I'm not getting any pvssy

[Chamber36]

I don't want to spend money for a quick fvck.

I also am afraid to approach a stranger directly. If I've seen a girl a few times I am more comfortable. But sometimes there is only 1 chance.

I need to find a girl who I can fvck. Also, I need to get my damn house in order so that I can receive women.

Right now I don't feel very mackish, I have to sharpen my skills badly.

I've had a bunch of crashes in my recent past with women, where it was smooth sailing until closing point, and then I fvck up.

Summer is almost over, I wanna see if I can find a girl that is worthwhile, or at least sharpen my skills on girls so that I am more apt to ad hoc seduction.

I haven't been going out, but I met a guy who wants to wing it with me, so I'll find out what he thinks my faults are, and see if I can bag some chicks. I should be able to, I just need to be in the right environment. Problem is still my reluctance to approach directly in a casual environment.

 

[LorenzoVonM]

You have anxiety because you are trying get something from the interaction. You are trying to suck value out of it like it was a transaction. Go out with the goal to give and have fun. Start talking to everyone, old ladies, cashiers, babies, birds, and yes hot chicks. Getting laid she be the furthest from your head. Your goal is to give a gift. Give value. That could be listening to someone genuinely, a passing compliment, buying them a beer, a smile. Do it with out expecting any certain reaction. Accept being ignored all the way to banging.

Once you get this down its gonna make you relaxed when talking to people. This is when you will start noticing attraction signals from women. Then you can escalate to bang them. Right now you are gonna be too far in your head. i.e. not present. Your vibe will be way off.

 

[corrector]

I don't want to spend money for a quick fvck.

Go on AFF or an online site or cougar site or something and put up a profile. If I was that desperate to get laid then I'd go there.

Time is money. The problem with getting laid is that you are at the mercy of whoever responds to you and sometimes you have to wait a while to find someone. I figure, if you spend money on an escort, then it fits your transactional mentality. You are in there to get laid, and they are there to get paid.

Personally I heve never used a prostitute or escort but if you have a transactional approach, then it may be your best option for that mentality.

 

[Chamber36]

I can talk to strangers, I don't get nervous or anything - Mostly I want to approach but I don't know how. Maybe it's a fear of rejection, I also don't want to seem overly horny too early.

If I want to approach I usually do it indirectly. I have a fear of being direct, basically, unless I already have the positive feedback from a chick that I can be direct. Some girls make me want to be direct from the start, I just haven't been in that vibe for a while. I have seen those types of girls, but they haven't been that receptive to me that I am willing to be open.

 

[Packers2010]

welcome to the club bro. we meet on thursdays.

what i have learnt over the past 7 months is this. you have to get your LIFE sorted before you can get the girl.

talking to women is just like poker. you have to put IN the work to get results the results don't come within logging 100k hands in poker.

so tell me, what's your sample size? how many girls have you talk to toal?

if it's less then 100 then that's your problem.

i've been going out hard 2 nights a week for the past 7 months. if we assume i have talked to 5 girls a night ( on the reserve side / I ddi have chode nights) then we can do the math.

how many weeks is it? 7 months times 4 week in a month = 28 weeks
28 weeks time the number of girls i am approaching is 5 * 28 = 280

so i have talk to ~ 280 girls give or take.

the difference between a PUAM and a chode is only 1000 approaches. so get out there man!


( note: the math is only a number for me and i don't really care for it, though it dose make me feel better to know that i am still at the smaller end of my journey and that i have to approach more, which is a good lesson for me.)

 

[Chamber36]

sadly I fvcked a ***** to ease my pain. This morning saw a girl I knew and got a number-close. Then afterwards I cleaned the entire house with my roommate, and worked out my arms. Now I feel a lot better.

I figure the best thing I can do to combat my frustration is to put myself out on the market. I know it seems obvious but it's important to feel sexual when walking around daily. Hard to do when u don't meet tons of women. I will have to change that.

It's weird because I feel like I know all the plays and all the techniques to be around women, I just am not implementing them in a way so that I can "score" easily. I'm quite confused at the moment as you guys can tell, so I will try to improve my situation and try to calm my mind and stay sexual.

 

[JoeMarron]

There's only three ways to fix your problem. Get some from a prostitute which it seems you've already done, get some online, or get some in real life. Two out of three of those choices is not ideal. You're either gonna have to get over your fear of approaching or settle for the less ideal choice. Lorenzo summed up what you need to do pretty well. The only way youre gonna get over your fear of being direct is to do it

 

[JohnChops]

sadly I fvcked a ***** to ease my pain. This morning saw a girl I knew and got a number-close. Then afterwards I cleaned the entire house with my roommate, and worked out my arms. Now I feel a lot better.

I figure the best thing I can do to combat my frustration is to put myself out on the market. I know it seems obvious but it's important to feel sexual when walking around daily. Hard to do when u don't meet tons of women. I will have to change that.

It's weird because I feel like I know all the plays and all the techniques to be around women, I just am not implementing them in a way so that I can "score" easily. I'm quite confused at the moment as you guys can tell, so I will try to improve my situation and try to calm my mind and stay sexual.

I started laughing when he said "I worked out my arms" HAHAAHAH Nice "bro pump". If you need to be all pumped up to talk to a woman then you sir have confidence issues, deeply rooted. Dig deep inside yourself and find out what those issues are.

 

[Epimanes]

Of course your not getting any *****. Why? You focus on it. Women you talk to sense your desperation. Have you read the kill your desperation thread by pook? Go read it. Its in the dj bible.

You should instead be focused on fun... And not the outcome of banging *****. Banging ***** will come naturally once you don't eminate desperation when talking to a chick. That's like staring at her breasts the entire time you talk to her and telling her that she has beautiful eyes. Stop having an agenda and make things fun and light. She already knows you want it you just gotta stop acting like you do. Escelate as it happens and don't be so ***** focused.

All good things *** in good time. Lol

 

[casaanova]

"If you want what most people don't have, you have to be willing to do what most people won't do"

 

[corrector]

sadly I fvcked a ***** to ease my pain. This morning saw a girl I knew and got a number-close. Then afterwards I cleaned the entire house with my roommate, and worked out my arms. Now I feel a lot better.

Now that you've done that there is only up to go from here on, you've already got a number close and are motivated to improve yourself so you can attract women. This is the right direction. Because you bagged a ho you should be less desperate.

It's weird because I feel like I know all the plays and all the techniques to be around women, I just am not implementing them in a way so that I can "score" easily. I'm quite confused at the moment as you guys can tell, so I will try to improve my situation and try to calm my mind and stay sexual.

You seem to know what you are doing. Keep trying. Don't use another ho again for at least another three months after trying hard or that will start spoiling you. Just use it as a last resort if you really can't get laid within that time. Add another three months if you think you could have tried harder.

 

[VikingKing]

I read some where once, that if a man isn't getting laid its because he doesnt feel he deserves it. maybe your depressed. just keep in mind this is just a phase, you will get past it. Try not to worry about it to much, the fact that you worry fear will only prolong it. quit beating yourself up about it.

 

[corrector]

I would like to apologize to Chamber36 for suggesting that he use a ho in an earlier post. I was projecting my own issues on this thread or how I would see things if I felt fornication was okay. But it's not okay in my value system since I believe you have to get married first. I'm still a virgin waiting to get married and wouldn't use a ho to spite my future wife which God has for me, or to spite the "temple of God (i.e. which 1 Cor 6 would refer to as my body)".

I didn't really mean that advice and was surprised if I influenced or had anything to do with that decision.

Must be careful what I post for advice since it may actually get read by an impressionable mind.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I read some where once, that if a man isn't getting laid its because he doesnt feel he deserves it.

I agree. And I think that concept applies to a lot of other things that we think we want out of life.

I also agree with Epimanes. Trying too hard and desperation are both chick repellants.

If you're just trying to get laid, it would help to be able to spot girls who are easy at the moment. They might be lonely, bored, vulnerable, or simply just like you for some reason you don't need to understand.

 

[Chamber36]

Thanks for all the replies and the insight guys. Sometimes I cannot see why I do certain things. Especially Noobolgy´s post is quite insightful to me.

I ran into a chick that I know, that I can be 100% sexual with, and she actually asked me for my number. Before I said goodbye I touched her ass and gave her a kiss.

I dunno when I´m gonna call her but I guess it will be soon. See if she wants to hang out randomly on a day that I´m bored or so.

Tonight I don´t wanna go chase her down in the city. Maybe it´s because of what noobolgy said, but I did already go out last night, and earlier today, where I encountered her.

 

[synergy1]

Fvuck the wingman and go it ALONE. Just get out there and introduce your AZZ off to women until you arrive at one who says "yes."

ha I am hoping a wingman or two come out tonight but its looking like everyone wants to be all sad and sit around. That said, the prospect of going at it alone for a guy who is as ballsy as it gets for approaching is quite daunting.

If you introduce yourself to women, you have to be in the right mindset. being in that heightened mood helps with everything. Charisma is how you project that mood and women eat that **** up ( especially if you look good). However if you are approaching to approach and are sullen and project negativity, they also will pick up on that and it doesn't matter how many approaches you do they will all be in vain.