im losing it.......

[hb]

I was just sitting here wondering, "why me"? why the **** did i have to look for this site and why the **** am i still here? why cant i be better then the next guy? am i going to spend the rest of my life asking myself these questions? I got more then just girl problems. Why is it that i dont have any boys that i always chill with and consider then my real boys? I got friends but how come i dont got real friends? U guys tell me to think positive. How the **** am i supposed to think positive when i feel theres nothing positive going on in my life. How come there are people out there who dont have to worry about all of this and WE ARE THE ONES STUCK ON THIS SITE. What the ****s the difference between us and the next guy, we both got a d!ck and balls. So why are things the way they are?????







no point to this post, just gotta get **** off my chest

 

[-Zero_h0uR-]

I'm not stuck on this site...

And I'm sure I'm speaking for quite a few others here.

I have taken what I learned here and put it to use.


You're putting way too much pressure on yourself. What you need to do is set small goals, and accomplish each one until eventually you reach the point where you want to be.

I didn't use this site to hunt down girls and become a ladies man, I used this site to better myself first. The knowledge about women, to me, was a bonus.

Now I'm playing the game fairly well.


So start small. Set a goal for today to do one thing that you want to do, or you think you should do. Continue setting goals and building up where you want to be as compared to where you are now.

Good luck.


-- Zero-

 

[rgeere]

I've felt like this before. Well, the truth is that this is just the way the world treats people. It's not fair, and that could very well be the intention. You look back at all of your mistakes, all of your failures, all of the times when you could have been happy and you wern't. Quit thinking about it that way. Look back at all of your successes and remember you failures as learning experiences. The last thing you want to do is keep yourself from enjoying life to the fullest just because you might remember the way things were in the past. Instead focus on continually improving yourself and start telling yourself you are worth something, because you really are and you know it.

 

[Mizer]

I agree with Zero. Also, you have to make things happen for yourself outside of dating before you can even start to be successful with it or appreciate it.

Work out so you can feel good about your physical self.

Are you striving for your career goals?


Are you attending a lot of social events to meet new people?

This is just the tip of the iceberg but I think you get my drift.

When it cmoes to dating, I have always wanted to master it. ...dominate it. That is how I came upon this site (I feel it is very helpful) but I don't think that would be possible if I wasn't very out-going and and content with my life outside of dating. Good Luck, Man , and keep at it! What else will you do, not keep at it and feel like crap?


Mizer

 

[PEPE LE PIU]

How the **** am i supposed to think positive when i feel theres nothing positive going on in my life

I think that that is your problem. I have read somewhere (don't remember where) that you must be extremely special to screw everything up in your life, by chance or by choice. So, there must be something there that goes well for you. I don't mean women. I mean anything else beside women, school, work, any skill, money... you name it. So you can start from there for that starting spark to feel good about yourself. And then you can build from there.

 

[Bungo Pony]

How the **** am i supposed to think positive when i feel theres nothing positive going on in my life.

Nothing in life can be completely positive. Things or situations both have positive and negative aspects to them. However, if you allow yourself to focus on the negative aspects, you'll allow yourself to become a whiny, depressed AFC. Here's some examples:

Your Dog Dies
Negative: Loss of family pet, companion.
Positive: Save money on Dog food, no more stepping in Dog 5hit.

Your Girlfriend Dumps You
Negative: No sex, broken heart
Positive: Save money, freedom to fvck anyone, more free time

Being on Sosuave.com
Negative: Difficulty falling in love, loss of AFC friends
Positive: You get laid, you gain confidence, you have self-control

The mind is truly amazing, you have the ability to realize what you don't like about yourself, and work on changing them. It's a lot of hard work, but it can be done. It's done through convincing yourself. If you repeat something to yourself long enough, you will believe it. This is the way self-improvement works.

I was just sitting here wondering, "why me"? why the **** did i have to look for this site and why the **** am i still here? why cant i be better then the next guy?

You're only better than the next guy if you believe you are. I consider myself the best person in my world. This makes me incredibly happy with who I am.

no point to this post, just gotta get **** off my chest

It's kinda funny how you bytch and complain about yourself, then you lie by typing the above. You're afraid of getting in 5hit by us, and you're making a poor attempt at incorporating damage control into your post.

Grow up and take the advice on here like a man, even if it's not what you want to hear. Accept what life is going to throw at you because of who you are, or who you've become. When you make changes to yourself, you're life is going to change with it. You need to adapt to it, or else you're never going to make it anywhere. You'll keep finding yourself running in circles, going from DJ to AFC back to DJ etc etc.

If you're going to take the DJ plunge, expect changes.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

Negative: Difficulty falling in love, loss of AFC friends

Man, you said it.

I can't fall in love with a girl, anymore. I get to a certain point, then it seems like all the girls want to choke me, and mold me and I can't live my life the way I want. They tend to get in the way, and I get annoyed.

This is happening, right now. My girlfriend wants to spend way too much time with me, and I've got a career to tend to......getting steamed.

She acts like a little girl. It's really bizzare. She wants to be hugged and cuddled 24/7...It's freakin' me out!!!!!

 

[es_mer8]

Boo hoo...its really up to you if you want to remain on this site or not. This site to me is good as its helping me out with women and it makes for some interesting reads. Sometimes I'm online here when I'm downloading music and its too boring to see how the file is downloading and thats it.

How the **** am i supposed to think positive when i feel theres nothing positive going on in my life

It seems to me that you're always looking at the negative side of things. To me that shows insecurity and just being childish. Look, some of life's best opportunities will not fall on your lap. Hell, 99% will not. Look at the Fortune 500 list and read up on the execs of those corporations. Often times they started up from nearly nothing and through aggression and hard work, made billions. Bill Gates was a college dropout and at one time he was worth nearly $75 billion and ran a corporation worth over $300 billion. I doubt he ever looked at the negative side of things.

Why is it that i dont have any boys that i always chill with and consider then my real boys?

I don't have any "real boys" and I'm still alive. I don't like the idea of having an exclusive group. I'd rather be friends with a lot of people than having a few good friends. Why? Some people may be looking at things in a different light than you. I know of a 5 friends that are in a tight knit group. One is going to college with me, another is going to the Marines, two are going to a small college, and one is already working for a living. Right now, they're almost literally scared of moving on. Thats not how I want to be. You don't need 'real boys'.

How come there are people out there who dont have to worry about all of this

Do you seriously think that? Very few people in their late teens/early 20s (which I'm assuming that you are) know what they're doing in life. They're confused. I often get compliments from a lot of my friends as well as girls about how sure I am of what I want. The more I hear it, the more I realize that I am sure of my life more than others. If you think a lot of men are DJs, you're terribly wrong. If you see an average guy going out with a hot girl, how do you know that he isn't p***y whipped and she is bouncing on some other dude's d**k from a bodybuilder that goes to the same gym as she does? I'm serious on this guesstimate that 0.001% of men in the world can be considered DJs. The rest are AFC men that often settle into marriages or go out with women that are equally as confused as the man if not more.

What the ****s the difference between us and the next guy, we both got a d!ck and balls

The difference is that a DJ has the right mentality to be a healthy person in general. He doesn't let insults from women or other men phase him, he works out and is physically fit, he is well groomed, he is confident in himself, and he is not afraid to approach a pretty face just because thousands of AFCs look at the same girl but piss their pants at the idea of going up to the woman and talking to her. Simply put, there is a massive difference. Sure, we all got d**ks and balls but women all got boobs and p***ies as well. So thats some food for thought. We go after the best or the better of the women and many women do the same.

 

[hb]

thanks alottt guys that stuff reallyyyyyy helped. i understand that b*tchin aint gonna solve nothing and not everything in my life is negative, though at times it feels like everything is.

 

[es_mer8]

Life is what you make of it. Its clichéd, sounds boring and uninspired but its true. If you look at everything in a negative light, the odds are you're going to find more negative things that will affect your life. If you think that you'll never lay HBs, you're not going to. Your mind is probably the biggest barrier of everything in life.

 

[gr8one]

www.ksexradio.com

It'll cheer you up dude....


I'm Hungry.

 

[trajhenkhet]

Its not whether or not you have a problem, but rather how you deal with it. You will find that as a DJ, you will have new problems, while other problems dissapear...

 

[Ofus]

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[CLOONEY]

Bad ass Canadian, hahahahhaahahaha, your signature is the funnies sh!t i've ever seen, hahahaahahhahahhaa

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Also I know what you are talking about dude, my girlfriend, well X girlfriend was JUST LIKE THAT!!!!!!!!!! Always wanting to hug and kiss. And then when you dont want to they start bi*ching, I think it is just because they are insecure and see this as you loving them.