Insecure Coach

[Precursor]

Guys I'm in a bad situation here. Last week, I was at practice. While changing in the locker room, i was the last person there, besides an autistic kid.

When i went out, the team was getting ready to go. I thought it was common sense to wait for the mentally disabled kid (he is part of the team also). So he ends up taking 3 minutes to finish, and i lead him to where the team meets up usually, but we are 5-10 minutes late.

The coach walks over and gets all pissed, saying i cannot participate because i am late. I explain that i had to help guide the autistic kid. She then goes up to the autistic kid and tells him he can't practice also! ****ing ridiculous.

She tells me that i can only spectate, and i was furious. I decided to just walk away and leave.

Today, she pulls me out of the first race because of what happened on Monday. This is one of those situations where you do something morally correct but at a cost.

Some comments i can say about my coach is that she is in her mid thirties, Very ugly, (rumor is she never had a relationship or sex), insecure, doesn't have a career yet, and still attends college (despite being mid 30's). She is going through some period where she feels she gets no respect and is demanding it. (jesus christ, we all know what happens when that occurs)

Usually with insecure people, I don't even deal with them. But this person is the coach for my team, and i don't know what to do. I can walk away, but i do not want to be a marytr or anything.

What can i do? The team supports me obviously, but they have no power over her. I don't want to be a martyr, or any sort of a rebel leader or any of that BS stuff.

I can fake an apology to plot revenge later , because insecure people are also stubborn (they need to reaffirm themselves). The only way i see it right now is to just apologize and plan whatever i have in a later date. It seems to be my best option. I hate insecure people!!!! Arghhh!!

I'm here to vent, but you guys are free (and it would be greatly appreciated) to offer your comments, opinions, suggestions, or any thing you would like to share.

 

[ChrizZ]

Guys I'm in a bad situation here. Last week, I was at practice. While changing in the locker room, i was the last person there, besides an autistic kid.

When i went out, the team was getting ready to go. I thought it was common sense to wait for the mentally disabled kid (he is part of the team also). So he ends up taking 3 minutes to finish, and i lead him to where the team meets up usually, but we are 5-10 minutes late.

The coach walks over and gets all pissed, saying i cannot participate because i am late. I explain that i had to help guide the autistic kid. She then goes up to the autistic kid and tells him he can't practice also! ****ing ridiculous.

She tells me that i can only spectate, and i was furious. I decided to just walk away and leave.

Today, she pulls me out of the first race because of what happened on Monday. This is one of those situations where you do something morally correct but at a cost.

Some comments i can say about my coach is that she is in her mid thirties, Very ugly, (rumor is she never had a relationship or sex), insecure, doesn't have a career yet, and still attends college (despite being mid 30's). She is going through some period where she feels she gets no respect and is demanding it. (jesus christ, we all know what happens when that occurs)

Usually with insecure people, I don't even deal with them. But this person is the coach for my team, and i don't know what to do. I can walk away, but i do not want to be a marytr or anything.

What can i do? The team supports me obviously, but they have no power over her. I don't want to be a martyr, or any sort of a rebel leader or any of that BS stuff.

I can fake an apology to plot revenge later , because insecure people are also stubborn (they need to reaffirm themselves). The only way i see it right now is to just apologize and plan whatever i have in a later date. It seems to be my best option. I hate insecure people!!!! Arghhh!!

I'm here to vent, but you guys are free (and it would be greatly appreciated) to offer your comments, opinions, suggestions, or any thing you would like to share.

Then don't complain!

You are the one that's insecure because you are afraid of criticism and don't have the balls to tell her what you really think.

Hell, I literally told my communications college teacher in front of the whole class that I wasn't gonna put up with her bs, left the classroom and dropped the class immediately after that.

 

[DJDamage]

Go speak to a higher authroity in the sports department and explain your situation if they do nothing, take it stright to the Dean.

If that doesn't work, i am sure the school paper starving for a good story will eat this up.

Whatever you do, just know there are consequences for every action and right or wrong always accept responsibility.

 

[Precursor]

I see where you are coming from, but there are two approaches to this.

You can see this as a game of power, or you can see it as a act to stand out and DJism.

Both of these values are important to me, and i try to get a mix of both elements into my life. Taking the DJ approach, yes i stand out and become an instant hero. So far, all i did was stand out by openly speaking against her. That's why my peers respect me, but that won't help me in the long run. In the long run, i won't have Power because i will be punished.

The reason I'm being punished is because i ******dly spoken out, calling it BS, saying it was ridiculous, and leaving. She felt embarassed and extremely pissed. I'm being punished because she is angry. She punishes me because the team disrespects her, and she thinks that if she tortures one of the top runners, than she will inspire respect.



So Chris, you told your communication college teacher that you thought it was BS, so you leave. Your peers probably think you are cool and you get their respect for maybe a week or two. But in the long run, they have credits for that course, while you got instant respect, you don't have credits for that course! You see this paradox? And you have another enemy, the teacher! And if that teacher was as insecure as my coach, she would go out of her way to spite you. So do you see where i'm coming from?

(i've been reading too much 48 laws of power, so my mind might be biased)

 

[ChrizZ]

I see where you are coming from, but there are two approaches to this.

You can see this as a game of power, or you can see it as a act to stand out and DJism.

Both of these values are important to me, and i try to get a mix of both elements into my life. Taking the DJ approach, yes i stand out and become an instant hero. So far, all i did was stand out by openly speaking against her. That's why my peers respect me, but that won't help me in the long run. In the long run, i won't have Power because i will be punished.

The reason I'm being punished is because i ******dly spoken out, calling it BS, saying it was ridiculous, and leaving. She felt embarassed and extremely pissed. I'm being punished because she is angry. She punishes me because the team disrespects her, and she thinks that if she tortures one of the top runners, than she will inspire respect.



So Chris, you told your communication college teacher that you thought it was BS, so you leave. Your peers probably think you are cool and you get their respect for maybe a week or two. But in the long run, they have credits for that course, while you got instant respect, you don't have credits for that course! You see this paradox? And you have another enemy, the teacher! And if that teacher was as insecure as my coach, she would go out of her way to spite you. So do you see where i'm coming from?

(i've been reading too much 48 laws of power, so my mind might be biased)

then let her punish you. It's not like she is gonna shoot you or whip you in public. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. That is my philosophy. I'm not saying you have to agree with me.

Set your own principles and values and act accordingly. Do what you think is right and stick to it. That is my advice.

about the credit thing. I would rather educate myself than get educated by someone that doesn't respect me and has a god complex.

 

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bang the b1tch

 

[jesusrules]

bang the b1tch

lmao


Dude I think you did the right thing by helping that kid out. Good job you should be proud of yourself even if she *****ed you out.

Just try to stay relaxed. And I know how that is you just want to punch her but you cant, unless you want to get arrested lol. So just dont take her s*it serious thats what I would do.