Interest dropping over night

[guwop1017]

Hey guys. Already think I know the answer based on (shes seeing other dudes) what Ive seen browsing here but until now, have never actually had experience with interest level dropping so quickly and seemingly out of nowhere

about a month ago started talking to a really, really sexy girl on Tinder (easily a 9 or above)

We made plans to grab dinner and went the following week. Things went well.

Couple days later, called her up to go for drinks to which she agreed. The day before, she told me she was sick and asked if we could resced sometime next week. I told her the day and we went for drinks. Heavy making out, lots of touching and her talking about hanging in the future, all the good signs

Couple days later I hit her up for another date to which she agrees. On the day of she cancels and asks if we can do it another time. I said sure

Messaged her a couple days later, no response...and this is a chick who had previously answered every message i had ever sent...and fast

Its important to keep in mind since we started talking, she would initiate contact all the time. She actually talked a lot. Gave me tons of compliments, flirty texts and sexy selfies. Infact, she was messaging me non stop the day before she canceled this most recent date.....i responded accordingly and always ended the convos on a high note...

Thinking maybe its a test to see if I "break" at the sudden lack of attention?

Anyway, not desperate...already kind of have a girl im seeing...would be nice to salvage cause the girl is legit model hot....I think ill hit her up one last and final time after the weekend but im not holding my breath

would appreciate any advice or input... thanks boys

 

[Soolaimon]

Don't any of you guys date other girls besides only one?

You should be getting other numbers and going out with other girls on Tinder.

Not just worrying about one girl who is flaking on your dates.

If you had other girls this girl would be meaningless like she should be.

If she is as hot as you claim she has other guys waiting in line to bang her.

Hit up other girls and let her contact you about a date if she is really interested

If she really wants to go out she will..

 

[beyondunplugged]

^:yes:

Yea, I think just move on. Not a big deal really. If she hits you up do whatever. Personally, I'd rather invest my time into women who are not playing that flakey bullsh1t or hot/cold bullsh1t or any bullsh1t for that matter. If all the girls in my life are doing that I just work on business.

 

[pyros]

Keep this in mind: girls nowadays loose interest in you at any moment because they have a dozen of guys chasing them. This is why you get mixed signals, why they flake, why they seem to like you and then go ghost...etc etc. Nothing you can do about it, just be prepared and try to pick up as many girls as possible.

For this particular case, you asked her out three times already, and she thanks you by ignoring you now, nice.

Forget about her and send her to hell cause see this: after you invited her to spend some time with you, now she chooses TO IGNORE YOU which is totally unacceptable and irrespectful. She could just text you that she prefers to be just friends or any other bullsh-it like this, but she prefers to leave you hanging forever, bit-ch.

So please do not reward her with more attention/texts/invitations.

 

[guwop1017]

Welcome to the forum brothaman.

A few things to keep in mind -

1) Women who come at you hard and fast tend to be able to lose interest hard and fast.

2) Did you text her back quick and fast when she initiated with you?
If so, not a good thing. Basically, I send her 1 message for every 2 she sends me. Not an exact science, but try to be a bit more aloof in the future.

Tell us more about what went down on these dates.

Good advice and makes sense.

When she initiated, I replied within a reasonable amount of time. Never said too much. She would actually do most of the talking

The dates went like any of my other great dates with girls I eventually ended up sleeping with. Lots of interest, touching, kissing. Talking about the future, hanging out on other days, etc.

Its funny cause I was actually getting the vibe she was kind of clingy

Don't any of you guys date other girls besides only one?

You should be getting other numbers and going out with other girls on Tinder.

Not just worrying about one girl who is flaking on your dates.

If you had other girls this girl would be meaningless like she should be.

If she is as hot as you claim she has other guys waiting in line to bang her.

Hit up other girls and let her contact you about a date if she is really interested

If she really wants to go out she will..

Dont know if you missed this in my first post. I have another girl Im seeing and I have other options. The "next her" advice is good, and what ive always done. Theres some, though few girls I actually want to try a little harder to make work if possible

Keep this in mind: girls nowadays loose interest in you at any moment because they have a dozen of guys chasing them. This is why you get mixed signals, why they flake, why they seem to like you and then go ghost...etc etc. Nothing you can do about it, just be prepared and try to pick up as many girls as possible.

For this particular case, you asked her out three times already, and she thanks you by ignoring you now, nice.

Forget about her and send her to hell cause see this: after you invited her to spend some time with you, now she chooses TO IGNORE YOU which is totally unacceptable and irrespectful. She could just text you that she prefers to be just friends or any other bullsh-it like this, but she prefers to leave you hanging forever, bit-ch.

So please do not reward her with more attention/texts/invitations.

Yea dude you're definitely right.

I seem to have an issue with this though. On one hand this is good because it saves you time and allows you to keep your pride. It also doesnt get you the chick you want. this girl is a smokeshow and works at a night club.....i cant even imagine the amount of dudes hitting on her on the regular