In terms of romance, should a man be real or fake?

[BadBoy89]

One thing this site, and other sites preach, is that in order to get women, “a man should be real and authentic.”. OK, if a man is real and authentic, but is still single with no wife or kids when is older. what good does that do him?

On the other hand, if the man is not real and not authentic, but the woman falls for him and gets married / pregnant, delivers a healthy baby, and then the man shows who he really is, isn’t that better?

My friend met a decent looking chick online. He “faked who he was” until she got good and pregnant, gave birth to healthy boy, then he relaxed and showed the real side. Now he has a family and she can’t leave because it’s too late, treats him nice too. But she never would have got with him if he was “authentic and real”.

It seems like being real and authentic is good advice for society and getting loans from banks, but it’s terrible in terms of romantic relationships.

Thoughts?

 

[Barrister]

I don't follow what you are trying to say. How is the man not being real and authentic in order to attract women? I need an example, because frankly I don't see how that would work long term.

I think some men can certainly pull off a fake persona over the course of a few dates with PUA tactics. But an LTR that leads to a woman getting pregnant and beyond? At that point, it isn't faking anything, that is just who you are and apparently the chick digs it.

 

[The Duke]

Fake always unravels down the road. They can accept you for who you are or leave. There is always someone who will like you for the real you, keep looking.

 

[Gamisch]

One thing this site, and other sites preach, is that in order to get women, “a man should be real and authentic.”. OK, if a man is real and authentic, but is still single with no wife or kids when is older. what good does that do him?

On the other hand, if the man is not real and not authentic, but the woman falls for him and gets married / pregnant, delivers a healthy baby, and then the man shows who he really is, isn’t that better?

My friend met a decent looking chick online. He “faked who he was” until she got good and pregnant, gave birth to healthy boy, then he relaxed and showed the real side. Now he has a family and she can’t leave because it’s too late, treats him nice too. But she never would have got with him if he was “authentic and real”.

It seems like being real and authentic is good advice for society and getting loans from banks, but it’s terrible in terms of romantic relationships.

Thoughts?

Yes, when you are one with yourself you are real and authentic. Part of that is full acceptance of self.

Perhaps sometimes it seems like somebody fakes something, at the end of it all it's actually what he really is in that moment in time. You fake being friendly still people will say you are friendly . But oke.

We saw what the tinder swindler did. There are millions of ways to "fake" your way into a woman's life. Women are gullible, but they are much more. If you aim at other characteristics of women such as need for romance and connection, libido and sex, excitment and seduction ect you can get the same woman in a submissive state while being YOU.

Your friend is extremely lucky he found one that tolerates him for who he is. This sounds like like the perfect way to activate a woman's absolute worst side. If she wasn't into him she would be long gone by now.

Just keep focusing on improving and learning game and you'll be fine when you encounter women.