Imbalances in power

[Bingo-Player]

the more and more im thinking about it im pretty sure that women can actually sense the balance of power between you

almost like she can sense you want her more than she wants you so therefore she holds all the cards and calls all the shots which is why when you finally hook up with a really hot chick you can’t initially get her to initiate contact first for love nor money and you are constantly second guessing her

( i know this is the point where your DJ skills come in to play but hear me out anyway )

this has come to light because recently ive been on a tinder rampage and scored several dates with chicks that perhaps aren’t the best looking but are more than prepared to put out with very little work on my part

dont get me wrong theyre all certaintly worth a bang...... but im confident that my social status and looks put me out of theyre league ( at the risk of sounding like an arrogant ****)

anyway ive got 2 of these chicks constantly texting me wanting dates , one has even suggested we skip the usual nonsense and go straight to a hotel to get down to business

on the other hand a girl im genuinely interested in and we have dated and kissed but not banged shes now playing games i really dont have time for so im in the process of ghosting her

im assuming that the girl im interested in can easily tell im interested in her and therefore thinks she can get away with more

and as i am typing this out funnily enough its all making sense ....the inital few dates are almost like a game of poker lose your poker face and risk losing the pot !!

probably didn’t play it cool enough on the first date with her and therefore have made myself less attractive by wanting her too much

and on the flip side

your naturally less interested in the less attractive girls and therefore they know they cant mess around or play games

fascinating stuff !!

 

[Bingo-Player]

^^ duly noted

 

[PlayHer Man]

Good post with lots of truth.

This is why you spin plates. It neutralizes any edge a woman might have from you wanting to f*ck her more than she wants to f*ck you. By having other options you make "success" with any one girl less important. This also increases the urgency on the part of the girl. If she doesn't stand out from the other plates... your attention will be gone faster than a fart in the wind.

Women are very aware of power dynamics in relationships. I would argue they are more aware than men by far. Psychological power games are their bread and butter. Its how they keep beta faggot orbiters buzzing around them for years while never f*cking them and having no intentions of doing so.

When you meet a new woman.. her first goal is finding a label for you based on your utility. She needs to know what you offer and what the price is. In many cases the price is "hope" that one day he can f*ck her. That's all it takes for most men to become submissive orbiters.

A DJ is too smart to commit based on "hope". He knows if there is no physicality relatively early in the relationship then there probably never will be. Thus, the more time he invests the lower his value in the eyes of the woman. Men with options don't waste much time pursuing a woman.

Women who make things too difficult get NEXTED as they should.

 

[Rainman4707]

Strange thing happened to me over last few days.

Been seeing a HB7 for the last 3 month's. Really liked her. Seemed to be getting on well (bet you've heard that one before) Told her last Friday that I would stop seeing other women if she stopped seeing other men. She was okay with that & was texting me couple of days later asking me what I was up to? Hows work? to which I didn't reply.

She is on holiday this week. We are still in same country though. I texted her on Monday asking when she is back from her hols to which she didn't respond (She always responds) our texting is normally logistics though.
I was on the phone to my friend later that night & he told me he couldn't find her in my facebook friends list. So she has deleted me from facebook. I sent her a text last nght asking why she had removed me from her facebook. She hasn't replied.

Maybe she just isn't interested anymore. I had sex with her for the first time the week before this...maybe that has changed things.

Oh yeah..nearly forgot. I have been playing about on POF over the weekend so maybe one of her friends seen me.

Nobody likes being ignored so maybe she has spat her dummy out!
Maybe this is a BIG **** test to see how needy/insecure I am.

I recall four years ago I was seeing a girl I liked for a few month (I didn't like her as much as this woman). I didn't understand as much about attraction then as I do now & all of a sudden she went no contact on me. I texted/rang her to try & find out what was wrong like hitch in his AFC days, but no response. Then after a week of her not responding she sent me a private message on facebook saying how she needed to concentrate on her career etc.etc.

Sometimes it can be a shi* test & sometimes they are plainly not interested. I think sh*t tests separate the real deal from the AFC's

In situations like this I think a lot of guys feel that the woman is attracted to them when she is not & they try to reach out to solve the problem.

She will be thinking "I wonder how desperate he is?"

Hmm

 

[Bingo-Player]

@rainman

I don’t know whether it was a wise move to have told her after a few weeks you are going to stop texting other women and also give her an ultimatum with it

One thing ive learnt this month is that girls love mystery

they say they hate players but secretly they want to think you’ve been texting other women and that she has beaten those other women too you

if she finds out from one of her girlfriends that you’ve been seeing or texting another woman in town then it will drive her wild and eventually into your bed as you will have to prove to you that shes better……

although preferably you don’t want her to actually see you with another woman as that would push her over the edge

women like to be balanced perfectly like a see saw any sort of upset in the balance of power and they go haywire

what us men lack is the ability to communicate about our feelings to each other

this is why women can manipulate so easily they are way way way more advanced in communicating with each other about emotions and feelings than we are

this is confirmed by the fact that every single woman plays the same manipulative little games ( at different levels admittedly depending on how beautiful they are)

but its almost like they have a book of rules and specifications as which to abide by when looking for the perfect mate and why a woman’s friends have so much influence

anyway that’s my 2 cents