will be more successful in this type of environment.

If you are introverted, I'd consider alternative venues that are more reserved. Perhaps more activity oriented events where the interaction between males/females is more built in to the activity. Perhaps joining a softball/sand volley ball team or something from meetup.com.

 

[JoeMarron]

Yes, you must be extroverted to get women on the regular.

I agree with this but if OP is really an introvert he wouldn't enjoy this anyways. I'd imagine an introvert would be more of a relationship dude than a player. On the other hand being an introvert can actually be a benefit. An introvert is less likely to talk a girl's head off and give away his mystery. It would also be easier for him to be aloof and indifferent since he genuinely doesn't desire to be as social as an extrovert.

 

[yyc12]

^^ please not the aloof again..please please please...:trouble:

 

[JoeMarron]

^^ please not the aloof again..please please please...:trouble:

Lol..

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/?s=aloof

 

[yyc12]

It's well known that the more extroverted you are, the more women you'll have throughout your life. I've seen it time and time again. As an introvert, you'll just have to accept that you either have to suck it up and pretend to be more extroverted (which may or may not work as it might come off as fake) or just accept that you'll have less women overall, which isn't a bad thing (read these boards and see how much women really add to one's life, lol).

 

[FairShake]

I'm not particularly introverted but I am socially awkward which has the same result in the end. Missing chances for pvssy.

I've found that any type of game where a woman is in your presence more than once is a much better fit for me and the introverted guys I know. As long as the real you, underneath all the stand off, is cool, there are girls out there that will see it and want to be with you.

What to do when you are around them? I always tell socially awkward guys that being aloof (sorry above poster...) and letting her talk is your way to counteract the weird things we think and say. I say that introverted guys need to push themselves into actively engaging in conversation. Start small and start right away. I have found that socially introverted friends of mine need a little more time to fall into a groove of conversation. If they don't find that groove early on they stray further and further off the path.

Make sure that when you are out with friends or at school or work that you get going early on with greetings and typical small talk. This lubricates the social gears (like alcohol...hint) and makes it easier to engage as the day/night goes on. Later when the mood hits it's easier to transition into a more sexual state.

 

[Desdinova]

just a question guys i mean all the qualities that a woman like and all the bag of tricks and advice like be confident, talk a lot etc. are qualities of an extremely extroverted men. how about the introvert men can they become successful with women also? or they have no choice but to change their personality and become extorvert?

You don't need any of that to keep a woman, you just need enough to get their attention. I have the same problem and I've been using the whole "Mystery Method" technique of keeping a queue of interesting stories from my life that make social interaction with strangers work. All you need is to get in there and you're fine. You don't need to yap your mouth constantly to become the sexiest guy alive, you just need to open the door to give her the option to walk in.

 

[zekko]

I agree with this but if OP is really an introvert he wouldn't enjoy this anyways. I'd imagine an introvert would be more of a relationship dude than a player. On the other hand being an introvert can actually be a benefit. An introvert is less likely to talk a girl's head off and give away his mystery. It would also be easier for him to be aloof and indifferent since he genuinely doesn't desire to be as social as an extrovert.

Being an introvert doesn't necessarily mean you can't be outgoing or have good social skills. But you make an interesting point. I'm an introvert myself, and I would prefer to be in a good relationship with a girl than go out and bang a bunch of randoms. Although I did my share of running around when I was younger, so you can't go by that entirely.

Just like I would rather have a few really good friends than a large number of acquaintances, I would rather have a good LTR with a girl than be a player. That probably is typical of most introverts. Of course, this is somewhat dependent on what stage of life you are in, and what experience you have had.

Another thing is, a good many girls are introverts too. So not all of them are thrilled with the idea of living the wild night life and having their social senses overwhelmed. Many might prefer a night at home, at least once in a while. Again though, the younger girls are more likely to be craving the new experiences and excitement of things like the club scene. Men tend to be more isolative/independent than women, however.

 

[Nino-Tk]

I think its not as black and white like that. I'm a mixture of the two, I love being by myself, I don't mind staying inside my room to write some poetry or play PES 2013 the whole weekend. Yet, on the other hand, unlike the popular misconception that introverts are socially awkward, I'm not, I relate easy with people and I ENJOY cold approaching.

I hate parties and clubs so the streets are my main supply of women. That's what extroverts usually do right? But I enjoy it. So, I don't think its cut and dry like that. Don't limit or box yourself into society's definitions, we are complex.

 

[Mike32ct]

I think it's a myth that introverts don't like to talk.

I'm an introvert who likes to talk one on one about a topic that interests me. Mention game, dance, or something technical/electrical/mechanical and I'll chew your ear off lol.

Even the most reclusive video game player will talk for hours if you bring up video games as a topic.

So it's not that introverts don't like to talk. Yes we prefer our alone time, but we like to talk too, but only on our own terms. Even then, we have to pull away and recharge after a while.

But do I like to make fluff talk with groups of people? Hell no.

Do you need some extroverted traits for game? For sarging groups of women, yes. For sarging lone wolves and some one on one social circle game, you can get by as an introvert. It tends to work best with highly intelligent women who can appreciate the depth of your conversations.

 

[yyc12]

Another thing is, a good many girls are introverts too.

I've yet to meet a truly introverted female...never ever ever. Either that or they all want an outgoing dude because they think they need balancing out. I've had it with the truly outgoing women tbh, lol, :trouble: .

 

[zekko]

I've yet to meet a truly introverted female...never ever ever.

Really? I can guarantee they're out there, although there doesn't seem to be any hard agreement on what the percentages are. You've never met a shy woman, seriously? I bet most shy women are introverts. One of the sexiest women I know is very demure.

I agree women are generally more social than men though. They probably have to be to survive. Since they are the physically weaker gender, there's strength in numbers, or with a strong male.

Anyway, most people are a mix of introversion and extroversion. For someone to be 100% either way would be very rare. Most people fall in the middle somewhere, around 50/50. I am a strong introvert, though.

 

[CostaDeSol]

I've yet to meet a truly introverted female...never ever ever.

I've met a ton of them. I think its because i'm introverted and I tend to be attracted to women on the same wavelength as myself, and I end up targeting them.

They are as quiet, anti-social, and socially awkward as myself, sometimes even more so.

 

[yyc12]

Really? I can guarantee they're out there, although there doesn't seem to be any hard agreement on what the percentages are. You've never met a shy woman, seriously? I bet most shy women are introverts. One of the sexiest women I know is very demure.

I agree women are generally more social than men though. They probably have to be to survive. Since they are the physically weaker gender, there's strength in numbers, or with a strong male.

Anyway, most people are a mix of introversion and extroversion. For someone to be 100% either way would be very rare. Most people fall in the middle somewhere, around 50/50. I am a strong introvert, though.

Well, there's a difference between shyness and introversion. I've met several women who might have appeared "shy". These are the types that always describe themselves as "reserved in the beginning but outgoing once i get comfortable/get to know you better". I've never met a woman that described herself as a strong introvert in that she genuinely prefers alone time and is perfectly fine with extended alone time. I would LOOOVVVEE to meet someone like this; this is the type worth having oneitis over, :crackup: