I'll talk you about one core concept of attracting women and being charismatic person. This is good for natural gaming and mastering it makes one constantly very smooth. I apologize my bad english.
When you are watching a really good movie you get totally sucked into that. A good movie or a good book can hold your attention from begin to the end. They are capable to have you immersed totally in the experience.
Most of the game is immersing women into your reality. You can call this also charming them or whatever.
This part of the game is somehow acknowledged but not really studied deeply enough. The understanding isn’t yet complete. Mystery talks about “Social Hook-Point”, that’s when we have successfully entered into the set and they don’t want us to leave. The fact is that he has somehow first captured their attention. He can use some routine “OMG, did you see those two girls fighting outside?!” or a magic trick, but they both have the same goal; to make the girls interested into what he has to say.
But behind the person who we see as “interesting” or perhaps charismatic there’s the ability to create immersion. The good performance of routine can create this immersion and thus present the DJ/PUA as an interesting person. David D. advised to use palm reading in his ebook. This is a trick to get the girl interested.
David D. gets very near about what I’m talking about with his concept of “dominant reality”. The concept of dominant reality is very powerful. Basically it tells that the person who is the most interesting can “suck” other persons into his reality. Immersion is one part of this concept.
It is the ability to create immersion that separates good and successful players from the bad ones. Imagination helps to create immersion but so does the experience in this game and on other areas of life. Girls prefer men who are experienced with women and experienced sexually. They prefer them because these men know what to do and how to leads so this gives them great amounts of immersion; girl can just dive into the experience. The person who has the most capability to make people immersed is usually also the leader of the group.
Now, we all seek immersion. It makes our mind go away from mundane things. We watch television, read books and go to movies to have immersion. Videogames can be 100% immersive, that's why they are so addictive to little kids. Great sex is one of the most intense forms of immersion we can have. When we are sleeping and dreaming the immersion is perfect. Alcohol makes the immersion more intense as it deprives some senses and shuts down the information flow. We can thus focus better in the things at hand. Of course it gives us some energy too. Notice when someone is immersed into something and we are not. We become easily interested in what he/she is doing/experiencing. We want to be part of this immersion.
Immersion is a skill. If you can learn how to immerse in to things and make them interesting then you have partially learned this. The other part is sharing this same immersion with your girl. The key is to SHARE the SAME level of immersion that you have. Only this way you can get the rapport. Forget about all the other definitions how to create rapport. Rapport is always based on shared experiences, which have immersed us in some way. So, immersion creates rapport. It is THE rapport tool. There are no other ways to create the rapport but to share immersion in some level. And the level of rapport is based on the level of the immersion of the experiences you have shared together.
Charming person, i.e. person being capable of creating intense immersion, has the goal to create rapport. But first the immersion is used to create attraction. The beauty is that immersion will both create attraction AND the rapport.
Even the more boring things can be used to attain immersion and thus be in the rapport. That’s what guys who don’t have such a great game do.
Routines are one way to attain immersion. A routine that works is a routine that gets the girl immersed into it. But in a sense they are just the training wheels before being able to rise to the next level of the gaming. There are only so many routines that you can remember, and in the natural game we rely to our own charm, not in the charm of Mystery or someone else. Throwing a routine in the wrong situation just demonstrates that the person lacks social calibration. Also bad routine subcommunicates that it is only designed to get the girls attracted. One example of bad routine is “Cube”. It’s pathetic to do that in-field to gain attraction. Cube-routine is good in some other situation, when there is already plenty of rapport.
It’s not so easy to get deep immersion merely through talking about mundane topics. The exception is story telling. Good story captures the imagination and creates good immersion. For a person, especially to girls, it is very immersive when we talk about them. It is also immersive to talk about other persons that she knows. So then becomes the question, how to make things interesting?
Learn how to become immersed into things. There's not just one way to do this but everyone has his or her own ways. After you frequently get immersed and excited about things then you are already interesting person, provided that you are interested and immersed into relatively cool things or you can make things appear cool. Person who gets immersed and excited radiates the good energy. He/she is THE source of good feelings. More these persons in the group the better.
Everything we do in a group is to attain immersion. Don't forget this! A group, which is not able to attain immersion, does not work and will disintegrate. Also if there is a person in a group who is not able to get in the levels of immersion the others are having then he/she is usually the weak link of the group and his/her energies are working against the group. Immersion is the priority number one on group dynamics.
In the group we talk to attain immersion. We play silly games for the same reason. The more you can contribute the immersion for the group, the more you have social value. Thus immersion becomes tied with the Value. And for the attraction I use the VAC-formula: “Attraction = Value & Attainability & Compliance”. So when you are able to contribute immersion for the group, your value raises and then it’s about having your VAC balanced to have attraction.
Here are the components that I see are necessary for the great immersion:
-Dominance: being able to lead.
-Emotion: get enthusiastic about something and so will she.
-Being playful.
-Sexuality: bedroom eyes/sexy voice etc.
-Small area of awareness/being very focused
-(being creative/spontanous are great skills and enchance immersion)
If one of these crucial elements is forgotten, then the immersion isn’t perfect. For example failing to be playful and dominant leads to rapport which is very formal. Formal rapport is for business partners, not for lovers.
Here are some means to attain the shared immersion. Notice that these are merely the ways to acquire the context:
-Become yourself first immersed into something and get visibly interested into something. Girls will notice this and become intrigued.
-Find something interesting
-Good routine
-Good story
-Good Vibe.
-Flow of action
-Play some game together, like minigolf.
For example, I’m in the shop with my girl. I take some DVD from the shelf and become enthusiastic about that. I fix all my attention into that. Then my girl also becomes interested becouse there must be some reason I’m interested into it. Of course my immersion must provide something in this context, humour, story, C&F-stuff or something else.
I’ve noticed that good immersion works a lot better than just starting to talk about something. It’s more than just being situationally relevant. If you can share your enthusiasm about something then you’ll notice how important it’s to have emotion in your game.
One thing you have to take into account when using this immersion-concept is that immersion should be calibrated with situational relevance (SitRel). For example if there happens something in the group that is more interesting than what you are currently immersed in, then you should follow the SitRel and participate into that.
Magical Moment
A magical moment is a moment of shared immersive experience. During a magical moment the awareness is totally sucked into the experience. The time flyes by. Everything goes totally right and well. When you are truly immersed into the experience there is zero self-consciousness and you live in the moment. This is almost dream like experience.
To create the magical moment does not need superior gaming skills. It just needs total immersion into the experience. This moment only happens when both parties are totally immersed into the same experience. These moments create a lasting bond between two persons.
Here's what makes the magical moments:
• Experience that is emotionally evoking.
• Acting in the experience, not just observing it to happen.
• Complete, 100% immersion in the experience. This means everything else around is forgotten.
• Sharing the total immersion AND the experience.
Think what things can create these moments? Doing something physical together is a good place to start. Go play tennis, pool or minigolf and see if you can create a magical moment together. One way to create them is to use some routines that involve some kino. Then have also good stories. Diversity is good for your game.
The magical moments are what I am living for. There can be one-minute moment in a day or in a week that is pure magic but it is worth it.
When you are watching a really good movie you get totally sucked into that. A good movie or a good book can hold your attention from begin to the end. They are capable to have you immersed totally in the experience.
Most of the game is immersing women into your reality. You can call this also charming them or whatever.
This part of the game is somehow acknowledged but not really studied deeply enough. The understanding isn’t yet complete. Mystery talks about “Social Hook-Point”, that’s when we have successfully entered into the set and they don’t want us to leave. The fact is that he has somehow first captured their attention. He can use some routine “OMG, did you see those two girls fighting outside?!” or a magic trick, but they both have the same goal; to make the girls interested into what he has to say.
But behind the person who we see as “interesting” or perhaps charismatic there’s the ability to create immersion. The good performance of routine can create this immersion and thus present the DJ/PUA as an interesting person. David D. advised to use palm reading in his ebook. This is a trick to get the girl interested.
David D. gets very near about what I’m talking about with his concept of “dominant reality”. The concept of dominant reality is very powerful. Basically it tells that the person who is the most interesting can “suck” other persons into his reality. Immersion is one part of this concept.
It is the ability to create immersion that separates good and successful players from the bad ones. Imagination helps to create immersion but so does the experience in this game and on other areas of life. Girls prefer men who are experienced with women and experienced sexually. They prefer them because these men know what to do and how to leads so this gives them great amounts of immersion; girl can just dive into the experience. The person who has the most capability to make people immersed is usually also the leader of the group.
Now, we all seek immersion. It makes our mind go away from mundane things. We watch television, read books and go to movies to have immersion. Videogames can be 100% immersive, that's why they are so addictive to little kids. Great sex is one of the most intense forms of immersion we can have. When we are sleeping and dreaming the immersion is perfect. Alcohol makes the immersion more intense as it deprives some senses and shuts down the information flow. We can thus focus better in the things at hand. Of course it gives us some energy too. Notice when someone is immersed into something and we are not. We become easily interested in what he/she is doing/experiencing. We want to be part of this immersion.
Immersion is a skill. If you can learn how to immerse in to things and make them interesting then you have partially learned this. The other part is sharing this same immersion with your girl. The key is to SHARE the SAME level of immersion that you have. Only this way you can get the rapport. Forget about all the other definitions how to create rapport. Rapport is always based on shared experiences, which have immersed us in some way. So, immersion creates rapport. It is THE rapport tool. There are no other ways to create the rapport but to share immersion in some level. And the level of rapport is based on the level of the immersion of the experiences you have shared together.
Charming person, i.e. person being capable of creating intense immersion, has the goal to create rapport. But first the immersion is used to create attraction. The beauty is that immersion will both create attraction AND the rapport.
Even the more boring things can be used to attain immersion and thus be in the rapport. That’s what guys who don’t have such a great game do.
Routines are one way to attain immersion. A routine that works is a routine that gets the girl immersed into it. But in a sense they are just the training wheels before being able to rise to the next level of the gaming. There are only so many routines that you can remember, and in the natural game we rely to our own charm, not in the charm of Mystery or someone else. Throwing a routine in the wrong situation just demonstrates that the person lacks social calibration. Also bad routine subcommunicates that it is only designed to get the girls attracted. One example of bad routine is “Cube”. It’s pathetic to do that in-field to gain attraction. Cube-routine is good in some other situation, when there is already plenty of rapport.
It’s not so easy to get deep immersion merely through talking about mundane topics. The exception is story telling. Good story captures the imagination and creates good immersion. For a person, especially to girls, it is very immersive when we talk about them. It is also immersive to talk about other persons that she knows. So then becomes the question, how to make things interesting?
Learn how to become immersed into things. There's not just one way to do this but everyone has his or her own ways. After you frequently get immersed and excited about things then you are already interesting person, provided that you are interested and immersed into relatively cool things or you can make things appear cool. Person who gets immersed and excited radiates the good energy. He/she is THE source of good feelings. More these persons in the group the better.
Everything we do in a group is to attain immersion. Don't forget this! A group, which is not able to attain immersion, does not work and will disintegrate. Also if there is a person in a group who is not able to get in the levels of immersion the others are having then he/she is usually the weak link of the group and his/her energies are working against the group. Immersion is the priority number one on group dynamics.
In the group we talk to attain immersion. We play silly games for the same reason. The more you can contribute the immersion for the group, the more you have social value. Thus immersion becomes tied with the Value. And for the attraction I use the VAC-formula: “Attraction = Value & Attainability & Compliance”. So when you are able to contribute immersion for the group, your value raises and then it’s about having your VAC balanced to have attraction.
Here are the components that I see are necessary for the great immersion:
-Dominance: being able to lead.
-Emotion: get enthusiastic about something and so will she.
-Being playful.
-Sexuality: bedroom eyes/sexy voice etc.
-Small area of awareness/being very focused
-(being creative/spontanous are great skills and enchance immersion)
If one of these crucial elements is forgotten, then the immersion isn’t perfect. For example failing to be playful and dominant leads to rapport which is very formal. Formal rapport is for business partners, not for lovers.
Here are some means to attain the shared immersion. Notice that these are merely the ways to acquire the context:
-Become yourself first immersed into something and get visibly interested into something. Girls will notice this and become intrigued.
-Find something interesting
-Good routine
-Good story
-Good Vibe.
-Flow of action
-Play some game together, like minigolf.
For example, I’m in the shop with my girl. I take some DVD from the shelf and become enthusiastic about that. I fix all my attention into that. Then my girl also becomes interested becouse there must be some reason I’m interested into it. Of course my immersion must provide something in this context, humour, story, C&F-stuff or something else.
I’ve noticed that good immersion works a lot better than just starting to talk about something. It’s more than just being situationally relevant. If you can share your enthusiasm about something then you’ll notice how important it’s to have emotion in your game.
One thing you have to take into account when using this immersion-concept is that immersion should be calibrated with situational relevance (SitRel). For example if there happens something in the group that is more interesting than what you are currently immersed in, then you should follow the SitRel and participate into that.
Magical Moment
A magical moment is a moment of shared immersive experience. During a magical moment the awareness is totally sucked into the experience. The time flyes by. Everything goes totally right and well. When you are truly immersed into the experience there is zero self-consciousness and you live in the moment. This is almost dream like experience.
To create the magical moment does not need superior gaming skills. It just needs total immersion into the experience. This moment only happens when both parties are totally immersed into the same experience. These moments create a lasting bond between two persons.
Here's what makes the magical moments:
• Experience that is emotionally evoking.
• Acting in the experience, not just observing it to happen.
• Complete, 100% immersion in the experience. This means everything else around is forgotten.
• Sharing the total immersion AND the experience.
Think what things can create these moments? Doing something physical together is a good place to start. Go play tennis, pool or minigolf and see if you can create a magical moment together. One way to create them is to use some routines that involve some kino. Then have also good stories. Diversity is good for your game.
The magical moments are what I am living for. There can be one-minute moment in a day or in a week that is pure magic but it is worth it.
