Interesting eye contact test

[becker]

Here's something I like to do when I talk to girls. When I talk to them, I look straight into their eyes, and always hold it longer than they do. It's funny when I can get them to stumble over their words when I lock eyes with them. I tend to be able to make them sort of lose their train of thought or else make them act all nervous. Has anyone else done this before?

I've had girls comment on my eyes in the past before. I have hazel eyes, so they are green & brown, which seems to be sort of attractive to women.

 

[squirrels]

My eyes are sort of a green-gray, and they'll change from one to the other depending on my mood. At least they used to.

One thing I've noticed is that if you hold eye contact with a girl for extended periods of time when you first meet her, she'll think it's normal and not think twice about you "staring." Also, hold eye contact with her while talking, listening, and especially while touching.

 

[becker]

I have also gotten a sense that a girl will think it's normal to have eye contact when you first meet, but in general, girls will always look you in the eye when they talk to you. It's either that, or they don't talk to you much at all.

I think the more you use eye contact, the more she starts feeling more attracted to you, so even if it seems normal to her, do it anyways.

 

[Starman]

yup eye contact is a powerful tool to convey attraction..and confidence

but eye contact lenses dont convey attraction

 

[becker]

What do you mean by eye contact lenses don't convey attraction?

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by becker
I have also gotten a sense that a girl will think it's normal to have eye contact when you first meet, but in general, girls will always look you in the eye when they talk to you. It's either that, or they don't talk to you much at all.

I think the more you use eye contact, the more she starts feeling more attracted to you, so even if it seems normal to her, do it anyways.

SOmeone on here, I forget who, warned me about being "shifty-eyed" when talking to a girl. If you don't look her in the eye, and instead let your eyes wander, it's like you're showing her there's an ulterior motive...that you're not talking to her because you WANT to, but because you want sex, or something else.

If you look her in the eye, it's more saying, "I am talking to you because I WANT to. I want sex, yes, but whether I get it or not, I am still going to enjoy contact with you because I WANT to make contact.

This holds especially true during kino.

That whole "eliminate desire" thing...it's more or less saying to yourself, "OK, I want sex, you know I want sex, and I know you want sex. Now let's set that aside for a minute and just have fun until it's time. "

 

[becker]

I agree about the shifty-eyes thing, because I can imagine myself in a girl's position. They probably have the general view that all guys want sex or something like that, and then they either grade up or down from there. Shifty-eyes definitely cause them to grade down, and so does trying to act smooth when you aren't.

I found that the best way is to be honestly and genuinely without a ulterior motive. This is why it's important to see girls as friends and if it develops into more, then good on ya.

 

[InExtremis]

I also agree that shifty eyes is a bad thing.

In reference to your "locked eye-contact" experience, I was in McDonalds the other day and when the chick was going over my order I locked eyes with her and looked into them as deep as I could. It was just a spare-of-the-moment experiment but I was so surprised when she tripped and stumbled over her speech.
This made her red and embarressed, I had to stop myself from laughing and keep a straight face. Your so right about breaking their train of thought, I think this actually is very powerful .. and fun.

 

[becker]

Nice, that's awesome. It's amazing what it can do sometimes. I do it all the time now, just for the effect. It works better for women you've just met than ones that you've known for a while since I think some get a little more used to it.

I do this with a girl of whom I'm trying to increase IL. It's not easy, but I also think eye contact makes you more attractive physically too, since sometimes you end up seeing the eyes more than everything else.

I know that I've become more attracted to girls that I didn't think were so hot at first glance, but after I saw what nice eyes they had, it made up for any other shortcomings.