I'm very unhappy with my sex life.

[razkay]

This is why I don't have any dates or a girlfriend:

1. Since I don't have any dates or a girlfriend, I'm very unhappy and it shows sometimes. It's hard for me to smile and have positive body language.

2. I read this forum too much. I get very depressed when I read stuff like "only hot or rich guys can get good-looking girls". I'm not hot or rich. I'm attractive...does that count for anything?

3. I have no friends. I'm depressed because I have no friends and don't have the energy to go out and try to make new friends. It seems like making friends in your mid-20's is much harder than say when you were twelve. I don't think I can ever have a best friend again like I did when I was a kid which makes me depressed.

4. I have no hobbies. I just started going to the gym, so maybe I can make that my hobby. I like to do stuff but don't know where/how to find other people that like to do the same stuff.

5. I don't understand fashion. I don't understand how to layer outfits or what stuff to wear that would make a girl take notice. Like I want to buy a few button down shirts, but what do I wear underneath? What kind of jeans go with it? What are some cool shoes that can go with jeans? I just don't understand fashion. All I wear now is graphic tees, jeans (from Express, Ross, etc), and nice sneakers.

6. In my daily activities, I never see any women that are available to approach. Guys talk about approaching women in grocery stores, Starbucks, etc. How do you start a conversation in these situations? I never see an opportunity to start a conversation. Everything I think of is lame and the conversation would only last one minute.


Has anyone experienced OR currently experiencing any of the points I made above? How did you deal or are dealing with it?

Please someone help me...surely some of you have been in worst situations. The only sex I had in my life was with escorts. I had sex with around 25 escorts since I was 18. I'll be twenty-five in two weeks. I never had sex with a girl who wanted to have sex with me because she found me attractive. I'm very tired of the escort experience. I want to have sex with a girl multiple times a day. I want to come home after work and go over her house or she come over mine and have sex. I'm tired of the 30/60 minute deal with escorts.

My details...

* 25 years old
* African-American
* Ecto-mesomorph body (I'm prone to being slim. If I don't eat a lot, I can lose 5 pounds in a week. I can gain muscle easy, slim waist, and I'm toned/cut)
* I'm attractive...don't have bad skin, I get haircuts, straight teeth/white teeth, no facial hair, no weird facial structure...you get the idea)
* I wear jeans a lot, I like graphic tees with a good fit (I hate baggy clothes), polo shirts during the week for work.
* I'm smart, know a lot of random facts, can have an intelligent conversation about almost anything (except sports, I don't follow sports)
* My goal is to gain 25lbs and workout religiously every other day except weekends.

Here's a pic of my body:
http://i32.tinypic.com/287gn53.jpg

So, how can I improve my sex life and start meeting some girls and hopefully start having some sex with girls that just wanna have sex with me?

 

[SickAgain]

Fix your attitude. The rest should follow. Guys who get laid are confident and social and have a keen sexual awareness. Outer appearance isn't too important as long as you're well-kempt. Kill your desperation. Be an interesting person with interesting things to say. Anyways focus on getting friends first. Seems like your life is kinda in shambles. Fix it, and then let the women come later.

 

[Allurre]

negate every statement about yourself you just made.

TELL YOURSELF THIS NOW: I CAN CHANGE, I WILL CHANGE.

It's not the end of the world. It starts with incremental progress in order to reach the level of success you're looking for.

Everyone started at the same place, the only difference that separates those who win and those who don't is their individual commitment, persistence, and perseverance.

 

[comic_relief]

Your post sounds like me when I first came to this site.

The single greatest thing that I ever did was get the hell out of where I was and go somewhere else to start over.

My first year at sosuave was an EPIC FAILURE with women, but I used it to restart my inner game and start at scratch. Once I got my inner game down pat, I was able to game women easily.

btw keep going to the gym, your body isn't horrible.

- comic_relief

 

[Hikapo]

It's your attitude. Gotta be positive.

Oh and, regarding making friends... if you are not in school, you gotta go join local clubs(reading,painting,dancing etc). friends are important. thats why you are not happy.

 

[JCballin88]

I understand where you're coming from on feeling alone with little or no friends.

I moved to a new city two states away just for the summer, where I had a seasonal job and a couple of summer college classes lined up. The only people I knew coming in were my cousins that I was going to be living with.

Basically I just donned this "nothing to lose" attitude and just started talking to everybody I came in contact with. I made a whole bunch of friends right away at work just by talking to them and introducing myself as the "out-of-state guy" that didn't know anything about the town. In each of my 2 classes I approached the most attractive female, and number closed them the same day. I also got to talking with some of the guys in class and was immediately invited out with them for burgers and what-not. Then all I had to do was start setting up things to do with these people, and it's led to a much larger social circle.

If I were living at home in the same-old routine this summer, I can almost guarantee you that I would be spending all my free time in my room on the computer wishing I had friends. Since I've been here, my phone is constantly going off and every weekend I've been invited to go to parties, clubs, poker games, beach dates, etc. I never have to stay home and mope unless I want to, because there's always something going on.

Now the challenge for me is carrying over this attitude back home and then at my college where I will be a junior this fall. I have to head home next weekend and leave all the amazing friends I've made here. But the experience in itself was just incredible.

 

[The Muscle Guy]

This is why I don't have any dates or a girlfriend:

1. Since I don't have any dates or a girlfriend, I'm very unhappy and it shows sometimes. It's hard for me to smile and have positive body language.

2. I read this forum too much. I get very depressed when I read stuff like "only hot or rich guys can get good-looking girls". I'm not hot or rich. I'm attractive...does that count for anything?

3. I have no friends. I'm depressed because I have no friends and don't have the energy to go out and try to make new friends. It seems like making friends in your mid-20's is much harder than say when you were twelve. I don't think I can ever have a best friend again like I did when I was a kid which makes me depressed.

4. I have no hobbies. I just started going to the gym, so maybe I can make that my hobby. I like to do stuff but don't know where/how to find other people that like to do the same stuff.

5. I don't understand fashion. I don't understand how to layer outfits or what stuff to wear that would make a girl take notice. Like I want to buy a few button down shirts, but what do I wear underneath? What kind of jeans go with it? What are some cool shoes that can go with jeans? I just don't understand fashion. All I wear now is graphic tees, jeans (from Express, Ross, etc), and nice sneakers.

6. In my daily activities, I never see any women that are available to approach. Guys talk about approaching women in grocery stores, Starbucks, etc. How do you start a conversation in these situations? I never see an opportunity to start a conversation. Everything I think of is lame and the conversation would only last one minute.


Has anyone experienced OR currently experiencing any of the points I made above? How did you deal or are dealing with it?

Please someone help me...surely some of you have been in worst situations. The only sex I had in my life was with escorts. I had sex with around 25 escorts since I was 18. I'll be twenty-five in two weeks. I never had sex with a girl who wanted to have sex with me because she found me attractive. I'm very tired of the escort experience. I want to have sex with a girl multiple times a day. I want to come home after work and go over her house or she come over mine and have sex. I'm tired of the 30/60 minute deal with escorts.

My details...

* 25 years old
* African-American
* Ecto-mesomorph body (I'm prone to being slim. If I don't eat a lot, I can lose 5 pounds in a week. I can gain muscle easy, slim waist, and I'm toned/cut)
* I'm attractive...don't have bad skin, I get haircuts, straight teeth/white teeth, no facial hair, no weird facial structure...you get the idea)
* I wear jeans a lot, I like graphic tees with a good fit (I hate baggy clothes), polo shirts during the week for work.
* I'm smart, know a lot of random facts, can have an intelligent conversation about almost anything (except sports, I don't follow sports)
* My goal is to gain 25lbs and workout religiously every other day except weekends.

Here's a pic of my body:
http://i32.tinypic.com/287gn53.jpg

So, how can I improve my sex life and start meeting some girls and hopefully start having some sex with girls that just wanna have sex with me?

1. I'm a surly mofo too, I rarely smile and usually look angry. I had several dates this week, and several more next week. All different women.

2. Loser talk. You can build your income. I came from a piss poor family. Now I have 2 businesses.

3. I have no friends too. Business associates and family. I also have a great support group at zenmack.com

4. I used to be a boxer. I tore my labrum and that put an end to that.

5. Sneakers... Watch my video on what to wear. My name is OtisTheMuscleGuy on youtube.

6. I have trouble with day game too. I hate approaching women in groups, I prefer lone wolves. And because women lack the courage to go out alone, that is a rarity. Thank God for online game!

 

[eaglez1177]

Fix the attitude and you'll be fine. No homo but you're lucky to have a good looking body. Geez that sounds g*y. Once again, no homo.

 

[C-quenced]

Please someone help me...surely some of you have been in worst situations. The only sex I had in my life was with escorts. I had sex with around 25 escorts since I was 18. I'll be twenty-five in two weeks. I never had sex with a girl who wanted to have sex with me because she found me attractive. I'm very tired of the escort experience. I want to have sex with a girl multiple times a day. I want to come home after work and go over her house or she come over mine and have sex. I'm tired of the 30/60 minute deal with escorts.


Your average guy won't even reach that number in his lifetime. Many guys would disagree but paid for or not you should still be grateful... except for the financial part of it as I'm sure that it was super expensive.