Insecurities showed up again..

[rtrev64]

Dammit, I showed my insecurity. I met this chick and we hit it off but made no plans for new years eve cause she had setup a nightout for that night with her GF. She said of course they would start the night off round 8pm-5am..Im thinking, dammit, lots of stuff can happen and I wont be there. She is a light drinker (so i thought or seeing another side of her). She was texting me on how much she likes me and wants us to see where things go..

I texted her I did too. I also added for her to promise me no man would touch her romantically that night she was drinking and partying with her GF's..

She wrote me back, quite offended I thought of her that way and she was upset with me..

we talked since and we are ok..........i guess.....Was this wrong of me, I sense hell yes, im just a little insecured bastard.. This will end all my potential relationships, I need to grow up I guess but at the same time dont want to be stupid either, I wont tolerate "she had a few drinks and one thing led to another" crap..

So question is- by texting her that last night did I set the rules of what I wont tolerate? or did I show my panties?

Ill take the abuse, I deserve it..

 

[Iceberg]

we talked since and we are ok..........i guess.....Was this wrong of me, I sense hell yes, im just a little insecured bastard.. This will end all my potential relationships, I need to grow up I guess but at the same time dont want to be stupid either, I wont tolerate "she had a few drinks and one thing led to another" crap..

So question is- by texting her that last night did I set the rules of what I wont tolerate? or did I show my panties?

Ill take the abuse, I deserve it..

I don't see how you set any rules. If you two are trying to seriously date, then it should be common sense that she shouldn't go around hooking up with other men.

If she "had a few drinks and one thing led to another" then you'd break up with her. And if she's the type of woman who would do that, she's going to do it whether you set "rules" or not.

 

[rtrev64]

Thanks Iceberg. You are correct, Im just trying to find a good character woman. I should not jump to conclusions as I did last night, that is mistrust and it will be a issue in the future in forming relationships.

I do not think she is that type of woman.