Call_Me_Daddy
Master Don Juan
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Original Post:
Hi Everyone,
I am at a bit of a crossroads with my wife. On the one hand, she says she needs to go on a diet. On the other hand, everytime I look up she is devouring a pizza, cheese burgers, ice cream, doughnuts, and TONS of Coke and Dr. Pepper. She is not working and watches TV all day.
As an FA I am pleased with the results. In the last 2 years she has probably gained close to 100 lbs.. I am also someone who believes that we make our own choices in life. If she wants to lose weight or stop gaining she needs to take action. It seems however, that she enjoys eating and watching TV all day more than diet and exercise.
Currently her health is good, but she is feeling down because she is growing out of all her clothes and can't find anything to wear at even the plus size shops. Yet one of the things that attracted her to me was that I have always enjoyed her weightgain. Before meeting me, she swore she would never date a man who did not like larger women because she was done with diets.
Should I try to encourage her to exercise and eat right, or should I leave her to her own devices? We can barely go to movies because she can't fit in the seats. At restuarants, boothes are out of the question because her belly is so big. So her weight is interfering with some things she likes.
What do you think I should do?
Relply 1:
I don't see this as being such a big dillemma. Clearly, she enjoys her current lifestyle, so I would leave her to it. If she doesn't make any effort to lose weight and instead eats in front of the tv, then it's clear that what she really wants for herself the most is to eat and relax. She knows she will gain more weight, and yet she keeps doing it. That shows me that that is what she wants. Just make sure to keep her comfortable and provide food. Women in general say a lot of things they don't mean, so a better way to gauge her meaning is to look at her actions. Here's a handy translation.
WomenSpeak: "I know I should really be losing weight, but... *grabs pizza*"
English: "I love having the freedom of living this way, but I don't want to admit to being a glutton, so I'll call it something else."
Unless she approaches you for a one-on-one discussion about how concerned she is about her health and then lays out a plan for losing weight, I would just ignore her casual weight loss comments and keep pampering her.
Reply 2:
keep the snacks close. keep her on the couch. Offer to "treat" to larger clothes beyond size 32 via catalogs. Reward gains with attention. Life isn't forever and there are many ways to enjoy the ride.
And more!
Where did I find this?
HERE: http://fantasyfeeder.com/cms/forum/index.php
I just can't stop laughing, its so addictive. :yes:
Hi Everyone,
I am at a bit of a crossroads with my wife. On the one hand, she says she needs to go on a diet. On the other hand, everytime I look up she is devouring a pizza, cheese burgers, ice cream, doughnuts, and TONS of Coke and Dr. Pepper. She is not working and watches TV all day.
As an FA I am pleased with the results. In the last 2 years she has probably gained close to 100 lbs.. I am also someone who believes that we make our own choices in life. If she wants to lose weight or stop gaining she needs to take action. It seems however, that she enjoys eating and watching TV all day more than diet and exercise.
Currently her health is good, but she is feeling down because she is growing out of all her clothes and can't find anything to wear at even the plus size shops. Yet one of the things that attracted her to me was that I have always enjoyed her weightgain. Before meeting me, she swore she would never date a man who did not like larger women because she was done with diets.
Should I try to encourage her to exercise and eat right, or should I leave her to her own devices? We can barely go to movies because she can't fit in the seats. At restuarants, boothes are out of the question because her belly is so big. So her weight is interfering with some things she likes.
What do you think I should do?
Relply 1:
I don't see this as being such a big dillemma. Clearly, she enjoys her current lifestyle, so I would leave her to it. If she doesn't make any effort to lose weight and instead eats in front of the tv, then it's clear that what she really wants for herself the most is to eat and relax. She knows she will gain more weight, and yet she keeps doing it. That shows me that that is what she wants. Just make sure to keep her comfortable and provide food. Women in general say a lot of things they don't mean, so a better way to gauge her meaning is to look at her actions. Here's a handy translation.
WomenSpeak: "I know I should really be losing weight, but... *grabs pizza*"
English: "I love having the freedom of living this way, but I don't want to admit to being a glutton, so I'll call it something else."
Unless she approaches you for a one-on-one discussion about how concerned she is about her health and then lays out a plan for losing weight, I would just ignore her casual weight loss comments and keep pampering her.
Reply 2:
keep the snacks close. keep her on the couch. Offer to "treat" to larger clothes beyond size 32 via catalogs. Reward gains with attention. Life isn't forever and there are many ways to enjoy the ride.
And more!
Where did I find this?
HERE: http://fantasyfeeder.com/cms/forum/index.php
I just can't stop laughing, its so addictive. :yes:
