im probably done with my one itis but it still huants me and i need to make decisions

[Stark]

ok last year junior year i asked one of my girl friends to prom. i had a huge crush on her. well she went with me it wasnt really a date tho it was more of a mass friend thing so it was a little dissapointing and then i found out she had a bf from her. so a little akward after that but we still were friends and on. she dropped her previous bf. and has a new one she picked up over the summer.... and im worried this one might not end for a long time. her new bf is like 28 and she is 17. and he is kind of tall and scrawny like all her other bfs. i feel at a disadvantage at only 5"7' .lol but hes already bought her like graduation gifts and all sorts of stuff. he always visits her after school. And i think shes moving in with him after hs not sure. they are just dating now tho is whats weird they dont make out or anything. well her and i are still just friends. i actually have a class with her this year. but from those circumstances im not sure that relationship will end soon enough for me.

she has a friend tho that is kind of cute and has no bf that ive been thinking of trying at. but the thing is if i date her my chances of ever dating the person i really have the hots for are probably 0 because they are best friends. so im still thinking of what to do...

so ya im 5"7' wish i was taller. im 162 pounds. im kind of muscular im on the swim team and going into wrestling next season. i have a minor case of gyneocomastia which is kind of annoying but it is very minor.

 

[Cronus]

but the thing is if i date her my chances of ever dating the person i really have the hots for are probably 0 because they are best friends

You are letting a chick who you arent dating and havent slept with effect your decision to date another girl.

I hate to break it to you, but you still have one-itis.

 

[WesCottII]

No chance dude, sorry, but from personal experience, it's not worth it.

One-itis is just you projecting what you want onto a girl, chances are if you showed me a pick of her, or got me to meet her, I wouldn't find her attractive. If you ever went out with this chick, i'm almost sure she'd blow your ideals of what she would be.

Why are you determined to blow all your chances with every other girl, when you know this girl finds you a sexual dud? Your best chance is to cut her out, grow up, improve yourself and come back as twice, three times, ten times the guy you are. I did it. I had MASSIVE oneitis with this girl I worked with, I got LJBF'd, so I went away, switched my shift at work, hit the gym, improved everything I could, and 3 months later, I bumped into her in a club, ended up making up with her, and taking her home. Thing was, after my constant self improvement, and bearing in mind my obsession with her, I didn't want her after that. She wasn't good enough for me....I'd met plenty of higher quality women in my town away.

Sorry for being harsh, but you're sounding pathetic.

 

[Stark]

you are right no offense taken westcott. i kind of did the same thing you did. the incident last year was the last straw for me so this summer i hit the gym as well lost 23 pounds gained muscle got new attire finally got my car. i get a number of comments like "wow you are different" or "wow you lost weight, you are thin" i probably just need to drop this ***** that has been playing mind games with me and go for somone else...