Hello everyone, I'm a new member. I'm glad to be here. I'm an inexperienced young man looking learn as much about the game as humanly possible so that I can become the person that I know I can be.
Well recently met a young female at work and we got along really well. Suspected that she was somewhat attracted due to the fact I would catch her staring sometimes out of my peripheral and she would sometimes make it a habit to make sure I see her within the vicinity just to be seen. I suspected that she wanted me to have her number, so I asked and she gave it to me without hesitation. She had an accident which totaled her car, so i decided to use that as an opportunity get to know her better and give her a ride to work seeing as we worked the same shift mostly (she has done favors for me to). I only took her to work except for one time when her friend couldn't pick her up so i dropped her home as well (once). The days I wasn't working she would not ask for a ride which made sense.
I recently left the job and got another job else where. Before I left she gave me a hug and told me to continue to text her and said "esp. now that we don't work together." ok? Thing is she only texts me when she wants a ride even before I left, which isn't entirely her fault seeing as I suggested the offer. And when she texts, we'll have a nice conversation about different topics (how each others day went, she knows about my mom, etc.) that can go on for about an hour, but it always ends with her asking for a ride at the end. She has never contacted me to just say "whats up!", even when I was working there. More than once we have text each other throughout the day for about half the day talking, but I initiated those conversations. Sometimes I text her and we'll talk, she'll stop (usually she fell asleep or shes out w/friends) and hit me up the next day saying she's sorry for not getting back to me the previous day and w'll continue the conversation and go into another one.
When I worked with her at the old job, I knew that she had a crush on another co-worker, which was fine seeing as they worked together longer and she probably developed an emotional connection with him (something I'm trying to do). He never really liked her, "not pretty enough or on his level" as he put it. But while talking he said something interesting....he said she would always blow up his phone and would get mad when he didn't return her texts. That actually sounds like a girl who is interested and really likes a guy, whereas with me....I don't know. Same guy told me earlier in the year she told him that I always try to hang out with her (lie). This was an attempt to make him jealous, backfired though. She doesn't even know we had that conversation.
Fast forward to this week, she recently hit me up for a ride on 7/2/14 around 10pm when she got home from work (we talked earlier that day. She said she was stressed the day before, which I found out from a friend that works with her that she was upset cause some other guy she liked turned her down) I didn't reply, I just needed to think things over. She knows I'm interested in her, it obvious though I haven't and will not verbalize it. If a girl at least likes you as a friend and cares about your feelings wouldn't she want to talk about the tension between the two, whether she is interested or not? She is definitely not shy, she's been shot down twice. (both guys are what some would categorize as "bad boy"....not really) Is she just using me?
Sorry for the long post, just a young grasshopper needing advice from the experts. Thank you
Well recently met a young female at work and we got along really well. Suspected that she was somewhat attracted due to the fact I would catch her staring sometimes out of my peripheral and she would sometimes make it a habit to make sure I see her within the vicinity just to be seen. I suspected that she wanted me to have her number, so I asked and she gave it to me without hesitation. She had an accident which totaled her car, so i decided to use that as an opportunity get to know her better and give her a ride to work seeing as we worked the same shift mostly (she has done favors for me to). I only took her to work except for one time when her friend couldn't pick her up so i dropped her home as well (once). The days I wasn't working she would not ask for a ride which made sense.
I recently left the job and got another job else where. Before I left she gave me a hug and told me to continue to text her and said "esp. now that we don't work together." ok? Thing is she only texts me when she wants a ride even before I left, which isn't entirely her fault seeing as I suggested the offer. And when she texts, we'll have a nice conversation about different topics (how each others day went, she knows about my mom, etc.) that can go on for about an hour, but it always ends with her asking for a ride at the end. She has never contacted me to just say "whats up!", even when I was working there. More than once we have text each other throughout the day for about half the day talking, but I initiated those conversations. Sometimes I text her and we'll talk, she'll stop (usually she fell asleep or shes out w/friends) and hit me up the next day saying she's sorry for not getting back to me the previous day and w'll continue the conversation and go into another one.
When I worked with her at the old job, I knew that she had a crush on another co-worker, which was fine seeing as they worked together longer and she probably developed an emotional connection with him (something I'm trying to do). He never really liked her, "not pretty enough or on his level" as he put it. But while talking he said something interesting....he said she would always blow up his phone and would get mad when he didn't return her texts. That actually sounds like a girl who is interested and really likes a guy, whereas with me....I don't know. Same guy told me earlier in the year she told him that I always try to hang out with her (lie). This was an attempt to make him jealous, backfired though. She doesn't even know we had that conversation.
Fast forward to this week, she recently hit me up for a ride on 7/2/14 around 10pm when she got home from work (we talked earlier that day. She said she was stressed the day before, which I found out from a friend that works with her that she was upset cause some other guy she liked turned her down) I didn't reply, I just needed to think things over. She knows I'm interested in her, it obvious though I haven't and will not verbalize it. If a girl at least likes you as a friend and cares about your feelings wouldn't she want to talk about the tension between the two, whether she is interested or not? She is definitely not shy, she's been shot down twice. (both guys are what some would categorize as "bad boy"....not really) Is she just using me?
Sorry for the long post, just a young grasshopper needing advice from the experts. Thank you
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