Interesting Situation

[naes]

I can usually figure out most situations, but this one is a little different.

Over the weekend I was at a party (I'm in college) and I was talking to this girl (HB7-8) for awhile. Things were going pretty well, she was showing me pictures that were in her camera and she was interested. So after about 30-45 minutes, she wandered off somewhere else and I still had the camera. So I figured I'd find her a little later and give it back. I never found her and apparently she left.

So the next day I messaged her on facebook to tell her I had her camera and that she should come get it, she responds saying that shell come by to get it at some point.

She actually goes to a school that is a ten minute drive from mine (I was visiting a friend at the school) and none of my friends know any of her friends.


How do you guys think I should go about this? If I ask her out right away, it might sound like I purposely took the camera just to get a date, you know?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Accuse her of purposefully leaving it with you.

"Is this some trick that you use to meet guys?"

When she denies it, playfully accuse her of lying.

 

[naes]

That does sound like a good idea, but how should I follow it to set a date? And should I say all this when she comes to pick it up?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Tell her she does not have to play the leave-behind game to get to see you again, because you're going to ____ next weekend and she should come with you. Obviously, don't use the word "date." If you get her laughing, it should be easy.

 

[Scorched]

Nice response Bible Belt.
Do not ASK... TELL!
I always use, "We should go grab a bite to eat sometime."
Say it with 100% eye contact!
Then act busy at first... "Monday isn't good for me..."
Make her wait a few days.... "Yeah Wednesday works!"

 

[MacAvoy]

Accuse her of purposefully leaving it with you.

"Is this some trick that you use to meet guys?"

When she denies it, playfully accuse her of lying.

Step 2, tell her that she is going to have to pay a ransom to get it back. A date with you. Make it fun. If she's going to go all the way to your place to pick it up, you might as well take advantage and spend a couple hours with her showing her a good time.

 

[naes]

What Happened

So here's what happened, I am a little confused..usually I like to learn something from these situations, but this one seems wierd.

So I called her tell her where to go and everything.

ME: (jokingly) "Hey so you expect me to believe that you left your camera with me by accident?" And she got all serious
HB: "WELLL obviously I don't know what else you would think" then something else I can't remember (not in a joking way)
HB:"How about I pick it up tomorrow"
ME:"Ok Ill call you tomorrow to let you know where I'm at"
HB:"Ok, bye"

After this I realized I should have suggested the weekend instead.
So I called her back that night

Me:"Hey how about instead of you coming tomorrow, you just come this weekend and hang out?"
HB:"umm I kinda need it sooner than that"
Me:"Ok thats fine, but would you still want to come hang out?"
HB: "Maybe"
I then give her the directions

Then the day comes where she drops it off...she calls and has a b1tchy tone to her voice and she's very impatient. I tried joking with her saying she was lost (she was) and she kept responding seriously. It got frustrating and by the time she got here I was just annoyed by the whole thing so I just gave her the camera and that was it. BTW she brought a guy with her in the car.

Here's my guess as to what happened. Not enough rapport when I first met her, so she just wanted her camera back. Then I tried to get her to come hang out, she said "maybe" to secure the camera situation, and then just was not at all interested in anything but getting the camera.

I normally don't post things like this, but this deal threw me off balance for some reason. Let me know what you guys think.

 

[naes]

bump

 

[Last Man Standing]

You should have taken some pics of yourself!! Naked!

 

[Scorched]

You should have taken some pics of yourself!! Naked!

Dude! That is funny, but it isn't helping. hahaha

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Wow... She BROUGHT A DUDE! She thinks she is special man.. and...
As far as her being a *****... Maybe she was just PMSing man...

Personally I would have acted more busy and made her work with my schedule to pick it up. Being ****y/funny works great on *****es... Bring them down to the level they need to be on... But still it sounds like that wouldn't have helped much...

 

[funketekun]

100 % sure she is interested in u. Trust me on this one.
whatever u do she will agree.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Oh well, it's a numbers game. Don't take anything she says or does too personally. She was in party mode when you first saw her, but b!tch mode later. It happens.

The only thing I'd suggest is working on using statements instead of questions. You can simply say "come over this weekend," and she will either say yes or no. Also, if she's grumpy, bust on her for that. Either she'll laugh it off, or turn into a bigger b!tch.

Salespeople who do in-home sales have a credo about never making call-backs. Someone can swear up and down that they will buy your product tomorrow, but if you go and see them again, their buying temperature will have inevitably fallen. No one makes a sale on a call-back. Your HB had a high buying temperature at the party, but then it went away.

 

[naes]

Oh well, it's a numbers game. Don't take anything she says or does too personally. She was in party mode when you first saw her, but b!tch mode later. It happens.

The only thing I'd suggest is working on using statements instead of questions. You can simply say "come over this weekend," and she will either say yes or no. Also, if she's grumpy, bust on her for that. Either she'll laugh it off, or turn into a bigger b!tch.

Salespeople who do in-home sales have a credo about never making call-backs. Someone can swear up and down that they will buy your product tomorrow, but if you go and see them again, their buying temperature will have inevitably fallen. No one makes a sale on a call-back. Your HB had a high buying temperature at the party, but then it went away.

Thank you, that was very helpful. So it what you're saying is I should have asked her out at the party rather than on the phone later?