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wildwilly

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I recently started seeing this gal about a month ago, I had been acquainted with her for a few years though through mutual friends. The thing is shes a little older than me, shes 31 and I'm 23. What happened was that I had some interest in her and I found out through one of her good friends that she was interested in me. I also found out she usually doesn't date guys under 30

One night I finally got up the guts to go talk to her and we ended up chatting the night away til the bar closed, she then asked me If I was gonna be in town the next night and that she might see me at the bar. The next night I went there and she was there. We ended up hanging out there til the bar closed again and afterwards I asked her to join me for breakfast at a restaurant 30 miles away. She said sure and offered to take her car since I was in a big pickup that made terrible mileage. So we went and when we got thereI ordered and then she didn't order a thing, just a glass of water. We sat there and laughed at all the drunks that came in and then she took me back to my vehicle. I asked for her phone number and she gave me a deposit slip out of her checkbook, which I thought was a little odd for someone to just give out, and I also gave her my number and e-mail.

about 3 days later she e-mailed me to see how my week was going and so I gave her a call and asked her out to supper, and she accepted.

on the night of the date, a friday, things went well and at the end of the night I kissed her and she looked at me and then kissed me again and told me we need to do this again and we also agreed on me coming over sunday afternoon before I left town.

on sunday we got to talking and she started talking about wanting to take it slow, which was no problem at all for me.


I tried calling her 3 days later to say hi and that I was gonna be in town on saturday, she wasn't home, no big deal, I tried again the next night, no answer, and the next day I sent her an e-mail, which she did respond to, saying shed been taking care of her grandmother and not getting home til late.

anyways, the next weekend I felt like getting outta town and got ahold of her and we met at the bar, but I noticed something, shes not the same when we are at the bar as when its just the 2 of us, could that be because shes around her friends? when I put my arm around her to tell her goodbye she did not hug back.
The next night I went to the bar and she was there helping whenever she wasn't busy she sat across the bar from me and she always refused my tips, telling me I didn't need to tip her, but she took tips from everyone else....is this good or bad?

the the thing I don't know is how interested in me is she, I've never dated someone this much older than me, but I do find her real interesting and don't want to mess this up.....any help would be good
 

echo1212

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Sounds to me like she does have interest, not super high, but around 60% or so.

Couple things. One, it sounds like your the one doing most of the initiating of contact and you sound a little desperate when you don't get ahold of her. I'm sure she can sense that. If your looking for a relationship out of this girl right away it isn't gonna happen. But, I do think some fun sex could be had if you play your cards right.

First thing I would do is don't call or email her for the next week at least. Let her do it, if she does it at all. If she does call to get together, don't be available when she wants. Suggest another day or the next week. If she doesn't get ahold of you, call her in about a week or so and suggest a date. Make it fun, carefree, non pressuring on iether one of you. If she sounds flakey, end the convo quickly, act polite, but next her. She's not worth your valuable time.

Your age and the distance between you both is working against this happening, but sounds like enough has happened so far to at least make a good attempt.
 

wildwilly

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I kind of figured I may be trying to get ahold of her a little much, I'm not trying to get into a serious relationship with her, I just want to get to know her better, I'm trying not to get into the same problems I've had before, I jusmped right into a relationship with a woman and within 3 months were liveing together, then she walked all over me, so I'm trying to tread lightly, being sure what kind of person she is. Something I was told was that she is a little leary of guys cause of a few bad relationships in the past, and I also know she is not one to go out and just have a fling with someone, going by what all my friends have said about her that have known her for years, she's also really quiet to everyone, even her best friends.

BTW......she doesn't hang out with younger people, just in case you were wondering, I hang out with older people, been raised around bikers my whole life some my age though too
 

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oh yeah, also, the distance is only 90 miles and she does have a brother that lives in the same town as me, as a matter of fact he runs a shop that does all the work on our trucks and is good friends with my boss, she told me she asked him about me but he couldn't figure out who I was
 
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