I'm so confused! Crazy Ex....

[Captain Anonymous]

Alright, I've been going out with a girl for about 5 weeks. Things are going alright... a bit up and down, but generally not so bad.

Two days ago, my ex (who I had an excellent relationship with) rang me and asked if I wanted to hook up today (Wednesday). We hadn't talked in months, and I wanted to catch up with her. Anyway, we talked for a few hours over the two nights, and she was saying alot things like "Man, I just need to get layed" (she and her boyfriend of 16 months hadn't had sex) and flirting with me over the phone.

I wondered whether I should go through with it, as I didn't really want to cheat on my girlfriend, but I still went with my ex.

Anyway, we saw a movie together. Nothing happened (quite a relief for me). She just lied on me the way girls do in the movie, and I had my hand on her stomach.

She gets home and emails me, the general jist of this was that she would never cheat on her boyfriend, and that she just didn't have the heart to tell me in the cinema.

Naturally, I was quite confused, and I talked to her an hour later using IM. We had a big fight, she's all cut at me, and I have no idea what I did wrong.


Convo (it's a bit long, didn't know if i should post it)

Ex: read the emai;
Me: thello
Me: hello
Ex: hey
Ex: plz readt rge email is ent ya
Me: k
Me: fair enough, but i want you to know if i went to a movie with any of my friends (that are females) it would have been something like what happened. it doesn't mean i wanted to go any further
Me: but i understand, and im sorry
Ex: i donmna
Ex: about dta
Ex: loook i didnt feel comforable u see i dont like other pople touching me itfeels wrong which it is, i am all for one person and i only feel comforable by my boy that touchers me
Ex: i love him soo much tahts not even words or anything could describe how much i trluy love him
Ex: we have our fights and **** but not once have i loved him less
Ex: i love him more and more for every second of the day i think of him
Ex: he brought( and still brigs) wonderflu things into my/ our lifes and ii could be haoppier
Ex: i dont think u like ur gal i thi u need to think hard about this one and make sure, but who i am to say who u like or dont thats tryly about to u
Ex: ?????\
Ex: heelo
Me: yea?
Ex: why u cut at me
Ex: y not talking
Me: what do you want me to say
Ex: wat the **** is ur problem
Ex: **** u could at least say something
Ex: dont go all pissy at me
Ex: ,man i did nothing, u were flirting with me
Ex: i should no indcation that i like u more den a friend
Me: you mean "showed" by should?
Ex: i tal;k about my boy 247 showing pople/letting them know i love my boy
Ex: wateva
Ex: yeha ****en hell ur sooooooooooooooooooo
Ex: !@#@@$
Ex: talk will ya
Me: look, when you were on the phone, i got the impression that you wanted something
Me: ii shouldn't have even gone
Ex: when was this
Me: all the time
Ex: wat the **** do u listen hw much i talk about my boy
Me: yes, and i was also listening when you said things like "I just need to get laid"
Ex: that NEVER crossed my mind nothign like that since me with brod
Me: what the hell do you think I thought you wanted when you said that to me the first time we had talk in months??
Ex: **** i was joking around man
Ex: hey u the one that never talked to me then why day outa the blue and startd talking to me waiting for me to find out
Me: waiting for you to find out what\
Ex: about ur gal(soz someone at teh door)
Ex: did u thin i wanted to get laid by u or sometiug
Me: i didn't know what you thought
Me: and i dont think you know either
Ex: trust me i ****ren know
Ex: do u know who i rang toda
Ex: my boy
Ex: coz i couldnt stop thinking about him
Me: i know you rang him
Ex: i thought me and you werre just meeting up
Me: well what else did we do?
Me: nothing....
Ex: i wiuld never cheta on my boy
Ex: still i thik u should tell u gal, its not good to lie its infair how woud u like it if she did that
Ex: u were pratcaly cheating one het
Me: bull****
Ex: its true
Ex: **** i thought u would kno better
Ex: why do most guys hink u cant just eba friend
Me: ****ing hell, where do you draw the line then??
Ex: we dont talk
Me: what if i hug another girl
Me: is that cheating?
Me: what if i look at another girl?
Ex: i talk al the time with my boy, all the tiome today i could stop thiking of how much i love broderick and how dam lucky i am an
Ex: u weretouching me
Ex: thats cheating
Ex: its a different story
Me: oh is it
Ex: **** man
Ex: it inwas to touch ur tummy,outmy arm around u
Ex: thats ****en cheating
Ex: i know i cheated b4
Ex: mbut when i meet broderivk i dont look at guys , or jack **** coz he is all i need
Ex:
Me: that's good for you then
Ex: wats ur porblem *** on tell me
Ex: u have siomethihg to sayvthen say it
Ex: i did nothing wrong ok
Ex: DONT BE STUPID AND TALK
Me: i dont have a problem
Ex: u must because i not talking
Me: i just dont think i have anything more to say to you
Ex: fine
Ex: be like taht have a nice fken life
Ex: **** u man

In any case, I don't think we'll be talking in a while.

Comments? I don't really know what she was thinking, but I can supply details if you have questions.


~ Captain Anonymous.

 

[DJoneday]

first off - im not sure i understood half of what she said, but i think i got the main idea. Sounds to me like she went out with you and had some old emotions come back, then got home and felt guilty and went on with her bullsh** anyways, if you got a GF already, i wouldn't screw around behind her back (not on this chick at least...) cause she seems like an emotional mess. Good luck man

 

[hardwork]

Originally posted by Captain Anonymous
We had a big fight, she's all cut at me, and I have no idea what I did wrong.

God, does she talk like that?

Originally yammered by an incoherent Codeine addict
i tal;k about my boy 247 showing pople/letting them know i love my boy

Yikes.

All in all, what I got out of it was that she was trying to make you feel jealous or guilty or in some other way different. I like that part at the end where you're just like, "Okay, I'm done" and she gets whiny.

My question for you is, Why do you care how mad she is at you? I'm trying to refrain from telling you the same recycled advice I see all the time (“she ur x fro a r34s0n d0gg~”), but I really just don't see any reason to give two squirts of donkey piss.

As an aside, what was in this e-mail that was sent?

 

[Drowning]

Sounds to me like she's trying to convince herself that you were to blame, dude. All those, "I was doing nothing wrong! You were cheating on your girlfriend! You don't love her!" comments sounded to me like she was reinforcing the fact for herself because she felt guilty about what had happened.

To be honest, touching her stomach in the movie was a little past the friend zone, but you didn't even kiss or make out. Screw the stupid ***** (figuratively) and get on with your life. Leave her with her own damn insecurities.

 

[theonedude]

im seein this as a way ot make your new realtionship FLY down the SH*TTER!!
she tells you to tell her that you are cheating on her.
so she obviosly doesnt want you seeing someone else.

she also looks liek she really wants you to still like her, because honestly! there is no f*cking point in goin to the movies like that unles shes tryin ta Stir ya up, n y didnt she have a problem at the theatre with yer arm around her??

n then she tries and goes in fo this whole, "you're actually after me" mind game by saying that she is obsessed about her bf and theres NOTHING that you could do to change her mind, its like she trying to get you to take the bait and go for her.

shes playin ya, STRAIGHT UP PLAYIN!

but you dont sound like you been played yet so ur still koo..

alls i gotta say is, dude, if she thought and obsessed about YOU while you were goin out then icn really see why you left her, i mean DUDE!! shes thinkin about him
ALL DAY! 24/7!

basically she lives for her bf according to this.

if its possible for someone with a vagina to be a total ***** then she is one.

 

[Eternal]

Two things...

1. She went on a tyrant that it was your fault for her even going...

2. Get her "Hooked on Phonics."

 

[tracy Jaks]

I hate the way girls do **** like that, i mean she lays down on you, Where the **** you supposd to place your hands??? then she gets all uptight about it??

You should have fingered her, then it would have been a completeley different story.

 

[Captain Anonymous]

Originally posted by tracy Jaks
I hate the way girls do **** like that, i mean she lays down on you, Where the **** you supposd to place your hands??? then she gets all uptight about it??

Yeah, that's something that gets to me too.

I'm realising that she's an emotional trainwreck (good work on picking that up, DJoneday).

And yeah, I don't really want to mess things up with my girl at the moment, so I'm just going to stay the hell away from my ex for a while.

Von Neuen you are right, I shouldn't care about this, and at the moment, I really don't. It's just that overall we were good friends after the break up, and I didn't really want to lose that.

In the email, she says that she is sorry, but today in the movies she wanted me to tell her to stop touching her (wtf...) but she couldn't. We were just friends blah blah blah.... You have a girlfriend and should know better, blah blah blah. And how much she cares for her boyfriend. Then she tells me to write back


I'm just going to forget about her and get on with my life with who I am with now. Thanks for your feedback, it helps to get other's views on something like this .