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Don Juan
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Here is something I've been thinking about a lot lately and I wanted to get it off my chest in the hope that it might help someone.
Back in my clueless days, I would get so worked up over a girl. You know, classic one-itis. I would dream about her, romanticize about her, put her on the highest pedestal as a living goddess, a pure and noble princess, an innocent virgin of the highest order. I would let her occupy my mind 24 hours a day. I would get upset if I saw her with another guy. I would ask people about her. I would try to impress her. You know the drill; general obsession, or as we say here, one-itis.
Most if not all of us have suffered/are suffering this horrible fate. It seems that there is no way out and we always think that we'll feel this way about her.
Guess again. I'm going to show you the way out, my deserving friend. You're going to use your own history to help you instead of hurting you for a change. It kills me to see some of you carrying around the broken-hearted baggage I see you with. Been there, done that, bought the f*cking t-shirt!
You are better than that and I'm going to explain why....
Now to the point. The next time you get upset over a woman, pulling your hair out wondering what she thinks of you, asking yourself and others how you can "win" her, etc...., look back at a girl/woman in the past that you thought you loved and ask yourself how you feel about her now.
You got over her, right? She's meaningless to you now, right? The point is that this too shall pass! Yes, it will. Let me tell you, I can look back at any number of my past "obsessions" now and totally not give a crap if they're still alive or not. I don't mean that in a harsh or mean way, but just being honest.
So let's do some analytical math here:
1. Take all of the past cases of one-itis you had and line them up on a chart.
2. Take your current one-itis and put her next in line.
3. Plot your trend line.
By the magic of extrapolation, all factors will indicate that.... (TADA!) YOU'LL GET OVER HER, TOO!
Amazing, isn't it? Look back at previous women you were "in love" with. Were your feelings any less intense than they are right now? I doubt it. In fact, there was a woman about 15 years ago that trumps them all as far as my obsession/intensity/whatever goes. As of right this red hot second, I have no idea where she is or what became of her and I honestly don't spend a second thinking about it.
So in closing, let me say that this method isn't an instant "quick fix," but it's the closest thing I've ever found. Just look at your past history of the times you thought someone was "the woman you loved" or "the love of your life" or whatever you prefer. This method will obviously work better the older you are. If you're 16 and think you're "in love" for the first time, it'll be a little less useful. This works better for an older man who has been burned a few times and has those past issues for reference.
If you're currently suffering from one-itis, a "broken heart," depression, or whatever, give this strategy a fair trial. You deserve better than to be obsessing over one particular girl who doesn't care either way. Life is short and there is an entire sea full of fish.
Good luck and God bless!
Back in my clueless days, I would get so worked up over a girl. You know, classic one-itis. I would dream about her, romanticize about her, put her on the highest pedestal as a living goddess, a pure and noble princess, an innocent virgin of the highest order. I would let her occupy my mind 24 hours a day. I would get upset if I saw her with another guy. I would ask people about her. I would try to impress her. You know the drill; general obsession, or as we say here, one-itis.
Most if not all of us have suffered/are suffering this horrible fate. It seems that there is no way out and we always think that we'll feel this way about her.
Guess again. I'm going to show you the way out, my deserving friend. You're going to use your own history to help you instead of hurting you for a change. It kills me to see some of you carrying around the broken-hearted baggage I see you with. Been there, done that, bought the f*cking t-shirt!
You are better than that and I'm going to explain why....
Now to the point. The next time you get upset over a woman, pulling your hair out wondering what she thinks of you, asking yourself and others how you can "win" her, etc...., look back at a girl/woman in the past that you thought you loved and ask yourself how you feel about her now.
You got over her, right? She's meaningless to you now, right? The point is that this too shall pass! Yes, it will. Let me tell you, I can look back at any number of my past "obsessions" now and totally not give a crap if they're still alive or not. I don't mean that in a harsh or mean way, but just being honest.
So let's do some analytical math here:
1. Take all of the past cases of one-itis you had and line them up on a chart.
2. Take your current one-itis and put her next in line.
3. Plot your trend line.
By the magic of extrapolation, all factors will indicate that.... (TADA!) YOU'LL GET OVER HER, TOO!
Amazing, isn't it? Look back at previous women you were "in love" with. Were your feelings any less intense than they are right now? I doubt it. In fact, there was a woman about 15 years ago that trumps them all as far as my obsession/intensity/whatever goes. As of right this red hot second, I have no idea where she is or what became of her and I honestly don't spend a second thinking about it.
So in closing, let me say that this method isn't an instant "quick fix," but it's the closest thing I've ever found. Just look at your past history of the times you thought someone was "the woman you loved" or "the love of your life" or whatever you prefer. This method will obviously work better the older you are. If you're 16 and think you're "in love" for the first time, it'll be a little less useful. This works better for an older man who has been burned a few times and has those past issues for reference.
If you're currently suffering from one-itis, a "broken heart," depression, or whatever, give this strategy a fair trial. You deserve better than to be obsessing over one particular girl who doesn't care either way. Life is short and there is an entire sea full of fish.
Good luck and God bless!
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