Internet dating? (online profile inside)

[William Wallace]

Hey DJs, it's been a while since I've been on this site. A quick update; I'm a student (phd), have had AFC moments in the past and now maybe silent-confident - working on it!

Now what are your opinions of online dating? Being new at this, I can definitely use some advice.

I started this profile a few weeks ago. I've gotten a few messages but nothing has really materialized into a date yet. Should I even reply to the short messages that are pretty empty with only a "Hi" or "hey hey" ?

Anyways, here's my profile:
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member24310516.htm

Any advice on opening line, pics, or introduction are welcome :rock:

Cheers!

 

[Iceberg]

Your profile isn't bad. I don't think it separates you from the pack though.

I just started messing around with online dating. Pretty much because everyone here talks about it so much. I've been doing it for about 1 month, and I've already had a fair amount of success. Maybe it's because I don't talk about myself in a typical online profile way.

Words like "easygoing" and "mellow"....everyone uses those. Express yourself a little better. I think one of the first lines of mine is something like "My friends and family are everything to me and I'm lucky to have grown up with such great people." I also don't even refer to myself as using the site for "dating"...I said something like "I'm out a lot, and have a pretty big social circle, but I'd love to meet more people with similar interest."

Show your energy a little more. Talk about how great it is to be pursuing a career your love. Talk about how you get an amazing rush from playing sports, but you're not too cool to nerd out with a book. Don't say "a drama" or "a movie". Be specific. You like Bill Murray? Say "Bill Murray is a genius."

I think the fact that my profile focuses more on activity and social interaction and less on dating allows women to let their guard down. It says that I'm an active guy with many social options, and if I meet a girl for a drink, I won't be creepily hitting on her the whole time.

Also, don't send one-word messages. "Hi" "Hello"...those say nothing. Once again, show your personality.

Hope I helped.

 

[BigJimbo]

Is everyone on here of Oriental background or else 16? I am wondering.

Don't do it! You are better than that site. Don't lower yourself. There are better ways. You are bottom fishing. You are getting what nobody in America wants! That is REALLY sad. Don't follow the pack! You don't want to be like every desperate fool.

P.S. Before you rip into me...I was complimenting you. Most guy on here I would encourage to do that kind of thing. I suspect you are better than most (which is scary!).

 

[PapiChulo]

Is everyone on here of Oriental background or else 16? I am wondering.

Don't do it! You are better than that site. Don't lower yourself. There are better ways. You are bottom fishing. You are getting what nobody in America wants! That is REALLY sad. Don't follow the pack! You don't want to be like every desperate fool.

P.S. Before you rip into me...I was complimenting you. Most guy on here I would encourage to do that kind of thing. I suspect you are better than most (which is scary!).

I just thought of the same thing. Good to see well-built Asian dudes on here.

 

[wjh]

If an attractive woman is going to spend money (something they don't like to do, ever) on an online dating site, they're going to spend that money on a socially acceptable dating site. They're going to make the extra effort to not be ridiculed once they find the guy they're looking for. To a woman's biological genius - she'd rather make the investment in quality. Women have high expectations in a normative sense.

You may find something that is incredible, for you, on plentyoffish.com, but it's certainly not what an alpha male/DJ would begin to attempt.

Think about it: Women desire resource allocation in every sense, especially when it comes to their sexuality. Interacting and accepting the attempts of men they could easily attract denies them the of their perceived exceptionalism.

It's better to put your effort into face-to-face interactions primarily, or alternatively in higher-profile social sites.

It's sad to say, in a sense, but in general, your best strategy for having sex with the most attractive women is to appeal to their predictable highly-regarded social norms.

Money? Yes. Looks? Yes. Clothes? Yes. Confidence? Yes.

It appeals to the theatrical desires of a woman's estrogen. The appeal, if this sounds terrifying to you, is that this typical methodology for seduction is easier when aiming for greater frequency in sexual encounters.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

I've been using online dating for 2 months roughly, in that time I've had a couple numbers, had a couple girls wanting to go on dates that I haven't bothered with because they're really not my type, and have finally got a girl who is looks wise, perfect for me, to agree to a date next week.

To be honest my advice is just email loads of girls, most won't get back to you but some will. No point in getting dis-heartened when you have spells of getting no messages back, because eventually it'll happen.

I'm pretty surprised about how easy it was to be honest, the girl I'm going out with next week is really hot, I would say 8 minimum, I would have assumed she had guys after her all the time etc, but apparently I must be doing something right.

 

[Don Alfredo]

Hi guys,

I had a profile on plentyoffish.com about 6 months ago when I was trying to branch out to meet more women. A few conclusions:

- Most women will not get back to you. Most women, especially desirable ones, receive hundreds of messages per day. Don't expect to set up a profile and have your pick of the site.

- The standard of quality; in my age range (early 20s), about half the girls have children, are teenage mothers or are pregnant. For me, these girls are a no-go.

- The best form of communication is the IMC. You will find you get responded to far more frequently and actually chat, as opposed to waiting on replies. I managed to persuade two ladies from the site to meet up, but with me being interested in high culture, rock music and football and them being interested in x factor and chips, it wasn't going to work out. I am a charmer by the way and it takes something special not to get my interested, or polite side across.

- Don't waste your money. Get a free profile, but invest in some more upmarket sites. I suggest Guardian Soulmates or other ABC1 dating services.

- Don't reveal all on your profile. In a few short words, you must communicate your value and expectations in abstract form. Don't make huge lists of your interests and don't boast. Anyway, there's not too much you can do to get women to message you as guys are expected, and actually do, all the initiating. Women on these sites get so many messages they never bother.

- I wonder whether online dating is the real answer for us 20-somethings. Nothing beats getting out there with friends and chatting and displaying 'live' skills as it were. Much more fun as well. It's so easy to hide behind a keyboard (I was guilty a few months ago giving it a try) and I much prefer getting out there. Friends are more than willing to matchmake in my experience and introduce people. Invest your time and money in that instead.

Hope this helps!