University.Kid
Don Juan
I'm 18 years old, 5'11 at 200lbs with visible abs. I'm currently in my first year of a commerce degree at one of the best Universities in Canada. I'm huge into working out, eating healthy and getting good grades.
I've slept with 4 girls in my life, only one of which I would rate over 7 on the looks scale. I would rate my body a 9 and my face about a 6. I don't have anything wrong with me except being pretty pale (have tried tanning beds to no success), my teeth are straight and white, I'm clean shaven with about as much acne as any 18 year old and I keep my hair cut short. I dress like your average University student; I usually wear jeans and a polo, occasionally a button down. I'm currently living in a house with 3 nerdy older guys that I hadn't met until the day I moved in, but next year will be moving in with some buddies that I have met at school.
I have recently broke off a 7-month relationship with a girl that I thought I loved. Things started off great; really cute, innocent small-town girl with a great personality and similar goals. After a couple months things changed and she began to treat me like garbage; something that I was oblivious to. Her words were always sweet but her actions rarely coincided. The final straw was her grinding up on another guy at a club, something that she was doing solely for attention. Her lack of compassion when I asked her about it put everything into perspective for me.
After some heavy thinking I eventually told her it had to end. At first she walked away like everything was fine implying it was 'my loss,' but eventually she started calling me and messaging me on MSN/Facebook apologizing which makes forgetting her difficult. There's not a chance that I am taking her back, the girl has far too much growing up to do and I'm not being paid to be a babysitter / therapist. Despite the fact that I ended things and know that I have made the right decision, it has hitten me pretty hard through lost gains at the gym, lack of concentration in class and a lack of sleep at night. So I've basically just pulled a 'Forgetting Sarah Marshall' and got rid of anything that reminds me of her and hopefully I'm well on my way to getting back into the game.
Damn that turned out to be much longer than the paragraph that I was anticipating. Anyways that felt good to get off my chest and will be the last time she is mentioned.
By now I imagine that you have guessed the reason I have come to this site. I want to get my social life back together and start dating as soon as possible. The problem is that over the course of the relationship I haven't really talked to many girls which has made me kindof socially awkward. I see that many people have already formed their circle of friends and I am on the outside looking in. The relationship has also segregated myself from my group of guy friends. I went out with them to the bars and found myself standing around awkwardly clutching a beer as they all got wasted and talked to girls they knew.
I haven't always been awkward in social situations as I was quite the partier in high school. I used to be a really heavy drinker in high school, consuming over a 26er (a fifth for my American friends) of Vodka per night and basically getting black-out drunk. The problem is that I became an idiot, started fights and generally made a fool out of myself. I always ended up waking up feeling stupid and preying that I did not say or do anything embarassing. The end of my heavy drinking days was when I narrowly escaped some assault charges from a fight that I truly cannot remember. To fill the void I became extremely dedicated to weightlifting and I don't feel like turning back is a good decision.
I should clarify when I say get 'back in the game.' A more realistic statement would be getting 'into the game.' I have never been one to go out and meet new girls. All of my successes have been girls that I have known for a long time who have become attracted to me. My last girlfriend was the first relationship of my life and the only person that I had meaningful sex with.
Anways I'm looking over the DJ bible right now. Any other questions, tips or specific advice is welcome.
I've slept with 4 girls in my life, only one of which I would rate over 7 on the looks scale. I would rate my body a 9 and my face about a 6. I don't have anything wrong with me except being pretty pale (have tried tanning beds to no success), my teeth are straight and white, I'm clean shaven with about as much acne as any 18 year old and I keep my hair cut short. I dress like your average University student; I usually wear jeans and a polo, occasionally a button down. I'm currently living in a house with 3 nerdy older guys that I hadn't met until the day I moved in, but next year will be moving in with some buddies that I have met at school.
I have recently broke off a 7-month relationship with a girl that I thought I loved. Things started off great; really cute, innocent small-town girl with a great personality and similar goals. After a couple months things changed and she began to treat me like garbage; something that I was oblivious to. Her words were always sweet but her actions rarely coincided. The final straw was her grinding up on another guy at a club, something that she was doing solely for attention. Her lack of compassion when I asked her about it put everything into perspective for me.
After some heavy thinking I eventually told her it had to end. At first she walked away like everything was fine implying it was 'my loss,' but eventually she started calling me and messaging me on MSN/Facebook apologizing which makes forgetting her difficult. There's not a chance that I am taking her back, the girl has far too much growing up to do and I'm not being paid to be a babysitter / therapist. Despite the fact that I ended things and know that I have made the right decision, it has hitten me pretty hard through lost gains at the gym, lack of concentration in class and a lack of sleep at night. So I've basically just pulled a 'Forgetting Sarah Marshall' and got rid of anything that reminds me of her and hopefully I'm well on my way to getting back into the game.
Damn that turned out to be much longer than the paragraph that I was anticipating. Anyways that felt good to get off my chest and will be the last time she is mentioned.
By now I imagine that you have guessed the reason I have come to this site. I want to get my social life back together and start dating as soon as possible. The problem is that over the course of the relationship I haven't really talked to many girls which has made me kindof socially awkward. I see that many people have already formed their circle of friends and I am on the outside looking in. The relationship has also segregated myself from my group of guy friends. I went out with them to the bars and found myself standing around awkwardly clutching a beer as they all got wasted and talked to girls they knew.
I haven't always been awkward in social situations as I was quite the partier in high school. I used to be a really heavy drinker in high school, consuming over a 26er (a fifth for my American friends) of Vodka per night and basically getting black-out drunk. The problem is that I became an idiot, started fights and generally made a fool out of myself. I always ended up waking up feeling stupid and preying that I did not say or do anything embarassing. The end of my heavy drinking days was when I narrowly escaped some assault charges from a fight that I truly cannot remember. To fill the void I became extremely dedicated to weightlifting and I don't feel like turning back is a good decision.
I should clarify when I say get 'back in the game.' A more realistic statement would be getting 'into the game.' I have never been one to go out and meet new girls. All of my successes have been girls that I have known for a long time who have become attracted to me. My last girlfriend was the first relationship of my life and the only person that I had meaningful sex with.
Anways I'm looking over the DJ bible right now. Any other questions, tips or specific advice is welcome.
