Bubs
Don Juan
What do you believe about girls? How do you look at them? Are they gods gift?
I’m guessing so many guys are nervous with girls because in their heads they’ve made them larger than life. Why? Look around you. We can’t look anywhere without a girl looking glamorous on the front page of almost any magazine. The main focal point in porn is the girl. We watch porn and think “oh my god. I’d give my left nut just to be with her” We can’t hide the fact that everywhere we look, girls are the main focal point and made to look larger than life. And they are there because sex sells.
The trouble with that is the fact that because of this representation of girls – we’ve come to believe that girls have something we want, and they are the ones we have to suck up to. We have a belief that they are the ones in control and we have to come up to their level. How can we think any different? The media has messed with our heads. They look so pretty in those magazines. They look so glamorous and out of our reach that no wonder it feels impossible to even talk to a girl without fear. And it all comes down to a belief that they are larger than life and should be idolised.
Forget all those gimmicks and lines for a second. I think we need to change our beliefs because our beliefs radiate out from us and form our actions. They make you act nervous, confident, shy, embarrassed etc etc. And the way to change is by changing the way you are thinking about something and asking better questions.
We’ve come to accept a girls larger than life image, and I don’t think many people have tried to question against it because we’re bombarded with it everyday!! They have something we want, and because they are so glamorous – they seem untouchable.
I would say that to change the belief you should just go up, talk to her – and realise she is just human like you. Underneath them clothes, she’s naked (wink wink), but going up to her is the whole problem!! And it’s all down to our beliefs.
So to change your belief, don’t go up to her just yet. Knowing your luck you’ll probably screw yourself up even more if she blanks/rejects you. It’s a pain you don’t really need right now.
You shatter a belief by putting doubt in your mind about it, and the way you do that is by simply observing, getting curious – and focusing on it in a new way.
When you go out to a club – just observe the girls will you, and start to get curious about them for a second.
Why do you think she is all dressed up? You think that was an accident? Just put yourself in her shoes and get curious about how long you think she spent getting ready just to go out. Straightening her hair, putting on her lip gloss, polishing up her face, choosing the right outfit with the right shoes. It’s all done on purpose. And the main reason is because SHE WANTS YOUR ATTENTION!! She wants to stand out. Do you honestly think she’d come out without combing her hair and wearing just jeans and a t-shirt? HA! She’s doing it for us guys, and to compete with all the other girls so she gets selected. Sometimes the plan backfires and she attracts *******s. Does she stop getting all dressed up? NO!! Because she NEEDS the attention and she NEEDS to know that guys find her attractive and are selecting her. She even does it going to work. She needs to look her best. I wonder why.
Ask yourself another question, why does she never leave her “best friends” side? They even go to the damn toilet together!! Why would they do that? Because she needs support. She can’t tackle you all by herself. SHE’S NERVOUS and not very good at ejecting from a situation all by herself. She’s actually pretty insecure and in need of a friend by her side at all times.
Sex. Are we the only ones who want it? If you watch porn just see how explosive her orgasms are. Okay, they’re usually fake in porn. But that’s a representation of how they are meant to be. You honestly think a girl would only want a few of them? NO!! She loves sex. Of course she loves it if it can make her explode like that!! It’ll be one of the most pleasurable feelings ever to happen in her body – and she only wants just one?!!? She wants lots of it. She wants it now. She wants it yesterday. BUT, society has put a little glitch in her brain aswell. She doesn’t want to appear slutty and easy.
I could go on and on, but my main point here is to start with your beliefs and keep reminding yourself of that fact, because they radiate how you act. If you believe girls are larger than life and have something you want – how do you think you will act?
Think for yourself and start observing them. And KEEP observing them and asking those kinds of questions so eventually you go, “wow, she is just human. She is needing my attention. She is a bit nervous about it all.” It wont happen over night, so keep running those kind of thoughts and questions in your head. Shrink that image of girls down inside your head.
THE PRESSURE IS ON HER TO BE SELECTED. You’re the one who is choosing her. You’re doing her a favour by talking to her. And that’s why it’s important to hold back on compliments and kissing her ass so much because that’s what she is craving. So she’ll come after you to get it.
ACTUALLY THINK ABOUT IT. Don’t be passive. Get curious and put doubt in your mind about the belief that she is the one who is choosing you.
She’s putting in all the effort to be noticed. I think you’ll act differently if you truly believed you’re the one doing the selecting. Then you need to start with the beliefs about yourself…
“I’m ugly” Yeh, because YOU’RE COMPARING YOURSELF TO ALL THE WRONG PEOPLE!! Hollywood guys, popstars, famous people. But ill bring that up later.
I’m guessing so many guys are nervous with girls because in their heads they’ve made them larger than life. Why? Look around you. We can’t look anywhere without a girl looking glamorous on the front page of almost any magazine. The main focal point in porn is the girl. We watch porn and think “oh my god. I’d give my left nut just to be with her” We can’t hide the fact that everywhere we look, girls are the main focal point and made to look larger than life. And they are there because sex sells.
The trouble with that is the fact that because of this representation of girls – we’ve come to believe that girls have something we want, and they are the ones we have to suck up to. We have a belief that they are the ones in control and we have to come up to their level. How can we think any different? The media has messed with our heads. They look so pretty in those magazines. They look so glamorous and out of our reach that no wonder it feels impossible to even talk to a girl without fear. And it all comes down to a belief that they are larger than life and should be idolised.
Forget all those gimmicks and lines for a second. I think we need to change our beliefs because our beliefs radiate out from us and form our actions. They make you act nervous, confident, shy, embarrassed etc etc. And the way to change is by changing the way you are thinking about something and asking better questions.
We’ve come to accept a girls larger than life image, and I don’t think many people have tried to question against it because we’re bombarded with it everyday!! They have something we want, and because they are so glamorous – they seem untouchable.
I would say that to change the belief you should just go up, talk to her – and realise she is just human like you. Underneath them clothes, she’s naked (wink wink), but going up to her is the whole problem!! And it’s all down to our beliefs.
So to change your belief, don’t go up to her just yet. Knowing your luck you’ll probably screw yourself up even more if she blanks/rejects you. It’s a pain you don’t really need right now.
You shatter a belief by putting doubt in your mind about it, and the way you do that is by simply observing, getting curious – and focusing on it in a new way.
When you go out to a club – just observe the girls will you, and start to get curious about them for a second.
Why do you think she is all dressed up? You think that was an accident? Just put yourself in her shoes and get curious about how long you think she spent getting ready just to go out. Straightening her hair, putting on her lip gloss, polishing up her face, choosing the right outfit with the right shoes. It’s all done on purpose. And the main reason is because SHE WANTS YOUR ATTENTION!! She wants to stand out. Do you honestly think she’d come out without combing her hair and wearing just jeans and a t-shirt? HA! She’s doing it for us guys, and to compete with all the other girls so she gets selected. Sometimes the plan backfires and she attracts *******s. Does she stop getting all dressed up? NO!! Because she NEEDS the attention and she NEEDS to know that guys find her attractive and are selecting her. She even does it going to work. She needs to look her best. I wonder why.
Ask yourself another question, why does she never leave her “best friends” side? They even go to the damn toilet together!! Why would they do that? Because she needs support. She can’t tackle you all by herself. SHE’S NERVOUS and not very good at ejecting from a situation all by herself. She’s actually pretty insecure and in need of a friend by her side at all times.
Sex. Are we the only ones who want it? If you watch porn just see how explosive her orgasms are. Okay, they’re usually fake in porn. But that’s a representation of how they are meant to be. You honestly think a girl would only want a few of them? NO!! She loves sex. Of course she loves it if it can make her explode like that!! It’ll be one of the most pleasurable feelings ever to happen in her body – and she only wants just one?!!? She wants lots of it. She wants it now. She wants it yesterday. BUT, society has put a little glitch in her brain aswell. She doesn’t want to appear slutty and easy.
I could go on and on, but my main point here is to start with your beliefs and keep reminding yourself of that fact, because they radiate how you act. If you believe girls are larger than life and have something you want – how do you think you will act?
Think for yourself and start observing them. And KEEP observing them and asking those kinds of questions so eventually you go, “wow, she is just human. She is needing my attention. She is a bit nervous about it all.” It wont happen over night, so keep running those kind of thoughts and questions in your head. Shrink that image of girls down inside your head.
THE PRESSURE IS ON HER TO BE SELECTED. You’re the one who is choosing her. You’re doing her a favour by talking to her. And that’s why it’s important to hold back on compliments and kissing her ass so much because that’s what she is craving. So she’ll come after you to get it.
ACTUALLY THINK ABOUT IT. Don’t be passive. Get curious and put doubt in your mind about the belief that she is the one who is choosing you.
She’s putting in all the effort to be noticed. I think you’ll act differently if you truly believed you’re the one doing the selecting. Then you need to start with the beliefs about yourself…
“I’m ugly” Yeh, because YOU’RE COMPARING YOURSELF TO ALL THE WRONG PEOPLE!! Hollywood guys, popstars, famous people. But ill bring that up later.