Increase Your Value -- Be a Diamond

[Giovanni Casanova]

Take just a quick minute think about something. What makes gold so great? Or diamonds? What makes a diamond so much more special than a cubic zirconia? Both are shiny. Both are "pretty." So why is a diamond so much more expensive? Why is it so valuable?

BECAUSE IT'S RARE.

People want things that they see as rare. Diamonds are rare. If amethyst was more difficult to find than diamonds, I guarantee people would be getting on one knee with an amethyst engagement ring. Diamonds are rare and therefore, valuable. It's the law of supply and demand. What does this mean to a DJ?

Be rare. Be a diamond. Be different than the others. Amongst all the other lumps of coal (other guys) you are the diamond. You stand out, above and beyond all the others. Learn to play an instrument, learn comedy, learn a foreign language. Do something that will make her say, "Here's something different."

Once she sees how interesting you are, pull back. If she wants you, she's going to have to work for you. Ever go to college? If so, you can pick out the ones whose parents are paying for their school versus the kids who are either paying for it themselves or are on schalarships that require good grades. The ones who have things given to them don't appreciate what they have as much as the ones who have to work for what they want. If she has to work to get to you, she'll appreciate you much more once you *LET* her have you.

Remember, to be valuable, you have to be rare. People take for granted the things that are always there. Don't always be there. Be rare. Be a diamond.

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CASANOVA

"Always love thy enemies, just in case all your friends turn out to be a bunch of bastards."

"Whenever evil befalls us, we ought to ask ourselves, after the first suffering, how we can turn it into good. So shall we take occasion, from one bitter root, to raise perhaps many flowers."
Leigh Hunt

"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld

 

[Pro]

You know what. I knew I would find an answer to my dillema just from poking around here. And here it is.

I am going to wait a few weeks, instead of just one to go back to the mall and chat with this chick to get her number.

I will be rare. I know that doesn't have much to do with your tip, but it does to me. I do know what techniques you are referring to though.

Good Tip!

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by Pro:
You know what. I knew I would find an answer to my dillema just from poking around here. And here it is.

I am going to wait a few weeks, instead of just one to go back to the mall and chat with this chick to get her number.

I will be rare. I know that doesn't have much to do with your tip, but it does to me. I do know what techniques you are referring to though.

Good Tip!

Glad to be of help, even if indirectly.

 

[Galactus]

This is something I've understood for quite awhile, and I'm happy to say it's finally sinking in.

If guys could just understand this, and keep it in the forefront of their minds, they would see a huge difference in the way women relate to them. The men could seize control of the relationship. This has been happening to me lately, because I guess I reached a breaking point and finally decided to apply this tip.

Even if it doesn't result in sex, it's great to have the upper hand with women.

 

[Bumper]

Bump.

 

[ESPN]

galactus = bumper....
hehe

 

[expensive]

very true... be the hidden priceless treasure and girls will hunt you down to the ends of the earth.

expensive

 

[IntermediateDonJuaner]

Giovanni Casanova,

So how are we going to be rare?

 

[ESPN]

You have two choices:

Increase your value or
Be a diamond

You choose

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by IntermediateDonJuaner:
Giovanni Casanova,

So how are we going to be rare?

Realize that for the most part people are a lot more alike than they are different. Most guys are all alike in a lot of ways. They might look a little different but they pretty much do, say, think, and want the same things. They're pretty boring and predictable... sports, cars, chicks, blah blah blah... They do pretty much the same things all the time. To be rare means to be different from the other guys. You can be different in a number of ways. A special talent, such as the ability to play the piano, or to perform magic tricks, or to speak Italian or whatever... will separate you from the other guys. Another way to separate yourself from the throngs of other guys is to not fall all over yourself around a beautiful woman. Most guys get all twisted up and tongue-tied whenever they're around a pretty girl. When you are able to act aloof and confident, you automatically become different from the other guys. We all want the things that are harder to find and harder to get. When you are different from the other guys, you are rare, and you will be much more in demand than if you were to just try to blend in with the crowd and be "average".



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CASANOVA

"Now when you talk with her, I don't want you to be the guy in the PG-13 movie that everybody really hopes makes it happen. I want you to be the guy in the rated-R movie who you're not sure if you like yet."
- Trent in "Swingers"

"Woman was God's second mistake."
Friedrich Nietzsche (1844 - 1900)

 

[glowstix]

Giovanni Casanova , you amaze me everytime.. great post...

 

[IntermediateDonJuaner]

Acting aloof and confident? How are we going to do that???

Furthermore, just by being able to speak another language won't make a guy become special in women's eyes. I am not criticizing your post but I just want to know how to be rare and valuable so girls will wanna flock to us like moth to a flame.? More examples required,please.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by IntermediateDonJuaner:
Acting aloof and confident? How are we going to do that???

Okay, acting aloof is pretty simple, but MOST guys either can't do it or don't do it. All I'm saying here is that you don't trip all over yourself whenever you're talking to a girl. I see tons of guys all the time who are decent, normal guys, and as soon as a pretty girl comes around, they turn to Jell-O. They stare... they don't even REALIZE that they're staring. Their tongues are hanging out of their mouths... there is drool involved... It's sort of unattractive. By acting aloof, we're just saying to her "Hey, you are so unremarkable that I totally didn't even notice you even though all the other guys are on the floor kissing your feet." This separates you from the crowd. Being aloof isn't so much a thing that you do as it is a thing that you DON'T do. By not falling all over yourself in the presense of a pretty girl, she will begin to wonder why... She will see that you are *DIFFERENT* from the other guys, but it will also play a little bit on her self-esteem ("Doesn't he think I'm pretty?"). This is a double-whammy.

As for confidence, well, there are tons of posts in the DJ bible that take care of the confidence issue better than I'll be able to do here. But seriously take a look at the guys out there trying to pick up women... at bars, at school, at parties, wherever you are, you'll see them. Take care to notice how pathetic they usually are. Their voices quiver, their sentences are filled with "uh" and "er" and "um", they are terrifically nervous, completely unsure of themselves, and on and on. They are, in a phrase, NOT CONFIDENT. By *being* confident, you will be *DIFFERENT* (keep remembering, different is good).

Furthermore, just by being able to speak another language won't make a guy become special in women's eyes.

Have you ever spoken French or Italian to a girl? (And I'm in America, so I'm mostly talking about American girls here... sorry if you're from a different culture, but it may be the same way for all I know.)

Pretty much every girl I've ever known gets kind of weak in the knees whenever she hears you speaking to her in French or Italian (I don't speak Italian, but a friend of mine does, which is where I'm basing the Italian experience from). This works especially well for some reason if the girl herself doesn't speak another language. And it really doesn't matter what you are saying, either... you could be telling her that your uncle's dresser is in the street of the candy merchant and she will still think that you are the most romantic guy in the world and that you said something profound.

It doesn't even have to be reciting French poetry, either... I was working in a state government office near Grand Rapids last summer when a family of Mexican migrant farmers came in. They left their children in the lobby while they went in for some sort of meeting with a social worker. The kids were probably about ten and twelve and were being kind of loud and obnoxious and irritating the other people in the lobby. I happen to speak Spanish, so I sat down and started talking to the kids. The kids were pretty amazed that I was speaking their language, and they sat there and talked to me and they were calmed down. Well, say what you like about foreign languages, but every single hot chick in that state government office had her eyes on me at that point. It's all about being different from other guys and separating yourself from the masses of other guys who are all "ordinary".

I am not criticizing your post but I just want to know how to be rare and valuable so girls will wanna flock to us like moth to a flame.? More examples required,please.

In high school there was a guy who everyone called "Magic" because he always had a magic trick to perform. He also juggled and did weird things with the balls that he juggled, making them roll up and down his back, down his arms, around his neck, over his head... it was actually pretty cool to watch. And while a lot of jealous guys made little jokes about this guy "playing with his balls", the dude always had a girl around even though he wasn't all that good-looking. He was different, and noticable, and the girls wanted him.

A lot of people have something special that makes them unique, but many of them are too afraid to show it or to use it. If you don't have something that makes you stand out from the crowd, develop something. It doesn't have to be something that is obvious all the time, but just a special unique talent that many people don't have. Something that you have up your sleeve and can use when the opportunity presents itself. Having that ability will increase your confidence even when you aren't using it.



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CASANOVA

"Now when you talk with her, I don't want you to be the guy in the PG-13 movie that everybody really hopes makes it happen. I want you to be the guy in the rated-R movie who you're not sure if you like yet."
- Trent in "Swingers"

"Woman was God's second mistake."
Friedrich Nietzsche (1844 - 1900)