OneArmDeeJay
Senior Don Juan
Internet Dating is NOT the way to go!
Do to my experience, knowledge, and reports I hear about people dating people off the Internet I decide to post something that’s on my mind. Hey it’s late…
Internet Dating is not the way to go it wills most likely lead to disappointment and frustration. Now the Internet has grown so much these days that just about everyone has it, owns/host their own website, has/continuously buys stuff, pays bills, do questionable things, and meet new people. And there are many other great things about the Internet but the main attraction is meeting new people. Whether it’s a blog friend, WWC buddy, or mate people make and like to meet new people. And the greatness of it all is that you can be really vague or you can be really honest with that other person. No one can see you nor can tell if you’re telling the truth or not. It allows lots of freedom and mystery. However dating or finding a mate off the Internet is not wise. One may say: “Well they post pictures or do a web cam so I can see who they are and so there are no surprises. They put up information that is honest. Besides what’s the harm in it?” Well Internet dating will get you nowhere. And the reason being is that people lie. Yes people lie even on the Internet, imagine that. In fact they embellish even more so. Why? Because it is so easy to do so. Who’s going to know? Until the day you finally meet of course. But before one might meet that person, that person usually spends lots of his/her valuable time on the Internet talking to this person trying to find out who they are and are they compatible. But now how many times have you seen this fail. Here is a list of why one individual should NOT use the Internet in finding a date.
1.People lie. Everybody lies on the net for many reasons and we all do it.
2.Looks count. If looks matter to you then its going to be really hard when you find this women who is amazing person and has an awesome personality but when you two finally meet, is not what you quite thought or had in mind. In fact you may not be attracted to her at all. And it’s not her fault she may have even sent a picture to you, but guess what people look different in person.
3.The person lied about something physically about themselves and when you finally meet it is completely overwhelming to handle and is a complete turn off. Perhaps if they told you before you met then it might have not been in issue at all. See number 1 on the list
4.Humans need contact with the other person not just verbally but physically as well. Studies have proven this when a newly born child was born he was never held, touched or anything. Not to long the baby dies because the lack of love and physical touch of the parent. We are emotional especially women creatures. We need to be loved and touched. So in a relationship it’s even more so or it will die. But you can’t do that on the net now can you? Typing *hug you don’t count
5.Lot of the times people won’t comment do to the distance so in essence your just wasting your time for nothing.
6.It will be hard to remain loyal considering none of you live close by.
7.Even if you get along well together online as well as in person and lets say you marry the person doesn’t mean its all good. I have read and personally seen where people do this get married then all of a sudden down the road things change about the other person they are not who they were when you visit them all that time And this leads me to number 8.
8.Short visits don’t do it. Short visits can’t make long-term relationship work because you can’t know a person who they really are by just a few visits. You need to spend a lot more time with them like you would with a girlfriend close by or a girlfriend close to marriage. Or things will happen like in number 7.
9. Trust. You have to have it especially in a LTR/ Internet dating. And you can’t have any insecurity about if she might cheat or what have you.
Well if one might think after reading all this, still think that its still a wise idea to do it then by all means do it. Its your life. This post is just to show others that it might not be wise to do so and to show others the reason why or the problems they will have. But you know there is always going to be those couples that worked for them, and you know, happy to hear it. Now for the rest of 98% of us sarge the chicks that live by you and in person.
Do to my experience, knowledge, and reports I hear about people dating people off the Internet I decide to post something that’s on my mind. Hey it’s late…
Internet Dating is not the way to go it wills most likely lead to disappointment and frustration. Now the Internet has grown so much these days that just about everyone has it, owns/host their own website, has/continuously buys stuff, pays bills, do questionable things, and meet new people. And there are many other great things about the Internet but the main attraction is meeting new people. Whether it’s a blog friend, WWC buddy, or mate people make and like to meet new people. And the greatness of it all is that you can be really vague or you can be really honest with that other person. No one can see you nor can tell if you’re telling the truth or not. It allows lots of freedom and mystery. However dating or finding a mate off the Internet is not wise. One may say: “Well they post pictures or do a web cam so I can see who they are and so there are no surprises. They put up information that is honest. Besides what’s the harm in it?” Well Internet dating will get you nowhere. And the reason being is that people lie. Yes people lie even on the Internet, imagine that. In fact they embellish even more so. Why? Because it is so easy to do so. Who’s going to know? Until the day you finally meet of course. But before one might meet that person, that person usually spends lots of his/her valuable time on the Internet talking to this person trying to find out who they are and are they compatible. But now how many times have you seen this fail. Here is a list of why one individual should NOT use the Internet in finding a date.
1.People lie. Everybody lies on the net for many reasons and we all do it.
2.Looks count. If looks matter to you then its going to be really hard when you find this women who is amazing person and has an awesome personality but when you two finally meet, is not what you quite thought or had in mind. In fact you may not be attracted to her at all. And it’s not her fault she may have even sent a picture to you, but guess what people look different in person.
3.The person lied about something physically about themselves and when you finally meet it is completely overwhelming to handle and is a complete turn off. Perhaps if they told you before you met then it might have not been in issue at all. See number 1 on the list
4.Humans need contact with the other person not just verbally but physically as well. Studies have proven this when a newly born child was born he was never held, touched or anything. Not to long the baby dies because the lack of love and physical touch of the parent. We are emotional especially women creatures. We need to be loved and touched. So in a relationship it’s even more so or it will die. But you can’t do that on the net now can you? Typing *hug you don’t count
5.Lot of the times people won’t comment do to the distance so in essence your just wasting your time for nothing.
6.It will be hard to remain loyal considering none of you live close by.
7.Even if you get along well together online as well as in person and lets say you marry the person doesn’t mean its all good. I have read and personally seen where people do this get married then all of a sudden down the road things change about the other person they are not who they were when you visit them all that time And this leads me to number 8.
8.Short visits don’t do it. Short visits can’t make long-term relationship work because you can’t know a person who they really are by just a few visits. You need to spend a lot more time with them like you would with a girlfriend close by or a girlfriend close to marriage. Or things will happen like in number 7.
9. Trust. You have to have it especially in a LTR/ Internet dating. And you can’t have any insecurity about if she might cheat or what have you.
Well if one might think after reading all this, still think that its still a wise idea to do it then by all means do it. Its your life. This post is just to show others that it might not be wise to do so and to show others the reason why or the problems they will have. But you know there is always going to be those couples that worked for them, and you know, happy to hear it. Now for the rest of 98% of us sarge the chicks that live by you and in person.
